- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Patience went out the window as soon as I started to get excited about planning this wedding. I can’t believe how completely my life has succumbed to the flowers, the dress, the food, the vows…there is so much to do! I stress about finding “the perfect” everything as if my wedding were a week away and I’ve left everything until the last minute. What you dont know is that my wedding is in September. Of next year. So why am I stressing about getting things done immediately when I have enough time to slow down and smell the proverbial flower of wedding planning?
On the other hand, what I’ve accomplished thus far is more than to my liking. FutureMr and I booked our venue last Saturday and are so completely happy with it because it’s exactly what we BOTH had envisoned. I don’t know another time in my life where what was in my head actually came to fruition in reality, mostly because I tend to have lofty expectations for everything. So in this regard, we are off to a great start!
Secondly, I’ve found MY dress. On the first shopping trip. And I have the accessories to match. Immediately after signing my name on that reciept though, I suddenly became overwhelmed with buyer’s remorse. The thing is, I know this is my dress without a doubt in my mind. I know those accessories were well worth spending almost half of the cost of my dress to get. And yet I still felt horrible. So many things were going through my head: “it’s too early to be buying a dress,” “what if I’ve spent too much,” “I didn’t get that ‘special day’ out with the girls”…etc, etc. I was driving myself nuts, and I can’t even begin to imagine how annoying I was to everyone around me!
That was until I talked to FutureMr. I know what you’re thinking, why would I ever involve him in “dress” talk…isn’t that rule #1? But this is one of many reasons why I love him. You see, he has this incredible way about him…he manages to calm me down during my most unflattering, anxiety-ridden, emotional outburts. And that’s just what he did this time. He told me that if I knew it was “the dress” that I shouldn’t worry about how soon I had bought it, and that there would be many opportunities to include my girls (mom and grandma included) in not only my fittings but many, many other things. Sometimes all it takes is a big hug and a little reassurance that your gut instinct on some things is worth listening to…and for that, I thank my honey.
Now that the dress drama is over and done with (and I’m excited all over again for it), I can’t stop obessing over other details. The flowers, the BM dresses, the tuxes, the music, the food, the favors, the MONEY. Everything. I spend every lunch break pouring over blog posts and googling various inspirational things I’ve seen that I am having a difficult time pacing myself. I have over a year to plan this thing and yet I can’t seem to slow down and enjoy the process. AGGH!
I must admit that most of the this sense of urgency comes from the huge amount of excitement I feel about the whole process. And I have a tendency to have wedding planning ADD. If you hadn’t noticed already, I seem to jump from one topic to another at the drop of a hat because so many things run through my mind at once! I try to remember to take a deep breath and relax but I finally realize I could use a bit of helpful advice…
…has anyone else experienced this “need to get it done NOW” outlook? How should I handle this?! Long story short, I have no patience and stress about everything. Help!