Post # 1
Well, this is awkward. I was trying to send some pictures to my grandma, while on my mom’s iPad, and saw an entire discussion between them about my wedding dress.
It wen’t a little something like this: “I can’t believe she wen’t strapless. NOT what I would have chosen for her. Not the most flattering. Oh well, guess I will shut my mouth and pay for it. Wish she wouldn’t have picked that color”…. I immediately stopped reading
Now, I know what I have to do. Keep this to myself (and WB 🙂 and not bring it up, because what good would that do? I personally LOVE my dress, my BMs are crazy over it and I think my FI will love it too. I just have this pit in my stomach from reading it and I really wish I wouldn’t have seen it. My mom and grandma tell me they love my dress every time I try it on, now I know they arn’t really that crazy about it.
Anyways, it’s one of those things I wanted to get off of my chest. I haven’t told anyone (and it happened 4 months ago). I’m trying to forget about it and move on, so hopefully posting about it will help me do that.
Post # 2
wlphilli: Don’t worry about it. You can’t please everyone, especially different generations with different tastes. You will be a gorgeous bride!! At least they are respecting your feelings, probably knowing full well you love it, and not adding (intentionally) any additional stress to you.
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad about it at all! Moms and Grandma’s don’t always have the best taste…If your bridesmaids loved it, then you’re totally fine because they would definitely tell you if it didn’t look great on you!
Post # 4
Good for you for realizing that it’s about what YOU want! I bet your mom and Gma also don’t wear the same kinds of clothes that you do on a regular basis (haha!) so it’s reasonable to think that they would have chosen something different. Strapless gowns are what our generation wears, but it definitely wasn’t the norm back when they each got married.
Post # 5
Mom’s don’t always know what’s best in fashion!
Post # 6
You love it, you’re wearing it. That’s all that matters.
Once your mom and grandmother see you that day all glammed up I am sure they will think you’re gorgeous!
Post # 7
All so very true. I’m sure they will have nothing but great things to say the day of the wedding, just a little disheartening to read it (especially when both of them were in the same room as me!)
My grandma happens to have impecable taste, as she is a ballroom dancer and used to looking at ballgowns. I really value her opinion alot, which is why she went to almost every bridal dress appointment with me.
Kinda sucks, but atleast they didn’t say it to my face 🙂 I would have been a big cry baby if that would have happened.
Post # 8
Love it!! i obviously can tell you feel so confident in your decision just by reading. When I showed my FMIL my dress she just said “Huh..it’s nice” (like “interesting..”). We are pretty close so I was at least expecting “oh it’s pretty!” but got nothing.. I absolutly love my dress and so does everyone (including my mom) else, so whatever. OWN IT!
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2014 - Roswell Founders Hall
I went with a strapless gown also, and my mom was less than thrilled with it. So was an older co-worker who said it looked like I’d be too cold in it. I think you can dismiss their comments since they are from a different generation and while they love you, you are never going to choose what they would choose for you (and you wouldn’t wear what they would choose anyway). This is YOUR day, so stick with your choice and on your special day they will see it your way. In my case my mom told me later that she loved my dress and everything was perfect. This is your day to shine and have it your way! Enjoy!
Post # 10
wlphilli: Check out their wedding dresses from their wedding photos — are they anything like what you would have picked out?
Different generations have different tastes. It’s ok. I’m sure you will look gorgeous.
Post # 11
I agree that’s a crappy thing to stumble upon, but you’re right not to bring it up. I say post a picture of your dress and let the hive tell you how awesome it is!
Post # 12
JenGirl: I have had nothing but good comments on my dress so far from you ladies! My alteration appointment is tonight to put a new belt on (mom and grandma will both be there too)
Post # 13
wlphilli: Your dress is stunning, and the sweetheart neckline and ruching are so flattering…I don’t understand their complaints at all!
Post # 14
Bummer – that’s no fun.
But it’s so great that they are being so supportive in your presence! I mean you seem some moms on TV sometimes saying the most awful things to their daughters when they try on dresses. The reason they haven’t said anything to your face is because they know their opinion isn’t the one that matters. I’m sure if they really felt you were going in the wrong direction, they would pipe up. But that’s not the case. They know you look beautiful. Just not their personal definition of beautiful. They simply would have picked a different dress for you. But that would never be *your* dress. You are so much more than just a daughter or granddaughter. It’s your day and your time to shine!!
Post # 15
That’s a fantastic dress and I think the fit on the bodice is super flattering. Seriously. Nipped waist and rounded boobs – what more could you ask for?