- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
My FI and I just moved from Florida to California (for amazing job opportunity). We got engaged during our last semesters in graduate school so we knew we would have a long egagement because we wanted to save up money for a nice wedding. So by the time we planned to get married (march/april 2014) we will have already been engaged for 2 years.
So here we are in Cali and I’m working on planning a wedding back in Florida since that is where most of our family is. We planned to do a small wedding (less than 50 people) of just immediate family, aunts, uncles, cousins, and a few friends. One night we were looking at the guest list and trying to figure out who would realistically come (sure you may invite 50 people but you expect some not to be able to make it) and we realise that it’s mostly older people, parents, aunts, uncles (cousins may be in college and can’t come). So I think, ok how silly is it if you have a small wedding to start with then half way through people start dwindling away.
Plus it adds a little more difficulty planning a wedding from across the country (not impossible). I’m normally a crafty person so I have all these DIY ideas for our wedding, but then think “am I suppose to ship my projects to my mom’s house in florida?”. Our original budget for the wedding (while still living in Florida) was pretty do-able, but now we have to add plane tickets, hotel, rental car, etc. Plus, what to do with our cat…the first and last time he went on a plane (our move to Cali) he jumped out of my arms during security and ran through a door in the airport; we almost lost him but luckily he ran into an enclosed hallway…and he had a valium before this. So while it seems silly, our cat is another thing to consider if we travel back to Florida. Which is fine if we’re going back for vacation but not with the added stress of planning a wedding.
Ultimately, all I want is a fabulous dress and marry my love (and pictures of us looking fabulous). My mom isn’t a traditionalist and doesn’t care if we don’t have a wedding. We aren’t taditionalist as it is…we weren’t planning for the typical first dance, I wasn’t going to have my dad “give me away”, we don’t have BM or GM. I mentioned to my FI, hey why don’t we just elope in California wine country?! He says, “sure”…his response to anything wedding related. So seriously why not?
Any bees start to plan a wedding then said screw it and elope? If you did elope (or plan to) did you tell anyone, invite anyone? We aren’t out any money yet, but if we do have teh wedding in florida we have to start putting some deposits out. I’m really considering the eloping idea, but I don’t want to regret anything. For some reason I really want a picture of my mom helping me get into my dress. Considering the money we would save on not having the wedding in florida I would love to have his mom and sister come out and my parents (but they are divorced and I don’t know how to deal with that drama).
Elope and invite no one? Elope and invite parents? What would you or have you done?
Does anyone know a good place to elope in California wine country?