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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    T, my wonderful and very loving FI, is right now in the middle of closing some pretty good deals at his firm and is focusing solely on this right now, which is cool, because this is one way he expresses his love for us (being a good provider for when we get married).  Bless his heart, he's got a really bad upper respiratory infection and he went to work with fever, did a big presentation, and on his lunch hour attempted to go to the doc, only to find out it was packed.  Thus he didn't go see the doc and resumed his work day and then has worked all night on two of these projects which are soon to close.

    Who else has a FI that will go through phases where they work 24/7?  I love him and he's so sweet and kind, and I just want him to slow up a teeny bit!  He's so very sweet, trying to close these deals before 1)the wedding and 2)before I have to go to deal with a personal situation regarding my son/custody/nasty ex. 

    We've got to finalize this week issues regarding the ceremony, photographer, and music.  Arrrrgh!  He's going to be also working nonstop probably until thursday on all of this, and my bff is flying in town this weekend too, so we prob won't get these things accomplished.

    Any of you have a groom who has realized he's getting married soon or has a big life change in front of him and is working his tush off trying to get in gear for that?

    I'm not complaining about him at all.  Just wondering if anybody else has experienced this too!  He's the sweetest guy in the world and my son and I are so blessed he's in our lives.  (he still gives me butterflies too!) 

     
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    VirginiaMarie    January 2011   Austin, TX

    My FI is a workaholic!  He's awake for 36 hours (literally), then down for 10.  He's in a MD/PhD program so there's no such thing as 9-5 in my house. 

     
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    yrret107    November 28, 2009   Seattle, WA; Married in West Chester, PA

    It's not the DH who is the workaholic... it's me!

    Yeah, I work an average of 55 hours a week at my full time job and i'm in a part time masters program.  I'm so relieved that the wedding is over because doing everything now plus the wedding was a bit crazy.

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    FI is workaholic!!!!!!!  We even discussed that in our pre-canna classes as one of our issues.  I know he's only doing this for us so I'm pretty understanding about it.  We don't even have time to take our dance lessons. 

     
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    bamm    June 5th 2010/August 15th 2010   Seoul

    FI is not a workaholic, but his company makes him work insane hours (14 hrs. is an average day - and that's 5 days a week...with occasional mandatory weekend work and virtually no such thing as a sick day).  A lot of said 'work' is mandatory drinking bouts with his boss.  It's been a HUGE cultural adjustment for me, and I don't know if I will ever really be okay with it.  I'm trying to focus on the fact that it isn't FI;s choice, but I can't help being worried about how this will impact our future family life. 

     
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    poetryreader80    June 12, 2010   Florida/wedding in Maine

    My FI has a full time job + a part time business + he just got another part time job.  Part of this is because he's hoping the part time job will lead to a full time position, but the other reason is because he really wants to pay off our debts in the first year of marriage.  I know me being unemployed right now adds to the stress.  I just hope I get to see him!

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I'd say my FI is workaholic-lite... although his company makes it necessary sometimes. He is a corporate accountant and the first week of every month (month end) and first month of every year (year end) I basically just don't plan to see him. He'll work until 9, 10, 11 or later, plus weekends. I barely saw him this January and we were supposed to be dealing with closing on our house! His boss gave him a really hard time about leaving in time for our 4pm closing even though he'd gone in early! Then, he didn't want to give him the "weekend off" for moving even though its a WEEKEND and he'd worked every other weekend that month. ugh. lol. 

    He really doesn't seem to mind it though. He likes is job and he is a very hard worker. Sometimes I wish he hated having to work so much more... but on the other hand its really really nice to be with a person who is content in their job. It seems to be a rare-ish thing and its just awesome to not have to worry about his happiness in that area bc he likes it. 

     
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    ribbons    June 12, 2010  

    My fiance definitely is, but it's part of his job. Since he's a proposal writer, there are swells of work heavy periods when a lot of RFPs come out. There are also times when we has almost nothing to do. Right now, he's been working 65 hour weeks + all night at home :)

    It doesn't bother me currently since I'm really engrossed in wedding projects, but I'm sure once the wedding is over I'll start noticing it more.

     
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    tobemurphy10    October 10, 2010   MA

    YES!!! He is always working, but so am I so I can't complain too much. We both need the overtime especially in the economy we are in now. So whenever we can we pick up extra hours. Some day we can relax, but with no kids it's easy for us to do now

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    FI is an extreme workaholic when he can be. Since he owns his own company it sort of goes through phases. He also has a side job that he works four nights a week. It used to bother me in the beginning but I know why he is doing it and I really appreciate his hard work. I enjoy my alone time anyways so it sort of works for us. It's the weeks that work is slow that we get at each other's throats LOL

     
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    Ms iPhone    October 23, 2010   Southern California

    My FI can be a bit workaholic at times but that comes with being an attorney. He works some weekends and is typically in the office pretty early and leaves late. The past few months I've seen him even less because he's been getting ready for 2 trials coming up so he's been slammed. I do love that no matter how busy he is he'll always take the time to take my calls or call me just to say hello and I love you.

     
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    Ms. Caniche    September 18, 2010   Orange County, CA

    FI is a work-a-holic but so am I.  We are usually pretty good about leaving work at work though. 

     
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    missmouse29    July 2011   NWOntario, Canada

    FI is a huge workaholic. Usually averages 60+ hours a week. What is really irnoic about it is that the boss said he could 'have this weekend off" but he's already worked 14+ hours XD

     

    Sure makes it tough to find time to wind down, let alone talk wedding.

     
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    rawrkitty1022    October 22, 2010   Cincinnati, OH

    That's my fiance! Workaholic. He is devoted to the projects he does. I know this is a good thing, but I also know that I feel the most loved when he spends quality time with me...makes it hard sometimes, right?

     
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    I am definitely a workaholic (much more than my FI).  It's definitely challenging at times - I get caught up at work/ school and focus on that much more than a should.  Unfortunately wedding planning suffers as well (I will go for weeks or months without doing a single thing for the wedding...)  

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    My FI is definitely a workaholic - he works at a hedge fund and loves it. Right now I am also at an intense job, so I don't really miss him, but when I transition to a more normal career, I think it might be tough. I am really happy he found a job he loves right out of college, though, even if the hours are a bit crazy :) 

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    oh yes...my FI is a workaholic for sure. He owns his own company so he can't stop for a minute. Even with his busy schedule, he still remembers to ask about the wedding progress and sometimes makes it to the appointments I've set up. That's a big deal because there are just not enough hours in the day for him.

    He tells me he's doing it for us; for our future and the future of our little kiddos (we haven't had them yet) :o)

    gotta love him...

     
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    WendyS328    February 11, 2011   Saint Louis,MO

    Mine is Frown   He literally works 7 days a week.  I only see him on Saturday evenings.  And he always volunteers to work on holidays i.e. Christmas, Thanksgiving,Valentines Day etc. for the insane overtime.

     

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