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Hey y'all. Today I decided to change my name to his. He said that he didn't care what I did (but he wanted me to...). I just like his name and it sounds really good with mine. My given name is very boring. None of my friends who have married have changed their name however. I hope that I'm not a feminist sell out because I just like his name better. Mine is an aesthetic choice. Also, it's a feminist move against my father (he's really angered me in the past). There are so many reasons to change/not change. It's not always good to change because of our careers, but I think that mine won't matter. But it's not practical for a lot of women to change their names.
What are you bees doing and why?
I am changing my name. I am a very traditional person and it is a personal choice. I cannot wait to have my fiances name!
Kwapis :)
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I'm changing my name. I like my name and all, but it's just one of those things...for me, it's about the unity. He actually offered to change his name to mine, at one point, but I told him that I didn't mind. =)
I'm keeping my last name, he's taking my last name, and we're both taking his old last name as our middle name.
I tacked his name onto mine , so my lest name is his but I still have my middle and maiden name. it was very hard for me to even do that , but it was something he very much wanted , while he would never force me to change names I felt it was the right thing to do.
I'm using both. I don't want to hyphenate because we both have long, slightly difficult to pronounce names, but in written correspondence (at least, my resume/business cards/etc) I'll use both names... although I will probably (legally) make my maiden last name into a second middle name.
My FI insists that I take his name (although I always intended too...). I brought it up one night asking what he thought about me keeping my last name & he was deeply hurt! In his circle, everyone takes their husbands last name.
We're both taking my maiden name as a middle name, and then we'll both have his last name. I was so happy we came up with this arrangement, because I was really struggling with the tradition. I LOVE my family and my name, and we're all so tight, I didn't want to lose it, and didn't see why I should have to take on my FI's without him taking on mine too. He agreed and I was totally thrilled!
It is an honor to take his last name BUT finally people may be able to pronounce my last name correctly 
I've struggled with this since I was a little girl. My last name is one that was is easy to make fun of, but I love it and it's unique. His name is a bit more common but still very easy to make fun of. We talked about me keeping my name and he wasn't a fan of that and I'm not a fan of having a different name than my kids. So, I decided to make my maiden name a "second middle" and take his last name.
As a side note, everyone I know wants me to hyphenate because of how HORRIBLE (yet hilarious)the names would sound when combined. People have been wanting us to get married for years just so that they can send the announcement into Jay Leno for "headlines". The engagement announcement was sent in but he never read it :(
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I'm taking his name because it's important to him, but I love mine! I'm kind of sad, but I'm sure I'll get over it. It's funny because our last names are actually kind of similar (same # of syllables, same syllable stressed, end in the same vowel). Things could be worse. But still, there are only girl children in my family so I'm sad the name won't be passed on. I already made him promise that all our pets will take my last name :) I might keep it as a second middle name but it's gonna be a mouthful!
I'm changing my name. In fact, it is changed - I just went to the Social Security office today! (it was pretty pain free, the driver's license part is what will be a challenge). I did it because of tradition, and because when I really thought about it, there are many valid reasons to keep your maiden name, but I didn't care enough to keep my name.
I thought about making my maiden name my middle name, and dropping my current middle name (which is just one letter). In the end, I decided to not even do that.
I'm really excited to take his name! I can't wait to be family and have the same last name as a sign of that. And I'm not all too attached to mine! My name rhymes (Katie Brady)...and I can't wait to change that :)
This has never been a question in my mind. While I love my family history and my name - I always knew that I would change my name. I think, BECAUSE of the fact that I love family history and whatnot, that that's just another reason why there's no question in my mind to change my last name to his. Call it tradition or whatever - but for me, there's no question.
His, because it is important to him. My last name is always spelled wrong and misprounced, and his is easy.
He left it up to me, but I am happy to take his name. Strangely enough, before I met him, when I considered this question in the abstract, I always thought I would keep my name.
I changed my name, but I still haven't gotten used to my new name yet. I decided to change it because I had my dad's last name. I don't have a relationship with my dad at all, so I felt more comfortable associating myself with my husband rather than my "dad". A friend of mine said I was "choosing the name of the man I picked, instead of the one I got stuck with" which I kinda liked. ;)
I think it would have been really hard for me to decide if I had had my mom's last name. FWIW, I think my husband was happy I changed, but wouldn't have cared less if I hadn't done it. He left it up to me completely, which took some of the pressure off.
I don't really want his last name, to be frank, hah and he knows that- it's mostly because I'm one of two daughters and we have a family business (my Dad's, and he is extremely important to me), so I have more pride in my last name than I would with his, which might sound bad, but hell there are so many men in his family that the name is being passed on quite adequately, as opposed to mine, which is basically the end of the line if I change it. So, I might hyphenate, my last in front of his, but that's a maybe- if I don't do that I won't take it at all. The boy is not concerned about it either way!
I'm taking my current last name as a second middle name, and taking his last name. He will be doing the same (having a second middle name of my last name).
i will hyphenate my name and sign with my middle initial, maiden initial, and his last name to shorten it up on my behalf.
