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If they are joining soon, I'd imagine they'd be out of basic by the time December 2013 comes up. At that point, they may be doing advanced training or be on manueveurs, but there may be a chance that they could talk to commanding officers to get leave for the wedding. (My brother-in-law was active duty Army when they got married and he got like 2 weeks of leave for the wedding from his XO).
I'd suggest not stressing over it now until you know what will happen. And if, Heaven forbid, it does happen, you can find some way to honor their sacrifice for our nation at your ceremony, and they will be there in your heart. They won't know their orders until shortly before the wedding, and they won't know if this is even an issue until they've finished basic and gotten their assignments. So, no need to worry yet about what ifs and maybes (although, I know it's much easier for me to say than for you to do...)
Good luck!
@abbie017: Sorry, I put the wrong date. We are getting married in December 2012, not 2013. About a year from now, so they will most likely be smack-dab in the middle of training or schooling. I get what your saying, not to worry about it just yet, but it's really hard. Like I mentioned, just the THOUGHT that is COULD happen makes me cry. :/ Thanks for your support!
Oh, okay. I'm more familiar with the Army (lots of family and friends served/serving, almost joined myself), so I know that basic is only 12-14 weeks (depending on the unit) and then a couple months of specialized/advanced training depending on job placement. I just googled the USCG, and it says 7.5 weeks of training, and then placement into afloat or ashore units. Obviously that will be an issue depending where they end up, but it'll be basically 6 months after finishing training and I bet they'd have some R&R saved up. Luckily, everyone is aware that your wedding is coming up well in advance, so they could possibly work out some sort travel arrangement to be at the wedding.
I know there's nothing to say to make you feel better and it's just going to be a waiting game until they actually get in and get their assignemnts. It's hard, and it's heart-wrenching...but it's an incredible sacrifice they are making. You should be so proud to have helped in raising two great men who are willing to be so selfless.
@abbie017: Awww thank you very much. I am extremely proud. I do hope everything works out. The waiting game is not a fun game at all. :)
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So, I am pretty emotional right now. Here is my situation:
When I was 20 my dad passed away very tragically. I was given custody of my twin 14 year old brothers. I have a very special relationship with them. They mean the world to me. I always assumed they both would walk me down the aisle since my dad cannot. I am now 26 and they are 20 years old. Life has been a bit rough and they seem to have come to a point where they need/want to join the military to get out of their current situation. I believe this is a great thing for them because the environment they are in is not so great and I think the military can offer them a lot. They are considering the Coast Guard and plan to join in the next few months. I learned from them that there is a huge possibilty that they may not be able to attend my wedding as they are unlikely to be granted leave during the first year due to basic training and schooling. They are sad about it of course but I do not expect them to put there plans to join on hold just for this one day. I know it's far off and anything can happen, but just the thought of them not being aloud to come to my wedding brings me to tears. I did not cry to them about it because I don't want to influence their decision or cause any stress, I just told them how proud I am of their decision and we will deal with it when it happens. I am pretty devasted at the very real possibilty that they will be unable to walk me down the aisle. I am glad that I was told now and not closer to the wedding so I can try and accept this now and deal with it. I need some support and any words of advice or anything that can make me feel better about this... I'm trying think positive and to tell myself everything will be okay and if they cannot come at least they are alive and well and doing good for themselves, I don't want this to ruin my big day... :(