Post # 1
We’re inviting my entire family (which amounts to about 14 people) since they’re very close-knit, and from FH’s side, his stepdad and mom, dad and stepmom, plus his two half-brothers, his stepbrother and his wife and daughter. We’re also inviting the three girls who were going to be in our wedding and a plus-one for each of them. That’s a lot of people for just a courthouse ceremony.
I’m wondering how we should narrow it. I’m thinking two of my aunts and my grandma, if she’ll come, as well as FH’s family since they’re traveling in from OOT. But at the same time, that excludes some of my relatives who are coming in from out of town as well.
We’d invite everyone to the dinner afterward, but I don’t want a ton of people in the room with us.
What would you do? Who would you invite to the ceremony? And for those not invited to the ceremony, do we only list the dinner location and time on the invitation?
Post # 3
I just wanted to add that the room probably isn’t huge, so all 30 would be a tight squeeze…
Post # 4
Because of the nature of your wedding (wedding now, larger reception next year), I think you should include everyone who is going for supper with you. If you put 30 people in seats it doesn’t look like a lot of people.
Post # 5
@NYE Gal: That’s true. It makes for a less awkward arrangement as well…I’ll have FH ask how many people can fit in the room.
Post # 6
I’d either invite everyone, or only invite your parents and witnesses. My concern would be hurting people’s feelings so it’s a tough call.
We’re getting married by a JP before the actual ceremony and it’s only going to be us and our 2 witnesses so that people don’t get their panties all in a knot about it!
Post # 7
I agree. I’d be very hesitant to include his side of the family and exclude your relatives. If the room can accommodate, 30 people is not too many.
Post # 8
I think this is one of those situations where it is all or nothing. Meaning invite everyone and make it work, or invite the bare bones such as you, FH, and parents of both sides. No friends, dates, or other family members.
Then have them all at the dinner. Because people will have missed it you may ask a close friend to give you two a blessing/prayer as sort of a “mini ceremony” for the rest of the people.
Post # 9
Yeah, it is sort of an all-or-nothing deal, now that I think about it. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that the room will be big enough!