I am very sad at the thought of losing my last name, which I cherish. However, my husband, despite being very traditional, agrees that hyphenating is a good idea professionally as I have established business under my name.
I've tried adjusting my viewpoint- I'm not losing any of me, I'm adding just another part of me to my life.
I'm proud of my family, but I'm definitely taking my fiance's last name. I see it as a way to honor him and show him that I'm proud to be joining my life to his.
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I'll be taking his :) He brought it up a couple of months ago and I told him I was planning on taking his last name. He seemed surprised
Im hyphenating beside his protest but i think he jokes about it. I have my degrees in my last name & not to mention one of four girls - so someone has to carry the name on just in case. I also like the idea b/c he's an attorney as well so perhaps if its someone he's been nice to they might realize I am his wife & be nice back, when i started practicing in the same courts lol - he has a very unique last name for living in south florida - so hopefully he's been nice to others lol.
I'll be hyphenating so that together I'll have the 2 most difficult names in the planet! lol...just kidding, I'm keeping my super complicated last name only because it means a lot to my family, and I'm taking his even more complicated last name because I'm really proud of being his future wife.
I'm not one you'd call traditional but for some reason taking his last name is something I really feel is important to me. Of course trading my loooong annoying Polish last name for a nice 4-letter last name was also good incentive. ;-)
we're still in talks about the last name situation. Right now we're discussing taking a name from our heritage that hasn't been passed down to the current generation. I would LOVE to take his last name, but he is hyphenated and it's a mouthful. I feel awful for not wanting to take on his last name but I am more of a short name, nick name girl. Taking on a hyphenated last name that no one can ever spell or always gets wrong. People are always getting his last name wrong. They usually drop one of the names and just call him by his Dad's last name.
I am going to hyphenate, he isn't comfortable with it, but is considering changing his middle name to my last name so I would be Jennifer Anne Mylast-Hislast and he would be Troy Mylast Hislast
I always thought I'd keep my name (but was never super-passionate about it) but when it came time to decide, I loved him so much that it didn't even matter one ounce anymore. He wanted me to change it but he wouldn't have gotten really mad if I didn't.
We haven't come to a decision yet. FI wants me to take his name [but I think it sounds awful after my given name] & I'd like to keep my last name as I'm partial to it being part of my heritage.
We've considered a hyphen or some such, but my maiden name is fairly long, hard to pronouce and often needs to be spelled out for people. I am of the opinion that it just sounds silly with both.
Yesterday I asked [only half jokingly] if he, or anyone else would be mad/offended if I took my MIL's surname.[different from FIL's].
I don't think he took the joke too well! :O
I think that is a really good idea, and a great way to incorporate family history.
I will take his, but add my maiden to my middle.
I will miss it though! haha
I don't know why - but I can't wait to get rid of my last name. Seriously. It would be weird to me to keep it even when I'm married ... as it stands I'm 22 and don't have a career reason for keeping my name.
And I'm not entirely interested in hyphenating ... my last name is entirely too long! And I like my middle name too much to keep it ...
I've never been wild about my last name, but I'm keeping it. I respect others' feelings and decisions, but for me, I can't see a reason to change my name (and I really, really hate the historical reasons this originally happened, and I think I would have a hard time living with that).
We thought about both hyphenating, but quickly realised we both liked and valued our own names too much as part of our personal and professional identities
So I'm keeping mine and he's keeping his. He said he would have been surprised if I had planned to change my name! Any kids will have both our names, hyphenated -- it sounds great and isn't too cumbersome. .
I still haven't decided. I'm pretty attached to my name, but I feel like part of becoming our own unit is having the same last night. i wish we could make up our own but he has 3 major degrees with his already on in, so he wouldn' change his.
I am REALLY looking forward to taking his last name!
I'm taking his. I just filed Monday for SS card, that starts the process.
I deliberated about this for MONTHS. I was trying to decide if I wanted to drop my middle and put my Maiden as my middle, or just drop my maiden entirely. I really didn't want to part with my maiden, but we're both Greek, and have long Greek last names, so it sounded so much nicer if I just dropped my maiden and kept my middle. In the excitement immediately after the wedding, I gave it like zero thought (Esp compared to how much I initialy deliberated!) and I just dropped my last name! I was so excited for his! Now, 3 weeks later, my cards are all coming in, my SS card came, got my license... and I miss my last name :( I wish I kept it as a middle!! I LOVE seeing his name as my new last.. but.. I'm still sorta sad!!!
I don't have a middle name so I will use my maiden name as my middle name and use is name. Where I am from you CAN'T change your name so a lot of people don't understand my decision.
I just decided last night to take his. I don't really care for his...it kinda rhymes with my first name. BUT my last name (Italian...)hyphentated with his was just too long. I also didn't really want to keep mine...mainly because I would like to have the same name that my children do. I was a little hesitant since I am an encore bride and didn't want to deal with people who say anything about me changing my name again...
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