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I got our last RSVP in the mail today (well, yesterday, but we forgot to check the mail...) so now I have been able to completely finish the steating chart!! Wootwoot. This was the single most annoying, stressful task I've had to do so it's a huge weight for it to be GONE. I don't care if my brother is mad that his date isn't next to him because my FI and I don't want her at the head table (let alone the wedding...) so they can suck it up or she can just not go. So it's done done DONE!!! Can you guys feel the excitment pouring out of me yet?

Wow, that's great to have that done! I'm not doing seating charts but I have heard they are a beast to complete. I'm a May 24 bride, too, and still waiting to hear from a few stragglers...

With no family drama, I'm sure seating charts aren't that bad. We have 47 people attending. That's it. It shouldn't be that difficult... but people want to sit next to others, then we have the people who have to stay away from others, etc. ugh! lol But it's over :D

We have 12 people per table (4 long tables).

So, I just shared the seating chart with my brother, and, to be expected, he wasn't happy. He wants to tack her on to the end of the table, but there is really no need for it because there is enough room for her to sit at a proper setting. I'll have to be sure one of our centerpieces is there incase she does go... But he said "whatever, she's not going then." Because he was still trying to insist that if she is next to him that it would be fine. So, I had to get "mean" which was really just to be honest, and told him she wasn't sitting at the end and that we didn't really want her there anyway (when FI found out she was going he told me to keep her away from him). Sorry dude, my wedding and I'm putting my foot down on this one. I don't think I'm being a bridezilla here... She doesn't even like me or my family for cripes sake so why should I let her be at the head table? My brother is at the corner end of the head table and she's at the corner end of the table next to it so they aren't that far away (we aren't having dancing so people aren't likely to be up out of their seats much). And, to be 100% fair, before he invited her and before I even know it would be her he invited, I TOLD him that he may not be able to sit next to his date because he's in the wedding party. They aren't dating and they haven't since he was in high school, maybe 3 years now. But, whatever. I told him they need to get it figured out anyway because we are paying for her dinner and I am certainly not paying for her food if she decides she doesn't want to show if she's not next to her not-boyfriend (he has made her several offers since they broke up, all to be rejected. My poor brother keeps trying and the witch just keeps playing him. see why we don't like her??) Ugh. *breathes* I'm really close to my brother and I don't like having to do this, but it's supposed to be my day, right? I'm not out of line?

My brother has a very bad temper, but I don't think he will stay mad at me. He already knows we don't like her, that definitely isn't news to him. My fiance flew him out here to NYC (paid for his ticket), let him stay with us, and covered most of his food bill and such while he was here in an attempt to help him get over this girl because he was still really down about it a few months after the break up. So, this is part of the reason my FI doesn't like her, because she just keeps messing with him. She won't let him all the way go, but she won't go out with him either. I really don't feel she deserves it. Did I mention that she was very likely cheating on my brother towards the end of the relationship? She was always rude to my mother. If you guys really think I should suck it up I'll do my best, but I don't know, I really don't think she deserves to even be at the wedding. It's not a big wedding where she can mingle amoungst the guests and nobody will notice her, ya know?

Well see, another thing is that all this discussion has been between my brother and me, and some with my FI and him. I haven't talked to this girl. Should I try to talk to her about it instead? She may be more reasonable than my brother. My brother always was kind of controlling when they were in a relationship. For all I know she may want to come regardless, but I'm only getting what he says (he told me he was going to tell her that she wasn't invited. seriously, grow up...).

Yeah, I've thought about it, but my dad is also going to be at the wedding and my siblings haven't seen him for many years. It's really important that he visits with my dad. However, my dad and mom are divorced and want NOTHING to do with each other. I need to keep my dad away from the rest of the family, preferably, so everyone can be comfortable. So, if I moved my brother, that would mean I need to move 4 people and try to replace them with others...

Two, our out of town guests' dates (one of whom lives with our guest). They are the ONLY people from my FI's side coming for this and everyone else attending is my family and friends. I feel it's really important that the few people that will be there for my FI be near him. Not to mention they don't know anyone else! (My brother's date on the other hand does know other people since she and I went to the same hig school). My mom's date, however, will not be sitting at the head table next to her and will be at the table with her friends.

DE, I'm not really sure how long it took because I'd work on it here and there. Once I got all my RSVPS it went by really quick because I had the hard part figured out already.

I emailed the girl yesterday and after my massive email to her, she basically replied by saying that its ok, it's my wedding, and that she's just happy that she can go. sheesh. After all that with my brother and it's fine anyway!