Post # 1
I am recently engaged and have a few questions about what is normal in terms of who to invite to the shower.
I am told since I will only be having one shower that pretty much all of the women invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower.
My sister and friend are hosting it in Cleveland, where my family, fiance and I live. My fiance’s fam is from Pittsburgh, and I know a FEW of his relatives are coming, but should I anticipate his aunts to come and should I invite them all?
Also-I am assuming I would not invite for instance my fiance’s boss’s wife to the shower, even though she would be invited to the wedding? Or would I? I do not really know her.
Also, what about people who are coming who are single men? Obviouisly no shower invite, right?
What about his friends from college and high school who live far away? Do we invite them to the shower? I don’t really know their wives, but he is “good friends” with the guys.
Any advice is really appreciated….thanks ladies!
Post # 3
I don’t think I’d invite his bosses wife, and certainly not his single male friends. I’m not sure about his friends wives though. I probably wouldn’t invite them, but I’m not sure. I only invited my own female friends and family and a few of my mom’s friends to my shower.
Post # 4
Why is his boss invited to the wedding? Do they normally hang out after work?
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Per Emily Post (etiquette guru)-“A shower should be an intimate party—not a gathering that rivals the wedding—so the guest list is usually made up of the couple’s close friends, family, and attendants. The host usually consults the bride to be sure that shower guests are wedding guests.”
So, not every female invited to the wedding requires a shower invite. (Boss’s fiance is a no.) You could invite the aunts since they are family, but don’t expect out of towners to attend or send a gift- if they attend, it’s a lovely surprise.
Post # 6
@rebwana: This. My shower was made up of my friends and family members, some local female members of DH’s family who my MIL wanted there…and that was pretty much it. If you are having a traditional shower with prettu much just girls, I wouldn’t invite the wives of your FI’s friends, I think that would be kinda awkward if you never hang out with them one on one. And DEFINITELY don’t invite his boss’s wife, that would seem like a gift grab to me.
Post # 7
I think you should invite the Pittsburgh aunts. It’s not that far of a drive and hopefully they would like to come. If you want to, host the shower somewhere on the east side so it’s a bit closer if they want to make it.
I don’t think you need to invite every woman, just the ones that are close to you or your FH.