- 2 weeks ago
Settle a discussion me and my partner are having about who to invite to our wedding.
Normally if I was having a wedding, I would invite no one or very few people from work. However we met at work, and still both work there. I have worked there for 10 years and him 6 years. With that in mind, we decided to invite colleagues. Also note that the venue has a minimum spend which we are only just meeting. So it will cost the same if we have an extra 10- 15 people.
But we are not sure who to invite.
We have a team of around 20 people. They can be broadly divided in to these groups.
1. People we have worked with for many years and who enjoy socialising.
2. People who we have worked with for many years, and we like, but who are older and rarely attend work social things
3. People who we like but have only worked with for a year or two, but who like socialising and would probably enjoy an event like this
4. People we are not close too
I say we should invite groups 1 and 3. However FI wants to invite group 2 as well, out of respect. Although I like them, I believe they wouldnt enjoy the day and an invite would be an annoyance to them. FI says they can just decline, and that’s true, but as I see it that’s still an extra annoyance to them or they may feel obligated to come. He thinks they would be offended if they hear we have invited a new staff member over them, who we have known for 10 years.
FI also feels that if we invite groups 1, 2 and 3, we should also invite group 4 since everyone else would be invited. I’m not sure about this, it seems weird. But I guess I can see his point, and there’s no one we hate. There’s no way they can all come anyway as our work is open 24 hours a day, at least 6 have to work that day. FI says just invite them all, let them sort it out if they want to come.
Yes I know this is ridiculous and I’m way over thinking it. What’s wrong with me? What should we do? Help.