Post # 1
We’re starting to plan our rehearsal dinner and I’m wondering who all you guys invited. Feel free to suggest other folks I may have left off the list. (I’m assuming parents of the bride and groom are in attendance — I know that may not be the case for everyone.)
Also, how many people total were at your rehearsal dinner?
It’s such a weird thing for me to try to plan because FI’s parent’s have graciously offered to pick up the tab. So it’s tough to toe the line with wanting to plan everything and not wanting to step on their toes. Also, I have no idea what the budget is. So there’s that.
Post # 3
Have they asked you to plan anything? This is their party, so other than providing a guest list, I think you shouldn’t get involved with it. Let them do it.
Post # 4
Of the 58 people who came to our wedding, 45 of them were at the rehearsal dinner!!! Haha so many OOT family! We just had it catered at my parents’ house to keep costs down, and my parents offered to pay for it since the VAST majority of the guests were from my side of the family … but FIL would hear none of it and paid for the whole thing. Awfully nice of him, I thought 🙂
Post # 5
Ok I couldn’t answer totally acurrately but basically anyone involved in the ceremony like BM & GM (plus dates), both our parents, both sets of grandparents, and any readers, ushers, etc… and their dates as well.
No OOT guests, or family other then those involved in the ceremony.
Post # 6
We had some resistance from MIL but we wanted the RD to be small and only include bridal party and dates. I wanted to be able to spend time when those people closest to us since I knew the next day would be so busy. We ended up with about 26 and I think it was the perfect size for us.
Post # 7
We are inviting:
our brothers and sisters, their kids,
his grandmother (We each only have one left and mine cannot travel),
the bridal party, and serious partners of bridal party members (one is married, one has been dating for 1 year),
and the officiant (apparently it’s customary).
It’ll be about 40 people if everyone shows up.
Post # 8
We had around 50-60 guests total. We had a HUGE bridal party and than close close aunts/cousins/uncles came as well. The only OOT guests we invited were the really close ones. My mom was trying to guilt me into a couple others but that would of added another 10 people to our guest list! Out of 170 at the wedding I feel like this is a good number. No point in having two weddings. 🙂
Post # 9
@ItWasntMe: I totally get what you’re saying. Honestly, we haven’t talked too much about it. They told FI the things they wanted to pay for/provide and he relayed the message. There weren’t really any details.
I could easily provide a guest list with 50 names, or scale back to only immediate family, bridal party + dates to get to 30 or so. I’m just not sure who’s “normally” invited.
Post # 10
We are inviting our parents, grandparents, siblings and their partners (if applicable), bridal party and their partners (if applicable), readers and their family/partners (if applicable), and a few extreme OOT guests (i.e., guests who are from out of the country). In total, it will all add up to about 40 people.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater
We basically only invited the people who needed to attend the rehearsal. So our grandmothers, parents and siblings, our bridal party, ring bearers and singer. It totalled about 30 people. We didn’t want the invite list to get to crazy so if they weren’t a part of the rehearsal they weren’t invited. We did invited our bridal partys SO’s but only two of them attended.
Post # 12
Thank you for all of the replies! Maybe more details will help.
We’re inviting 170 to the wedding, expecting ~120 to attend. We have 10 in the bridal party (+ dates = 20 people), 4 parents, 4 grandparents. We could stop there and have 30 people (including us. We have no siblings).
However, one of my bridesmaids is my little cousin, so her “dates” will be her mom and dad, my aunt and uncle. Which is where I feel like I want to invite all of the aunts and uncles. Then I want to add all of the family that traveled from out of town… it’s snowballing. I don’t know how you guys keep your wedding list short!
Post # 13
We are inviting immediate family (brothers, sisters, parents), bridal party and their dates, grandparents, and the officiant. I don’t remember the exact number but it’s between 30 and 40
We have a whole bunch of OOT guests though so afterwards we’re hosting a welcome party drop-in type thing. We’ll have alcohol and probably snack food for that but we’re not providing dinner for those people.
Post # 14
We had so many OOT people coming, we invited everyone to the rehearsal dinner (and planned a backyard bbq as a result). We weren’t quite expecting everyone to come, we figured those in Boston wouldn’t join, but they did. Had about 20 come to wedding and not BBQ and vice versa, with 95 guests at both.
Post # 15
You might want to discuss it with them , since traditionally, RD’s were just the parents, B&G and BP members. That may be all they’re thinking will come, so its better to discuss things first if you want to include other people. Some will include Grandparents as well as Aunts & Uncles, but it totally depends on your relationship with everyone.
We had just parents and BP members with spouses, officiant,and FG and her parents. 14 people for one and 16 for the other wedding.
Post # 16
Since we had all of DH’s children/daughter-in-law/and son-in-law-to-be in our wedding, we had a large bridal party (18 counting the flower girl and ring bearer.) We invited the entire bridal party and their spouses; our parents; all of our singers, musicians, and our reader and their spouses; our officiant and his spouse. I voted 41-50 people.