Post # 1
I’ve always figured that I’d want both DH and my mom, and quite frankly any other interested family members, in the room during the actual birth and thought I wouldn’t care where they were standing, but the more I think about it, the more unsure I am that I really want them to see whatever crazy ripping, tearing, leaking, or other action that’s going on down there.
For those of you who’ve been through a birth, did you care who saw what?
Post # 3
Mr. DG and our Doula (who happens to be his cousin). No moms, no extra folks… It was a very peaceful and beautiful moment. I would have been shy around anyone else.
Post # 4
Well…we’re not even TTC, but I’m limiting it to DH. I don’t think anyone else should have to see that 🙂
Post # 5
My plan is to have my DH and my step mom. My step mom is a nurse so at least for most of the labor I think I’ll feel comfortable having her there to reassure me. I want to go for natural child birth with no unnecessary medical intervention. I trust my midwife, but the office can’t guarantee who will be there when I deliver, so I feel more comfortable knowing that I’ll have someone with a medical background in my corner.
Post # 6
I want my Husband there and that is it. I think that it’s a personal thing between the two of us and everyone else can see the baby (and me) fully clothed and cleaned up.
Post # 7
I had just him (and my dr, of course). When I explained this to his family his mom was disappointed, but I didn’t want anyone else in there. I would’ve felt weird and that’s the last thing I wanted to worry about then.
However, I have known ladies who have let their best friends or sisters or whatever stay in with them.
Post # 8
My plan is just for my hubby to be there. My mom is trying to push her way into the room, but I just want it to be as peaceful as possible and with as little chaos as possible.
Post # 9
My mom and sister were there during the early stages and were asked to leave once things got more intense. We talked before hand about what I was comfortable with, ie they could stay but no looking and no “trying to coach” type stuff.
Once they left it was just hubby and I for the delivery then everyone was allowed to come see the little guy.
I think its important to do what makes you comfortable and just let everyone know what their role is before hand.
Post # 10
My daughter’s father and my oldest sister were in the room during the delivery. Everybody else waited outside until it was done.
Post # 11
I’m nowhere near TTC but at the moment I expect I’ll want FI and my mom there. I wouldn’t mind FI’s mom there, but she lives 9 hours away so I doubt that’ll happen. Also, I really don’t want his step mom there so it’d be hard to say his mom could be there but his step mom couldn’t… lol.
Post # 12
Hubby and I were alone, but we had really close friends there the night before. We didn’t call anyone until after I delivered, but we also had a different case than most.
Post # 13
I will have my husband, mom and 2 best friends with me when I deliver. It is a moment that I have experienced with my 2 best friends when their children were born and it is a bond that we could never break. I was very nervous about being in there when my best friends had their children, but I can now say I have been there since the second that they were born. I want my best friends to have the same bond with my child.
Post # 14
I plan to have my DH and my mom there (although we aren’t even TTC yet – but when we got to that point). My MIL can be there if she’d like too. My mom has always expressed her desire to watch the birth of a baby and see a new life come into the world (when she isn’t the one giving birth – lol) and I’m happy to give her the opportunity to do that with her grandchild.
Post # 15
I think I’d want my husband and my mom but not really my MIL. Is that awful? It’s not like we’re super super close, I like her and get along with her, but she’s not MY mom, I just feel like I’m not really into having extraneous people around for that.
Same goes for people visiting at the hospital, immediate family = yes, cousins, aunts and uncles = they can wait till we get home and get more settled.
Post # 16
When i delivered i had my daughters father in there and my mom. I think next time I’ll just have my FH. I didnt have a problem with my mom being there but my next child I think it’ll be more special since I’ll be having a child with my husband. Not just my boyfriend like last time.