Post # 1
Any advice would be helpful. I had been planning to seat my bridesmaids and my FH’s groomsmen AND their dates at the table with the two of us at our reception. My sister told me that I can’t and that only the attendants sit at the head table with the couple, but I don’t want their dates to feel like they got shuffled off into a corner. What did you do/are you doing with the attwendant’s dates at the reception?
Post # 3
We would have put our attendant’s dates at our head table IF we had enough room. As it was, we only had room for me, DH, and our 6 attendants each. We put their dates with people they’d know at like, table #3–we all went to college together so it wasn’t a big deal. Everybody knew each other. Another wedding i was at, only the bride, groom, best man, maid of honor, and their dates sat at the head table…I happened to be the best man’s wife and I was actually in the wedding, but the maid of honor’s SO wasn’t, and then she sat the other attendants and their dates at nearby tables b/c she didn’t want to split them up.
There are no rules–put them at the head table if there’s room, or don’t. There’s no hard and fast rule and I certainly don’t think it has to be “just” the attendants b/c i’ve certainly seen the dates sit with them many other times.
Post # 4
I agree with ejs4y8, I don’t think there are any hard and fast rules. If there is room I think that is really nice of you. I’ve been to a few weddings where my FI was in the wedding and I wasn’t and honestly I hardly talked to him during the whole wedding! It would have been nice to at least eat dinner with him! Good idea!
Post # 5
We’re having ‘key’ attendants and their dates at our table — but we’re sitting at a round table, with each of our sets of parents hosting a table on either side of us. Plus, our wedding party is quite small so it’s doable!
Post # 6
We each have 6 attendants, so all together with their dates/families we will have nearly 40 to sit at a head table. I don’t want to make dates sit alone & lots of our attendants have small children. Out venue has long rectangular tables, so we will either designate a row of these as the head table or rent a few round tables so our wedding party stands out. If we get round tables the ‘Head table” will be Me, the Fi, my parents, his parents, and our grandmothers. (I have 1, he has 2, but only one will make it to the reception)
Post # 7
If you can make it work, I think it’s very nice to include your attendant’s significant others. I personally have never had to sit apart from FI at a wedding, but I was recently a guest at a wedding where two of the groomsmen’s wives were at our table and they were both kind of bummed that they didn’t get to at least eat dinner with their husbands. I don’t think there’s really any “rules” about how to go about it though 🙂
Post # 8
We had a huge bridal party, and I also didn’t want to separate them from their dates.
Our head table was me, my husband, our 4 siblings and their dates. My parents sat with my extended family (aunts, uncles) and his parents sat with his closest aunts and uncles.
Post # 9
i would let the dates sit with you guys if you can. i’m in a wedding this weekend and our dates are going to be sitting at different tables, and my fi and i are both not excited about it. he doesn’t know anybody there (other than my parents and she’s not even sitting him with them), so she’s making him sit with the other boyfriends/husbands and the vendors. uncool. we’re having our wedding party with their dates sit with us.
Post # 10
I am not seating the dates at the head table but they all do know each other and will be seated together!
Post # 11
I remember attending a wedding where my best friend’s husband was in the bridal party, and he sat at the head table, and she sat at a table with me. We still totally had a blast, and she was seated at a table with people she really liked, but I could tell she wanted to be sitting with her husband. At her wedding, she had her parents, his parents, and the honor attendants with dates sit at the head table, and it was really nice. There was one bridesmaid who was upset about not sitting at the head table, but it worked well.
Post # 12
i’m having a “head table” and sweetheart table. my FI and i will sit at the sweetheart, and there will be a table right next to us with the wedding party and their dates. That way their dates won’t feel alienated because they all don’t know each other.
Post # 13
We are doing the same thing as krissy. A sweetheart table for us and another table for the wedding party and SO, date, etc.
Post # 14
We’ve got 8 attendants, we are sitting 6 of them plus their partners with us and the remaining 2 with their dates at other tables where they know people. There wasn’t enough room at our table for everyone and my main priority was sitting people with their partners and people they would like. FH and I have had to sit apart at weddings where one was in the bridal party and we didn’t know other people, and it’s not much fun. I made an exception with my cousin’s boyfriend, I sat him with her siblings mostly bc I am annoyed he’s coming! (Long story…)