Who to pick for bridesmaids??

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@sweettealove:  How many girls are in this group of new friends?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

How many total guests do you anticipate inviting?

The fewer members of the wedding party you have, the less it will cost you (and them) and you will have less drama.

Could you select one from each of the groups to sort of represent that social group?  Or, don’t choose anyone from either group to avoid hurt feelings.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sweettealove:  You don’t have to have even sides!!!  You should pick whoever you want, and he should pick whoever he wants.  The guys can stand at the altar and your cousins can walk in together (or individually) then you can alternate GM/BM/GM/BM/GM for the recessional.  Don’t include people for the sake of evenness… it will end up inviting drama.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@sweettealove:  I understand your predicament.  I also moved thousands of miles from my home/college state.  My options were to just have family members in our bridal party (my sister, his sister as BMs; his 2 brothers as GM) or to go BIG.  We went BIG.  I have my sister, cousin, two of my close girlfriends from middle/highschool & college, my future SIL and 3 girlfriends I became very close with in my new state.  They are the people I want with me at my bridal shower, getting ready, etc.  

Don’t forget to consider the cost of bouquets for each BM, gifts, etc. That will cost more than you may anticipate!  Also, remember that the girls should be understanding of whatever decision you make.  Just because they are not in your bridal party does not mean they can’t attend your shower and bachelorette party, or be a special part of your big day.

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

1. You can have uneven bridal parties. Don’t choose people for the sake of numbers.

2. Your brother can stand with you (not your FI).

3. You can skip having a bridal party all together and save yourself a lot of headaches.

4. You can have a ginormous party with your best friends from all points in time.

Basically, you have tons of options that you can consider. Whatever you do, think VERY carefully about your decisions ahead of time and don’t be hasty. Bridesmaid drama is one of the most recurring themes we see around here. People choose maids to try and save dying friendships and it blows up in their face. People choose maids to try and appease the in-laws and it blows up in their face. People choose unorganized maids and then expect them to miraculously become super organized, party-planning, DIY producing divas… and it blows up in their face. It can go all sorts of wrong, so be smart about it.

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