Who would you save? – a debate on ethics between FI and I

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This probably isn’t the nicest answer, but everytime, I’d choose my own family first, no hesitation. I could be a hero…but how could I ever choose strangers over the people I either created, or chose to spend my life with? 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I would choose my own family, in every scenario.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

my children. my husband

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would pick my child, and that is me just being purely honest, might not like my answer but my daughter is a miracle and I almost died having her. That being said I would pick my child. as I lived the rest of my life with survivor guilt that I saved my child and let another 50 perish.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I will go ahead and say this makes me sound insanely selfish and I’m sure people will flame me for this but I would 100% save my husband. (I don’t have kids, and at this point I’m not sure if we will.) I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t try to save my husband. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would chose my fiance every time.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My child over a bus filled with kids

The bus filled with kids over my husband (probably… It depends on the age, and if my kids are watching since they shouldn’t have to watch their Dad die)

Child OR husband over the bus filled with adults

Clearly I work with kids, though! I can’t imagine sacrificing a child for an adult, though!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Instinct would kick in and I would go for my child/husband I think. It would be the knee jerk reaction.  I can justify this anyway by saying how could I save a whole bus, I’m strong but not quite that strong 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would most likely save the bus, because that is what my FI would do, and that is what I would expect him to do. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Justneedsomeadvice:  

scenario 1: my own child. What on earth am I going to do with 50 kids…? I’d get my kid first, then see what I could do.

scenario 2: presumably, my husband can save himself. If he can’t, I’m going to save him. But then, I’d also try to save the kids (whether or not I have time is irrelevant) Although, again, how amy I going to save 50 children? Can no one act in any way to increase their own chances of survival? Is everyone passed out?

scenario 3: I’d get my child or husband first, then see what I could do for anyone else. It’s all about priorities.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Would this involve running 100ft? Because there’s no way I’d do that! Wink

In all those instances, I would choose to save my family. Much as I would love to be a hero and sav 50 kids, I would rather have my own child or husband with me.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would always choose my family.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would definitely choose my family first if I had the ability to save them, but this is such a tricky type of question. I can’t imagine being able to save a school bus full of children realistically anyway. So if it was my child in the car OR my husband in the car I’d definitely save them/him first. And yes if the bus was filled with grown adults then I would not even hestitate to go for my family first because grown adults are much more capable of saving themselves than kids. I think if I was ever in such a horrible situation that instinct would kick in and I would automatically go to save my family first anyway. Like it probably just be a subconscious decision. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee

Agree with the other bees here. For me, my family, my life is most important to me. Everyone should have someone or a group of people who care about them the most, love them the most, protect them the most, etc family and spouse should serve in that role.

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