Post # 1
My father passed away when I was 12 years old. I am now 26 and will experience one of the most memorable moments of my life without him. I’m still crying just thinking about it.
I thought about walking down the aisle by myself especially since we are only having 20 people at our wedding. But the more and more I think about it, I’m just not sure I want that. I thought maybe asking my mom, but she was really emotional at my brother’s wedding, so I’m not sure how she would be able to handle it.
My predicament is that I have three great older brothers. I feel bad about just choosing one to walk me down the aisle. I love them all equally and I don’t want them to think I’m choosing favorites. I thought maybe having all three of them walk me down the aisle, but that’s just weird to imagine fitting 4 people in a tiny aisle with a very small amount of people surrounding them.
So I just don’t know what to do. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
@ellejay16: Here’s a off-beat thought… Are you close to your future FIL? Would you want him to walk you down? I think that would be a great way to show how welcoming he is of you into the family (assuming you have a good relationship with him).
Otherwise, is there any mentor in your life whom you look up to? You could ask that person.
Post # 4
You could have each brother walk you down the aisle.. have them trade off at differant points of aisle.
I’m having my mother & her husband walk me down the aisle, as I believe they deserve it more than my bio donor does.
Post # 5
You could walk in with your FI. This is actually an old Swedish tradition, symbolising that you’re both walking happily into the marriage as equals.
Post # 6
@ellejay16: I lost my dad too, just 8 months ago. I am very sorry.
My H and I walked into the ceremony together arm in arm moments after our first look. It’s tradition in Sweden to walk in together and he’s of Swedish decent. We had 2 witnesses. I like this because I didn’t want to be the focus and neither of us feel like we need to be given away. We’re entering this marriage together. Just another option!
Post # 7
@howtobeawife: My future FIL will be at our wedding, but unfortunately we do not have a very close relationship. I’m not even sure he could pick me out of a crowd if he was forced too.
I would ask my uncle as he has been a great stand in father figure to me. But I’m not sure he will even be able to make it as my cousin’s wife is due around the time of our wedding and they will have to be on the west coast to anticipate the birth.
@jenilynevette: Great idea! And I absolutely love this idea, but my fiance is very traditional and would not go for it. When I mentioned walking down the aisle by myself, he was adamant thta I have someone walk with me.
@sienna76: That is a beautiful picture! I love the idea, but my fiance is very traditional and wouldn’t go for it.
Post # 8
It’s tradition in other countries, and it would count as someone walking you down the aisle.
Who exactly does your FI suggest then? He doesn’t seem to want to budge on this but not offering any solutions at the same time.
How about your mom? You’re not considering her only because she got emotional? I’d say that was a good thing (if we’re talking crying with happiness?)!
Post # 9
@sienna76: He just suggests to pick a brother. Not helpful at all. I might go with the previous poster’s idea and have all three of them walk me down the aisle at different points.
Emotional as in crying so much that she wouldn’t be able to walk.
Post # 10
i lost my father too and am having my brother do it. i only have one so its perfect but if i were you i would definatly think about asking the oldest one, if any of them. if you really want your mom to do it, its more common than you think. my sister asked me if i wanted my mother but had always just thought of my brother. she said she has been to a few weddings where their mom did.
Post # 11
@ellejay16: I would definitely walk with your FI. My father also passed away when I was young and I have never felt like I needed to be given away. I would try to convinvce your fiance if possible. I love the idea that you would walk down the aisle together, approaching your marriage together. I always hated it when the groom just stands up there and then everyone gets up to watch the bride walk. It is a day for you both!