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In my case, my husband's Aunt.
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That's in bad form. :(
I don't think I'll be furious if someone wears white, but just a little "WTF, dude? Serously."
I'm not too bride crazy over many things, but I've made it abundantly clear that no one should walk into my wedding with white on and not expect to hear about it from me. There are literally thousands of other colors and shades of colors to wear that any shade of white does not need to be even a consideration from anyone else to be in on that day. It's my day in white.
Whew! Glad I got that off of my chest. And seriously, that's a lot of white for one outfit.
My fi was best man in one of his friend's weddings this summer and the groom's FSIL (his brother's fiance) wore white, like blatent white strapless dress (with a black belt)!!! It was unbelievable!!!
Wow. Sorry your aunt had no manners or class and wore THAT!
I had....3 people wear black and white dresses. Lots of white, though. One was a white sheath dress with a handful of LITTLE black flowers on it. I totally noticed. So did my drunk bms who complained about it to me =]
The hat's a little much...at least it's an ugly skirt suit if that helps. And shiny? White hat, white suit, white skirt, white shoes. Damn. That's a lotta white. Yuck.
Oooooo i went to a wedding a few years ago where a girl wore a strapless white SATIN knee-length a-line style dress with a black sash.
White satin, like the bride's dress! Yuck
One of my friends did! she wore a white dress with rhinestones on it, walked up to me, and said "oh my gosh, we almost match!"
Maybe I'm wrong, but I kind of think people do it on purpose. I mean how could they NOT know?
I happen to know that she did it intentionally. I love her anyway. Besides, it was "off-white" she said. Really? Hmm, looks pretty darn white in the pics. But, hey. What can you do? She did the same thing to her sister, except it was a beaded white gown then.
Wow! That's messed up! I confess I wore white to a wedding once :( But I was 18, didn't know any better, and I wore a bright green jcrew cardigan over it, it was a cotton strapless dress, and I had numerous strands of bright green necklaces that hung down the front of the dress so I like to say it was more of a green outfit than white?! Hmm...yeah, still inexcusable!
I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and a guest wore a long WHITE dress. It kind of looked like it could have been from Maggie Sottero Destinations or Jenny Packham. Really wrong.
I initially thought it was because she was pregnant and she didn't have anything else to wear, but my mum pointed out she wasn't pregnant.
I don't think it would bother me. My criteria for my dress was anything but a white dress!
When we first started planning I suggested having all the guests come dressed in white so that I could be the only one in color - but people don't care and would wear what they want and that would make mad LOL - I think I'm just backwards 
Omgosh, I cannot believe your aunt!
There were two girls at my brother and SIL's wedding who wore white dresses (booo!) and one lady at the most recent wedding I went to. I always notice, and it always irks me.
I've joked with Mr. P. about having a bouncer at our wedding to keep out people in all white. It's not so much a joke as an honest request...
So I am just curious how far does this rule go? I wore a white shirt with black dress pants to a wedding recently and didn't think about it until later. (Then I felt pretty bad and actually still feel guilty even though it was not on purpose and wasn't anywhere near on the same level as the bride) I wouldn't mind if someone had on a white shirt but that is me I am not sure if the white rule is for dresses and skirts only or all items of clothing... :( So what do you think?
everytime I think about this rule I think of that one episode of the office when Phyllis was getting married and Kelly wore white to the wedding. Her coworkers were like "you're not supposed to wear white to a wedding..." Kelly " I know, but there was an emergency" it flashes to Kelly alone " I look really good in white."
It always cracks me up when I think about that scene.
To be honest, I don't really get the whole "not wearing white to a wedding" thing...Honestly, does anyone really think you're thunder is being stolen or that someone else would be mistaken for the bride? It just seems kind of silly to me, who cares what other people wear? All eyes are going to be on your no matter what...But I guess I'm in the minority here....Just a thought :)
Well....I haven't gotten married yet, but my FMIL worn white to my FSIL's wedding. That really didn't seem too bad. She is the bride's mother, and if the bride was ok with it, seems fine to me...I wouldn't mind it if my mother wore white to my wedding, (althought I know she won't)...but, I would be very irked if anyone else wore white.
I just don't get it. I get making the white accessory (a shirt, a skirt, a purse) mistake... but the bride is the one in white. This way you know which one the bride is from across the room.
Trust me, even if it doesn't bother the bride... it bothers a lot of the other guests! Its just bad form
3 girls wore it to mine. One was pregnant and wore a beautiful long white sundress. She looked gorgeous. Another is Brazilian (maybe didn't know our traditions) and wore an off-white short hot beaded number. She's also 6 ft tall and a total stunner! And the third had no excuse, local girl wearing a short white organza dress. Nobody mistook a single one for the bride (who was wandering around in gold satin and tulle!)
