Who would you walk down the aisle with?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: In my shoes, how would you walk down the aisle?
    With your dad : (21 votes)
    18 %
    With your mom : (10 votes)
    9 %
    By yourself : (70 votes)
    60 %
    Other : (15 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @CakeyP:  Besides your FI, has there been any one who’s fully supported you and your relationship? A grandparent, aunt/uncle, sibling? Even a good friend or mentor.

    Post # 4
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    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @CakeyP:  I think you should have an open and honest conversation (no arguing, just a conversation in which you lay your feelings out) with your mother about why she got so offended, just in case that helps resolve hurt feelings and the situation overall. It seems to me like you wanted her to be the one to walk you down the aisle until she had a bad reaction. Maybe she’s just forgetful? I know my parents forget when I tell them about certain things randomly sometimes, even if they’re important, and then they are too stubborn to admit that maybe they forgot that I did tell them in the first place. I’m just throwing that as a suggestion for what might be going on with your mom’s reaction. If she truly did forget, then she likely would have been surprised and reacted that way and didn’t mean to hurt your feelings.

    Post # 5
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    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @CakeyP:  Can you and your FI walk down together? If not, maybe just have both your M&D walk you down. That’s what I’m doing. It’s important to my dad and my mother both.

    Post # 6
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    6048 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    A friend of mine had her FFIL walk her down the aisle. Is that an option?   A cousin you’re close with?  if not I would probably talk my uncle again if I were you.  Maybe you can explain what he means to you. 

    This really sucks tho, to have to be going thru this a week out.  Hang in there, if need be you can walk down the aisle eyes locked on your soon to be DH.  It really goes fast, I barely remember walking down the aisle.

    Post # 7
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    3047 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I know you said that you can’t walk in with your FI, but do you think he would change his mind if you explained how stressed you feel about this? I walked in with my husband, and it was so nice to do that together – wasn’t feeling nervous at all.

    I’ve written about this before, including a photo – perhaps you can show it to your FI as part of the discussion!

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/walking-down-the-aisle-together-photo-ie-not-with-you-dad#axzz2txoqN9ug

    Best of luck, I’m sure you’ll do fine!

    Post # 8
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    6013 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would walk by myself. I know it seems daunting right now but that day you’ll be so excited that it won’t feel “lonely”. You’ll be so happy to get to your future husband that nobody else around you will even matter.

    Post # 10
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    185 posts
    Blushing bee

    @CakeyP:  I’m so sorry this is something you have to go through.  But you know what?  Lots of women walk themselves down the aisle – not because they don’t have anyone to do it, but because they feel that they are not their parents’ to “give away.” 

    There’s something empowering in walking yourself, and if I didn’t know it would just about kill my father, I just might consider it myself.  YOU give yourself to your fiance, you and no one else. 

    Post # 12
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    1259 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @CakeyP:  I think you know but definately do not pick your Dad. You story on him is just so negative and it doesn’t seem like there is anything there that would make sense. I am sorry this is the type of relationship you’ve had with him. My Dad is great and I can tell he loves me, but he does favour my sister. He always has so I know a little bit about where you’re coming from.

    Having said that, I don’t think you should pick your Mom either 🙁 If my mom did that to me, I would be hurt and I would not bother to ask her again or even act like I care. How rude of her. Sorry 🙁

    I understand your fears and uncomfortable feeling of walking yourself. I would find it difficult too however, I think this is what I would do. If I did not have anyone else and no other males in my life that actually mean something. This is what I would do.

    You may feel lonely but I would just focus on your groom. It is your wedding day so alone is the last thing you will be 🙂

    Post # 13
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @CakeyP:  I voted by yourself, unless you have a brother, close cousin etc. or perhaps you could get your BMs to stay close, rather than walk first in front then you go. Maybe they could walk behind you so they’re there with you

    Post # 14
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    1259 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @CakeyP:  Oh and you and I will be walking down the aisle the same day!! 🙂

    Post # 15
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    3047 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @CakeyP: Glad that my post have served it’s purpose!

    For your situation though, could you meet your FI halfway down the aisle? That way he’ll get to see you walk against him, but you don’t have to walk the entire stretch by yourself. Another option is that he waits for you outside the church, then you could walk up towards him there, and then you walk in together. 

    Before it was settled that we would walk in together I was also toying with the idea of walking in with my flower girl, as she was so small (a few months from 4). I was worried that she would be scared and thought it would feel more secure for her to hold my hand. 🙂

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