- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I read a post from a bride about her grandfather who had passed and everyone who answered just made me think maybe it’d be nice to get all of this off my chest, as well as everyone else. We all know, if you have lost someone, the times you miss them the most is the happy times. So let’s hear it, who will you be missing. I will start…
I will be missing my little brother, Sean Anthony. He was only alive a week or so, but he touched my heart and I will miss him.
I will be missing my cousin Alyssa, she was 21 when she died a few years ago. She died in a hit and run.
I will be missing my dear old friend John Quinnlen, he was a friend of my mom’s and he worked at my gradeschool, but since I had no grandparent’s that could make it to my grandparent’s day, while I was sitting down at my table feeling left out while everyone else ran around showing their grandparents all the drawings they did, he came up to me with a carnation and told me he could be my stand in grandpa. He was a part of my life ever since, until he passed, and I will miss him.
I will be missing my Papa Michael. He was my mom’s stepdad and he was missing for a little while in my life after my grandmother passed away (I was about 1, and he thought we wouldn’t want him around after she died). After he found out that is not at all how we felt he started coming around, we played Trivial Pursuit together and would eat pizza. He took me to my first union strike… I found him in our livingroom on Thanksgiving and he had passed. I was only glad he wasn’t alone when he died. (I still play Trivial Pursuit, in his honor. Though the only times I won was when I was on his team)
Last but certainly not least, I will miss my Aunt Leslie. I feel guilty even implying that she was just my “aunt.” She was so much more than that. She was the first person that defended me against my dad. She was a selfless, fun, and loving person. She taught me not to be judgmental, and that it was ok to fess up to mistakes I had mad. She was one of those people who would buy flowers for everyone she cared about on Valentine’s Day, though never expected anything for herself. She was a wonderful, friend, mother, and wife. Once, I had broken my ankle and was using crutches, but my dad being the cheap-ass that he is parked like ten blocks away from Comiskey Park (we were going to a Billy Joel concert) and she carried me all the way there on her back, even down the stairs (and I was like, 12 years old). She actually planned my parents wedding for them and I only wish she were here today to help me. I just know it would be a more special experience if she were around to do this with me, and I miss her every day. I stopped going to school and moved in with when I found out she was sick. I lived with her for three years so I could take care of her, keep the house nice, watch the kids, and make sure there was dinner there for them and her husband when he finally got home from a long long day of work. I was there with her when she died and even with her last words she was only thinking about her kids, and making sure that they weren’t there to see her like this… She was an amazing, strong person and I would give anything for her to be at my wedding.
What about you? Please feel free to share your stories. Get it off your chest, who are you really going to miss on your special day?