(Closed) Who was invited to your rehearsal dinner?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Who was invited to your rehearsal dinner? How many people were at your rehearsal dinner?
    bridal party : (38 votes)
    21 %
    bridal party dates : (36 votes)
    20 %
    grandparents (of bride and/or groom) : (27 votes)
    15 %
    aunts & uncles (of bride and/or groom) : (15 votes)
    8 %
    cousins (of bride and/or groom) : (12 votes)
    7 %
    close friends : (8 votes)
    4 %
    OOT family : (14 votes)
    8 %
    OOT friends : (7 votes)
    4 %
    person(s) that married you : (24 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper

    Have they asked you to plan anything? This is their party, so other than providing a guest list, I think you shouldn’t get involved with it. Let them do it.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Of the 58 people who came to our wedding, 45 of them were at the rehearsal dinner!!! Haha so many OOT family! We just had it catered at my parents’ house to keep costs down, and my parents offered to pay for it since the VAST majority of the guests were from my side of the family … but FIL would hear none of it and paid for the whole thing. Awfully nice of him, I thought 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Ok I couldn’t answer totally acurrately but basically anyone involved in the ceremony like BM & GM (plus dates), both our parents, both sets of grandparents, and any readers, ushers, etc… and their dates as well.

    No OOT guests, or family other then those involved in the ceremony.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had some resistance from MIL but we wanted the RD to be small and only include bridal party and dates.  I wanted to be able to spend time when those people closest to us since I knew the next day would be so busy.  We ended up with about 26 and I think it was the perfect size for us. 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We are inviting:

    our brothers and sisters, their kids,

    our parents,

    his grandmother (We each only have one left and mine cannot travel),

    the bridal party, and serious partners of bridal party members (one is married, one has been dating for 1 year),

    and the officiant (apparently it’s customary).

    It’ll be about 40 people if everyone shows up.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had around 50-60 guests total.  We had a HUGE bridal party and than close close aunts/cousins/uncles came as well.  The only OOT guests we invited were the really close ones.  My mom was trying to guilt me into a couple others but that would of added another 10 people to our guest list!  Out of 170 at the wedding I feel like this is a good number.  No point in having two weddings. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We are inviting our parents, grandparents, siblings and their partners (if applicable), bridal party and their partners (if applicable), readers and their family/partners (if applicable), and a few extreme OOT guests (i.e., guests who are from out of the country). In total, it will all add up to about 40 people. 

    Post # 11
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    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater

    We basically only invited the people who needed to attend the rehearsal. So our grandmothers, parents and siblings, our bridal party, ring bearers and singer. It totalled about 30 people. We didn’t want the invite list to get to crazy so if they weren’t a part of the rehearsal they weren’t invited. We did invited our bridal partys SO’s but only two of them attended. 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We are inviting immediate family (brothers, sisters, parents), bridal party and their dates, grandparents, and the officiant. I don’t remember the exact number but it’s between 30 and 40

    We have a whole bunch of OOT guests though so afterwards we’re hosting a welcome party drop-in type thing. We’ll have alcohol and probably snack food for that but we’re not providing dinner for those people.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had so many OOT people coming, we invited everyone to the rehearsal dinner (and planned a backyard bbq as a result).  We weren’t quite expecting everyone to come, we figured those in Boston wouldn’t join, but they did.  Had about 20 come to wedding and not BBQ and vice versa, with 95 guests at both.

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper

    You might want to discuss it with them , since traditionally, RD’s were just the parents, B&G and BP members. That may be all they’re thinking will come, so its better to discuss things first if you want to include other people. Some will include Grandparents as well as Aunts & Uncles, but it totally depends on your relationship with everyone.

    We had just parents and BP members with spouses, officiant,and FG and her parents. 14 people for one and 16 for the other wedding.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Since we had all of DH’s children/daughter-in-law/and son-in-law-to-be in our wedding, we had a large bridal party (18 counting the flower girl and ring bearer.) We invited the entire bridal party and their spouses; our parents; all of our singers, musicians, and our reader and their spouses; our officiant and his spouse.  I voted 41-50 people.

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