(Closed) Who to pick as bridesmaids!!??

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Which bridesmaids should I choose?
    Cousin : (9 votes)
    43 %
    soon to be Sister-in-Law : (8 votes)
    38 %
    Flakey college friend : (2 votes)
    10 %
    old friend - no contact atm : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    3141 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Choose people who will be there for you and not add stress to your wedding planning. People that you can count on. People that you trust. Be clear about what your expectations are if they choose to accept the role. We had a LOT of issues with our Bridal party including losing the both the best man and the best mate and one Bridesmaid or Best Man. It was extremely stressful to the point where I wished we didn’t have a Bridal party or that we eloped. IF everyone is flaky or not involved in your life now, that is how it may be at your wedding or any events in attachment to your wedding

    Post # 4
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I ended up going with all family (besides my MOH). It just makes sense, and those really will be the people who are still in your life years down the road. Plus, maybe this can help stregthen your relationship with your cousin and FSIL? I know you said your cousin is young, but I have 3 girls in my wedding under 21 and to be honest – they’ve been the most excited and helpful out of all my girls.

    Post # 5
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Can you forgo a wedding party? We have plenty of friends and family who are dear to us, but I’m just anti-wedding party.

    Post # 6
    13 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think it might be a good opportunity for you to develop your relationship with Future Sister-In-Law and cousin. I would always pick family before I chose a friend unless it was a REALLY good friend that I knew I could count on no matter what. I don’t think worrying about a flaky friend is worth the added stress. 

    And remember, you don’t HAVE to pick anyone. You don’t have to pick someone just because you feel like you should have a certain number of bridesmaids. You don’t have a bridal party at all!

    Post # 7
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Be careful with family and make sure that they are interested in actually being a part of the wedding. Sometimes a Future Sister-In-Law or cousin will feel obligated to say yes, or you feel obligated to includ them, and it leads to drama because they aren’t really as involved as they should be/ as you want them to be, or they feel that you are asking more than they signed up for.

    Post # 8
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Lonicera:  this looks like it;s older and bumped up, but I”m curious what you endedu p deciding?

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