Post # 1
Hey y’all. Today I decided to change my name to his. He said that he didn’t care what I did (but he wanted me to…). I just like his name and it sounds really good with mine. My given name is very boring. None of my friends who have married have changed their name however. I hope that I’m not a feminist sell out because I just like his name better. Mine is an aesthetic choice. Also, it’s a feminist move against my father (he’s really angered me in the past). There are so many reasons to change/not change. It’s not always good to change because of our careers, but I think that mine won’t matter. But it’s not practical for a lot of women to change their names.
What are you bees doing and why?
Post # 3
I am changing my name. I am a very traditional person and it is a personal choice. I cannot wait to have my fiances name!
Post # 4
I’m changing my name. I like my name and all, but it’s just one of those things…for me, it’s about the unity. He actually offered to change his name to mine, at one point, but I told him that I didn’t mind. =)
Post # 5
I’m keeping my last name, he’s taking my last name, and we’re both taking his old last name as our middle name.
Post # 6
I tacked his name onto mine , so my lest name is his but I still have my middle and maiden name. it was very hard for me to even do that , but it was something he very much wanted , while he would never force me to change names I felt it was the right thing to do.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’m using both. I don’t want to hyphenate because we both have long, slightly difficult to pronounce names, but in written correspondence (at least, my resume/business cards/etc) I’ll use both names… although I will probably (legally) make my maiden last name into a second middle name.
Post # 8
His, because my lastname is impossible to spell and pronounce.
Post # 9
My FI insists that I take his name (although I always intended too…). I brought it up one night asking what he thought about me keeping my last name & he was deeply hurt! In his circle, everyone takes their husbands last name.
Post # 10
We’re both taking my maiden name as a middle name, and then we’ll both have his last name. I was so happy we came up with this arrangement, because I was really struggling with the tradition. I LOVE my family and my name, and we’re all so tight, I didn’t want to lose it, and didn’t see why I should have to take on my FI’s without him taking on mine too. He agreed and I was totally thrilled!
Post # 11
It is an honor to take his last name BUT finally people may be able to pronounce my last name correctly
Post # 12
I’ve struggled with this since I was a little girl. My last name is one that was is easy to make fun of, but I love it and it’s unique. His name is a bit more common but still very easy to make fun of. We talked about me keeping my name and he wasn’t a fan of that and I’m not a fan of having a different name than my kids. So, I decided to make my maiden name a "second middle" and take his last name.
As a side note, everyone I know wants me to hyphenate because of how HORRIBLE (yet hilarious)the names would sound when combined. People have been wanting us to get married for years just so that they can send the announcement into Jay Leno for "headlines". The engagement announcement was sent in but he never read it 🙁
Post # 13
I’m taking his name because it’s important to him, but I love mine! I’m kind of sad, but I’m sure I’ll get over it. It’s funny because our last names are actually kind of similar (same # of syllables, same syllable stressed, end in the same vowel). Things could be worse. But still, there are only girl children in my family so I’m sad the name won’t be passed on. I already made him promise that all our pets will take my last name 🙂 I might keep it as a second middle name but it’s gonna be a mouthful!
Post # 14
I’m changing my name. In fact, it is changed – I just went to the Social Security office today! (it was pretty pain free, the driver’s license part is what will be a challenge). I did it because of tradition, and because when I really thought about it, there are many valid reasons to keep your maiden name, but I didn’t care enough to keep my name.
I thought about making my maiden name my middle name, and dropping my current middle name (which is just one letter). In the end, I decided to not even do that.
Post # 15
I’m really excited to take his name! I can’t wait to be family and have the same last name as a sign of that. And I’m not all too attached to mine! My name rhymes (Katie Brady)…and I can’t wait to change that 🙂
Post # 16
This has never been a question in my mind. While I love my family history and my name – I always knew that I would change my name. I think, BECAUSE of the fact that I love family history and whatnot, that that’s just another reason why there’s no question in my mind to change my last name to his. Call it tradition or whatever – but for me, there’s no question.