(Closed) Who "wears the pants" in your relationship?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who "wears the Pants" in your relationship?
    I do : (57 votes)
    31 %
    He does : (26 votes)
    14 %
    Its sorta 50/50 : (102 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d love to say that it’s 50/50, but honestly, I think it’s me lol. I’m very decisive and also picky, whereas Fiance can be decisive, but would rather that people be happy.

    Post # 4
    5221 posts
    Bee Keeper

    TBH– I think it is my husband. He is pretty opinionated, and I’m a little more go-with-the-flow. It works for us, and on big decisions we have thought out discussions, but on a day to day basis I think he makes most of the decisions. 

    Post # 5
    9626 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We’re fairly equal, so I voted 50/50.

    Post # 6
    9618 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I think it’s me, he would probably say it’s me also. I am the more decisive one, I love to be in control. But I definitely turn to him for help with decisions as well 🙂

    Post # 7
    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I try to share the pants 50/50, but with my husband he’s pretty easy-going and if he doesn’t care about something, he just. doesn’t. care. and will literally refuse to take a side. I’ve almost given up trying to drag opinions out of him – the ones he has are strong, but far between. That said, when he does have an opinion, we are equals in decision-making.

    For example, we spent an hour in a food truck line yesterday where I was debating between two trucks, whether or not to get fries, and which burger toppings were better and he just didn’t care where or what we ate, so I couldn’t get him to tell me his preference on which truck. The man just didn’t have one!

    Post # 8
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My Fi is military and is a take charge type of guy the majority of the time he does everything and he usually will give me whatever I want. We discuss major issues as a couple and make a decision.  50/50

    Post # 9
    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I also think its me…*eek*, I feel like that sounds terrible.


    I think its more because I need to be in control when it comes to bills being paid etc…so I take care of all the banking, bill paying, planning things.


    On our personal lives and relationship…we are 50/50

    Post # 10
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    He does.  We’ll discuss the big decisions together but the Fiance mainly “wears the pants”.  I think when we have children, the roles will reverse. 

    Post # 11
    4794 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    He does. I don’t really have preferences about a lot of things (like where we go to lunch, what we do on our off days, if we go to Walmart, etc), so he makes most of the decisions. If it’s something important that I do have an opinion on, we’re pretty 50/50. 

    Post # 12
    2981 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    He gets one pant leg and I get the other. I’m more easy going so if he wants to do something, like eat at a certain place and the like, then whatever, I’ll go along with it. On huge financial decisions, we are 50/50. When I started working, I stole his pant-leg and said “DH! You need to help around the house more that I’m working too!” It’s only fair.

    Post # 13
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wish it was me… we’re pretty 50/50 but I definitely can’t just tell him what to do. The man has opinions about everything. Also, I’m definitely the more laid back one so I think he’s figured out that sometimes I’ll give in to keep the peace.

    Post # 14
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I don’t think my Fiance ever wore a skirt or dress, so I guess it’s him! Cool

    (FYI I voted 50/50!)

    Post # 15
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It’s pretty 50/50 but Darling Husband is very mushy, and I tease him sometimes that I’m the pants and he’s the skirt.

    Post # 16
    1281 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I, by nature, am very aggressive.  I don’t think I could be in a relationship where I’m not at least 50/50.  I always attempt to wear the pants, but Fiance gets ultimate veto power, so therefore it’s 50/50

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