Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law and I used to be really close before Fiance and I engaged (for a back story, read my threads started) but due to her craziness Fiance and I are taking a ‘break’ so to speak from her.
Im getting her a mother’s day card but I’m not happy about it! HAHA
Deep down inside I still love and her and want to her to have a nice mother’s day. I wish I didn’t have to interact with her though.
Are you doing anything for your MIL/FMIL for mother’s day?
Post # 3
We’re going to a brunch with Future Mother-In-Law, FSFIL and my mother, at a local spot. A littel food and some cards, no big thing. But we all get along… sooooo… good luck! I think it’s great you’re getting her a card, taking the high road is a great move 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
ohh, this is a good idea. i should send one to mine, though i still haven’t figured out what to call her. mom sounds weird to me. 😛 that’s nice of you to get your fmil a card though, maybe the little gesture will help start repairing some of the crazy..
Post # 5
My Future Mother-In-Law passed away at the end of Feb…so no cards. I will have one very broken up Fiance on my hands though. I have gotten her cards and flowers in the past though.
Post # 6
We get something for Future Mother-In-Law every year.
They recently retired to a different state so we’re putting together a little local city centric care package. Buying stuff that’s local such as NHL Team earrings, local Chiavetta’s marinade (that you can’t get elsewehre), sponge candy from a local candy shoppe and etc and putting it into a local Grocery Mart’s ecoshopping bag. 🙂
Post # 7
I am definitely getting her a card. My Future Mother-In-Law is awesome!
Post # 8
Yea go ahead and get her a card a agree with sewing, I get my Future Mother-In-Law a card every year, but it says to someone special haha!!
Post # 9
I think getting her a card is important, so that she knows you still care about her even though you may not be speaking at the moment. I have given a card/small gift to my FI’s mom each year since we met. Just a nice touch, and like sewing said it may even help patch things up for you two. Family (especially in-laws!) can be difficult to deal with, but it’s important to learn how to get along. They will be there through all your major life events.
Post # 10
Oooh… thanks for reminding me. That’s probably a really good idea! I also don’t have the world’s closest relationship w/ my Future Mother-In-Law, but I’m sure that receiving a mother’s day card from me would mean a lot to her (she never had a daughter).
I think it’s probably a nice thing to do, and might help with your relationship to your FMIL?
Post # 11
I love my Future Mother-In-Law and I am always sending my Future Mother-In-Law cards & notes. However, I’m NOT going to get her a Mother’s Day card. I doubt I ever will actually. I think its kind of weird. She’s not MY mother!
It’s my FI’s responsibility to make sure his mommy feels appreciated, not mine!
Post # 12
i always get her flowers and a card. well sometimes Fiance gets it, but we always get her flowers and a card. as we do with my mom.
we call my mom “umma” (korean for mom)… and we call Future Mother-In-Law “mom”
before that… i never really called her anything… LOL
Post # 14
Yup, I love my FMIL! She even signs her cards to me with “Mom & Dad”… she’s the sweetest! 🙂
Post # 15
I’ve gotten her something every year Fiance and I have been together (this will be year 6) and she’ll definitely notice if I dont.
She insinuated that this is her wedding, made me cry when we got engaged, she wont come unless it’s the date she wants. She wont contribute unless it’s in the city she wants with all her friends (she also brushed off the importance of my family ) and I STILL cant find it in my heart to brush her off on mother’s day.
Ugh, they always win! lol
Post # 16
I was wonderng about this. I don’t love my Mother-In-Law, but she doesn’t know that! She thinks we have a great relationship.
I don’t know if I will get Mother-In-Law a card since I don’t get my mom or grandmother a card every year. I might get my mom a mother’s day card once in a while but we usually go to dinner instead. I’ve never got Mother-In-Law a card in the years Darling Husband and I were dating but am I expected to do this now that we’re married? I’m also wary about it because I don’t want to give Mother-In-Law the expectation that I will get her a card every year. We all go out to lunch with Mother-In-Law every mother’s day anyway too. I’m undecided for now.
@Aubergold – If I were you, there’s no way I would get Future Mother-In-Law a card! You’re alot bigger person than I am. I wouldn’t do it just to piss her off after all she did.