Post # 1
So I am working out day of logistics and I am stumped on some parts. We are not having a DOC so I am going to make cute little timelines (that are of course flexible) to let everyone know what’s going on.
Our outdoor ceremony is at 6 and it should last about 30 minutes. After the ceremony we will be doing pictures. (family, wedding party, FI and I) This will take about 40 minutes. I was thinking about starting dinner at 7:30. We of course will serve beer and wine to the guests while we take pictures. Should I have a veggie, fruit, and cheese station for a cocktail hour? Or will the beer and wine suffice for 40 minutes? We have yard games and other things for guests to look at while they are waiting. Whatcha think?
THEN I don’t know the order of the reception. I have looked at previous boards but everyone has their own preference. When FI and I enter the reception do we automatically have our 1st dance before dinner or do we wait until after? When do we do the father/daughter and mother/son?
Any help is GREATLY appreciated!! What is your preferred order of the reception?
Here is a rough draft of the timeline for the wedding party on the day of. Keep in mind it isn’t set in stone and I need to change some stuff.
Post # 3
Yes to snacks for the guests. Do you really want people on an empty stomach just drinking for an hour? Give them something to snack on.
I want to do the first dance immediately upon entering, but my venue has asked that we do not as they prefer to get dinner service underway as soon as possible. So the entrance will have everyone going to their tables, and then dinner will be served, and then the formal dances. I am not sure if I’m going to just have them do it my way or not.
Post # 4
@futuremrskirkman: I would do hair and makeup earlier. Having hair and make up end at 2pm and then expecting everyone dressed by 2:30pm seems really ideal but I wonder how attainable it will be.
Also, when’s lunch?
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Definitely do the snacks. People like something to munch on while they booze.
Our timeline went ceremony, cocktail hour, entrance (we just showed back up after photos and made a little speech thanking everyone for coming), dinner, toasts, first dance, parent dance, everyone dance, cake cutting.
Post # 6
Definitely have some snacks for your guests during cocktail hour. I’d build in some buffer time into the schedule for photos. Photos have taken longer than expected at just about every wedding I’ve been to, including my own.
For the dance, I really don’t think it matters. We did ours first thing after the bridal party intros to the reception…but I think it works either way.
Post # 7
@futuremrskirkman: I LOVE the way your timeline looks. Is that a template you found somewhere? If so, please share!
Post # 8
@futuremrskirkman: Yes please share where you got that timeline template!
Post # 9
Definitely snacks! I went to a wedding once where they only served alcohol during cocktail hour, and people were tipsy and drunk by dinner. It was awkward and uncomfortable, which is why we’re not serving alcohol until dinner haha. Just punch and snacks beforehand.
First dance, I would do when you enter the reception venue. Not only is it out of the way, but then you won’t have to worry about it through dinner, or worse, have a bit too much to drink during dinner!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Me three!!! I love it! And my ceremony is likely to be at 6 as well, so I’m interested in your timeline. 😀
ETA: Also, it never even occured to me to do a first dance before dinner! Is that common?
Post # 11
Thanks for the advice! One more expense…yay. Haha
@LilRhodyGem: whoops I forgot about lunch! Haha we will probably go before hair and make-up. And I should probably get rid if “and ready” I was meaning start getting ready for the pictures at 4 🙂
I don’t even remember where I found the template inspiration for it! I just created it in word and used the one I saw online as a baseline. I can definitely send you my word document if you PM me your email address 🙂
Post # 12
Yes to snacks during cocktail hour! Always good to provide some munchies with booze.
We did our first dance immediately after intros. I liked it like that – got it out of the way.
Then we had appetizer & dinner. Then we did father daughter & mother son dance. Then opened up the dance floor for general dancing. Then cut the cake & had dessert, then more dancing. I liked the way it flowed!
Post # 13
@futuremrskirkman: Love the timeline, it’s super cute! I voted for providing apps during the cocktail hour. Even if only some of your guests eat them because it’s a shorter cocktail “hour”, having them as an option is a big plus! I also voted for having the first dance when you first come in…I feel like people are more relaxed once the first dance has taken place, so I like when the first dance comes early!
PS I think maybe the icons were accidentally switched on the cake cutting and the dancing! 🙂
Post # 14
@calisunshine3404: You are so right! I noticed that after I uploaded it. You have a good eye!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@futuremrskirkman: We set out a tray of fruit and a tray of veggies so guests weren’t drinking on an empty stomach. It cost less than $100 for trays at the local grocery store. It doesn’t seem like a long time but if you’re serving alcohol at your cocktail hour, 40 minutes to an hour (if you run late) can mean Aunt Em gets a little tipsy/mouthy rather than a nice buzz.