Who to list first Bride or Groom? (HELP PLEASE)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Traditionally the bride is listed first.  I don’t know why, but I would be a little put off if the groom was first.  I guess because it’s not the normal way of doing things, if I were a guest I would be curious as to why you chose to put him first.  For the wedding website, it seems fine to just have his name.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

For our website, we just used his last name and ‘s’.  So it’s http://www.weddingwebsite/smiths – we are not the Smiths, but you get the idea!  🙂 

It was the only thing even close without adding 439275209384 numbers or getting cutesy as he has a relatively common last name.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

double post!!!  second time today 🙁  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@nattiejeanne:  I think for something like this, just using his last name would probably be fine if that’s what you wanted to do. Traditionally the bride is listed first on things like invitations, monograms, etc. But For a wedding website? I think it’s fine.

ETA: Sorry, I read your post wrong. I think if you’re talking about invitations, you should list your name first. If I got an invitation with the grooms name listed first, I would think it’s weird. But then again, I’m pretty traditional. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@nattiejeanne:  The template I am probably using for our invitations lists the groom’s name first.  I say, do whatever you want.  I can’t imagine anyone caring.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you plan on using one last name for your wedding website, you typically use just his (espeically if you plan on using his name after)

For almost everything that lists both of you, you will be listed first.  I don’t know why, but it seems to just be the way it is. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Like PPs said, the bride is traditionally listed first.

We used both of our names on our site. I took his name but it’s very common so I wanted to website to very obviously be our site. I also wanted people to be able to search it without knowing his last name just in case they lost their invite.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think the invitation order is up to you. I always see the bride first as a courtesy/tradition I guess but it doesn’t matter. I made our invites and I totally put myself first haha. 

For the website url name I think just his last name is fine if it doesn’t work otherwise but I think the homepage should say details for both your names so people who exactly who is getting married. So maybe the website is http://www.weddingdetails.com/smith but then the page says “welcome to the smith/jones wedding website!” You’re not married yet, so to me it’s strange to not have your last name on there too. It’s the joining of your families’ names into a new family, which will then have his last name (I assume you’re changing yours). 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@nattiejeanne:  Do whatever you want – I know from your other posts you don’t care much for tradition so why start now?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I think putting his name first is no big deal.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Kimberley25:  haha, I’m being honest, not trying to be catty! It’s just strange for someone to make huge statements about how tradition/what everyone else does/thinks doesn’t matter, and then ask for advice about it.

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