Oh, I don't blame you....I'd be mad as all get out!! Everyone knows better. People who wear white to a wedding are inconsiderate jerks.
coughing that's nothing a glass of red wine wouldn't fix (oh my that was snarky, but honest)...
I don't think it's that people think you're the bride if you do that...i think it's just an old tradition that still has too many stigmas for 75% of the people out there. It's just...respectful I guess?
@ejs4y8 - YES! Exactly. The thing is, I am not pissed at her. I knew she would do it. It is her personality. She is just one of those people who always has to be the cetner of attention, "out-do" everyone. It's ok. That is her insecurity, not mine. I just think it is funny, you know? We get along very well and she is really awesome. I thought it would be a fun post to see if anyone else had something this blatant happen to them. Gotta lover her, though. She tried HARD. Ha ha
All I can say is, at least she was wearing a white suit and not a white dress/gown type. I'd be FURIOUS if someone shows up in a pretty white dress.. Just plain rude. Oh well, what can we do to control what our guests wear? I can only pray no one is as ignorant or rude to do that at my wedding.
Yeah, she did try super hard, LOL. I have a few "interesting' family members, too, so I totaly know what you mean when you say "ah, that's just her" =]
Your husband's uncle looks like a Goodfella, lol. He's not in the mafia, is he? =]
I confess, I did wear a long cream dress to a wedding. In my defence, I thought the bride was going to wear purple (she ordered it from China and it didn't fit so she bought the white dress the day before the wedding).
Just wondering though, wasn't the original point of having bridesmaids to have some people who looked like the bride at the wedding?
Yeah I say this now because I'm not married, but I don't see a huge problem with what your aunt is wearing. It is bad form but I think several of my guest would take issue before I do. That being said, I would probably have a problem if a guest wore a long, white dress that closely resembled a wedding dress.
I guess what I'm trying to say that although white, the style isn't very threatning to the bride.
@ejs4y8 - That's NOT my husband! Hahahahaha. Just a family friend. Yes, Italian, though. Definitely looks like a mafia member.
I thought it was your husband's uncle, not your husband =]. That'd be weird....
I wore a white dress to a wedding once. 
In all fairness I was in Greece visiting family on a trip, and we got invited 2 days before. (Old school weddings, the whole family and village gets invited, no need for official invites) The one and only dress I took with me was a short white summer dress. I argued that I couldn't wear it to the wedding and I was told by a million aunts that it wasn't true in Greece. I still felt kinda weird about it, even though I didn't have to be. That being said, I would never do it again, and I wouldn't be thrilled if someone showed up to my wedding in white.
Though what's worse: someone showing up to your wedding in white or someone showing up in a completely inappropriate dress?
Yeah, I mean it isn't a *huge* problem, but I think avoiding wearing white to a wedding is a matter of respect, same as not dressing inappropriately.
Wow! That's insane! The sundress I wore to my FSIL's wedding was white...but it had red flower prints over it and I had a brown cardigan on as well so I wasn't screaming in it. But dang...an entire white suit?
my husbands moms friend wore a ivory pants outfit to the wedding, i believe she had on ivory shoes too
I saw a girl wear a very beachy white knit skirt and khaki colored t-shirt to a wedding--I would not have worn what she was wearing out of the house! I was appalled that she'd both wear a white skirt, but then that it wasn't even very formal!
I've worn a black and white dress, but the dress was over 50% black, so I considered it "ok"--It had pink with it, and I also wore a black cardigan, so I think it was ok!
I agree - patterns with white in them are totally fine. It's the all-white or all-ivory looks that really bother me. It's just disrespectful. A friend of mine showed me a picture of a guest at his cousin's wedding in a long white SATIN dress. Apparently, several other guests confronted her, and she claimed it was the only thing she owned that was dressy enough for the occasion. That may have been true, but if it was, then she should have bought another dress or declined the invitation. She didn't even know the couple; she was just someone's +1!!
I hate it when people dress inappropriately and then throw themselves a pity party about it: "oh gee, i just couldn't afford to buy something appropriate to wear..." Well, then i guess you just won't be able to go then!!
Oh my and the white hat too! I didn't notice anyone else in white on my wedding day (we had about 250 guests) and looking at the pictures I am fairly certain that I was the only one in white. When I attend weddings, I am the first one to notice other guests in white, as I feel that it is sooooo rude.
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