Who to invite (work friends)

posted 4 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Helper bee

pancakes11 :  I’d invite group 1, 2 , and 3. I hope I’m getting it right lol I’d invite the older ones out of respect. I have a dear friend, who’s my former co-worker, a much older lady, but I think she’d be crushed not to be invited. So I’ll probably end up inviting her (I’ll see how I feel in the years to come when it happens though). I’d only invite the list of ppl who you’ve worked with for a short time if you’re close with them, other wise I wouldn’t. Definitely to the 1st group..

Wanted to add my former co-worker (older lady) attends many events and functions. She doesn’t always attend drinking events because she’s in recovery, but still attend my wedding. I’m sure they’ll decline if they feel inconvenienced

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’d invite groups 1-4.. considering you are working there for many years…better to keep the peace and not make your work life feel awkward…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Since you know six have to work and have room for up to 15 more people, I’d just invite them all to make it easy and avoid having certain people feel left out.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

pancakes11 :  Define “socializing”. Do you mean people who attend work social events together? If so, I wouldn’t invite any of them.

I would invite those colleagues with whom I had a social relationship outside work related or organized activities- people you see on your own, or as a couple with FI.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

pancakes11 :  Yes lol How many people are in the group of ppl you’ve known acouple years and how many ppl are in group 4?

I wanted to add to consider leaving both those groups out so you’re not just leaving out the group 4. Keep it at the other 2 groups. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

pancakes11 :  it’s hard because you don’t want to offend anyone. If you leave out those 2 groups then it’s like you’re inviting 50% of your coworkers. I can’t imagine the newer ppl would “expect” an invite to the wedding. For me I’d either invite all groups to “keep the peace” or only invite the other 2 groups. When ever I think about planning a wedding it’s hard for me to imagine inviting random ppl I’m not even close to. Spouses, SOs, etc yes of course, maybe even plus 1 for single guests, yes to plus 1s for bridal party, etc but Co workers you’re not close to? Eh

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If you have the capacity, I might just invite them all. Don’t not invite the older ones just because you think they won’t want to come. You don’t know that! Let them decide that for themselves. I can see older people feeling out of place at a younger person’s birthday or BBQ, but weddings are usually good for various age groups. Anyway, they can decline if they want. And then if you’re inviting groups 1-3 and there’s only another 3 people in group 4… it wouldn’t take much to just include everyone.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

In all honesty, I would invite only those coworkers whom you socialise with outside of work and/or perhaps your boss/manager. I wouldn’t base it on who enjoys socialising and who doesn’t – who do you see regularly outside of work and enjoy spending time with? If this means 5 people from group 1, none from group 2 and 2 from group 3 then this is who I would invite.

I work in a very small office – besides me there is my boss, one other full timer and a part timer (who is also married to my boss). Being such a small workplace, we do socialise a lot and enjoy catching up outside of work hours. My boss and the part timer (his wife) were invited to my wedding, as were the other full timer and his new wife (we had also recently attended their wedding). DH, on the other hand, works in a larger company he had only been with about 6 months prior to our wedding. He doesn’t socialise with any coworkers outside of work and didn’t plan to invite any of them, but changed his mind when invites went out to include his direct manager and his wife. And this was partially because the manager knew DH’s dad really well and recommended DH for the job.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

My normal advice is only those who you socialize with outside of work. But here it seems that it’s inevitable that it will be awkward to invite only some, I say include them all and those that want to will come those that don’t won’t. Just don’t make a huge deal about it so no one feels obligated. Have fun! Congrats! 

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