Post # 1
So, I’m trying to figure out how to make it clear to my FI’s niece who is 22 that her boyfriend is NOT invited to the wedding. #1 – I can’t stand him and #2 – they have to do some serious "PDA"ing whenever we are around them, even at family functions.
We are really only giving "and guest" invitations to those in the wedding party.
I know that I can just put her name on the invitation but, I seriously doubt she will get the hint that only the people on the invitation are invited — NOT whoever she wants to bring.
I know she thinks we are going to invite him but we aren’t. How do I make it clear without looking like a B**ch?
Post # 3
Inviting who you want to your wedding is completely your choice. Is your fiance in agreement with this? If so, have him talk to his aunt and tell her that "because of X, we cannot have +1s at our wedding. I hope niece will understand." This way it is clear. She may still be mad and may not come. Or she may end up bringing him anyways. At that point, you probably will be in marriage bliss and something like that shouldn’t bother you.
Post # 4
When she RSVPs, she will probably just add her bf on. At that point, you can just politely say "we’re so sorry but due to capacity constraints, we are unable to invite your bf to the wedding."
If you are close to the niece’s parents, can you have them hint to her or talk to her about it too?
Post # 5
If you aren’t extended plus ones to other family members not in the wedding party, then explaining that to her may be the best way to go. You could talk to your FI’s sibling, but the girl is 22, she is mature enough to understand this sort of thing… or at least I’d hope so!
Post # 6
OH, yes. My FI and his mother both agree that his niece should not have her boyfriend invited as well. I have addressed it by telling my FI’s mother that I wasn’t inviting him to the wedding and due to that, he shouldn’t be invited to the rehearsal dinner. She agreed and said she wasn’t planning to have him come to either. She doesn’t like him either and it is her granddaughter’s boyfriend! No one seems to have the guts (my FI or his mother) to tell his sister or his niece that the boyfriend isn’t invited. I know this is a dumb thing but I’m just thinking of the extra costs because I think the niece thinks this is going to be her opportunity to get wasted and bringing her boyfriend will only add to that tab.