Post # 1
We’ve decided to get married in the caribbean! Most likely St. Thomas but T prefers St. John as he’s familiar w/the area.
So so excited! I’ve left behind my wedding worries and stress, it will be easily planned, and am bringing that amazing shell bouquet I had created and my dress and we’ll fly into our destination, hang out for a while and then fill out the paperwork/get legal and then tie the knot over the weekend! We’re working out the details now, and even though there will be only 3 of us (including my son) attending, I still want it elegant.
So how many here are doing the “scheduled elopement” type of destination wedding? Who’s excited along with me?
If so, where’s your wedding, how many are coming and what have you got planned for when you return? How are you handling announcements?
When we return after having a week long vacation, we’ll relax a day or so and then have our reception for our friends and family! Lovin’ it!
Post # 3
Well, as you already know, I am one of the “scheduled elopement” peeps! We are just going the two of us to MX and having a symbolic ceremony with photog and all. Doing the legal thing here the Sunday before we leave (too complex and $$$ in MX) with our two witnesses and a friend who became ordained to marry us. We are all going to bruch afterwards. Got our AZ marriage license the other day.
Fiance and I are spending 10 days in the Riviera Maya. I’ve got everything almost done. We need to work on our vows/ceremony and we are still waiting for our fingerprint bands to come from the Etsy seller.
We are planning to send out announcements and maybe have a very small, casual party when we return.
Very excited for you!!! You can now focus on the important stuff – ceremony, vows, and HONEYMOON!
Post # 5
We are in the process of canceling our big wedding. We may do a destination wedding… I’m not sure yet!
Post # 6
We are having a scheduled elopement! I feel a bit ridiculous calling it an elopement, since it was scheduled 10 months in advance! My vacation schedule is not very flexible. We are spending 2 week in Thailand and getting married on the 4th day of our trip. It was great-I planned our entire wedding day in 3 emails. It will just be the 2 of us.
Two months after we return my parents are throwing us a huge reception that is just like a regular wedding reception, without the ceremony.
Post # 7
@AZbride: So happy for you too! Sounds so fun and heavenly! I love MX! Btw, I too saw those amazing fingerprint bands on etsy and fell in love!
I have to admit…doing things this way is far less stressy and actually puts the va va voom and excitement factor and romance back into things!
@cbee: go for it! Nothing like a romantic getaway and the most intimate of vows!
@cakegal: Youres sounds so romantic and amazing too! Wow, Thailand! We’re also doing the reception when we return. I can’t wait to see your pics (do post them here!) as it sounds like such a lovely location!
Post # 8
I’m so happy for you! You just put lots of stress behind you by doing that!
We did this in Punta Cana.
Our announcements were actually invites – cause if people could come, we thought: great; but we would have gotten married alone anyway.
14 guests actually decided to come.
We had paperwork to fill out here in Canada and deal with the DR embassy; so our ceremony over there was the “real deal” – legal and all.
My SIL wanted to plan a party after our return, but by the time the planning started, we were married two months and saw our friends – we kinda didn’t see the point of celebrating us anymore, because we had our moment at the wedding; and don’t like being centre of attention; so we thanked her, but decided not to have the party after all.
My parents will be hosting a BBQ for my side of the family that couldn’t come, mostly for my grandmother, where they’ll release our wedding video (my dad is a pro); so we have that to look forward to.
Bottom line: it was AWESOME, no stress, and I’m sooo glad for you.
You will probably get criticized a bit for your choice, but that is IMO, better than all the drama and stress and heartaches that come with more traditional plans.
Enjoy your wedding!
Post # 9
I’m so happy this was what you wanted and that it worked out soo well!
I seriously do not think we’ll get any criticism for changing what we’re going to do because 1)it’s cheaper having them come to ATL rather than florida 2)there is an oil slick sadly nearing the gulf beaches
So far everybody is down totally with our reception when we return!
Our invite will be an announcement will be similar to how yours was, except we are only inviting (it’s going to be worded just so) to the reception when we return.
I’m getting a bit excited! It’s going to be so much fun! Literally, I’ve gotten things priced out just so that I can have literally everything I wanted for the wedding, including photography and video for 1500! Everything. I’ve been working and really considering key west btw!
Post # 10
We are just in the beginning stages of discussing this possiblity of a scheduled elopement. We were talking about wedding stuff yesterday and one of us said, “wouldn’t it be nice if we could just go off, the two of us, and have a meaningful private ceremony without all the pomp and people watching us?” and then we realized….WE COULD!
We’re giddy over this idea! We’re both the youngest children in big families so we don’t think anyone will really care. we’ll have a big party when we get home.
We’re thinking Hawaii….I am really excited about doing a traditional hawaiin wedding ceremony as i am spiritual but not religious, and when i thought about having the wedding at home I was really struggling with figuring out how to have a ceremony that felt meaningful and authentic.
Post # 11
Bellenga, congrats on your choice and your upcoming wedding! i have been planning a destination elopement to Maui for about two months now and just this very morning started to think about St. John because it will be a lot less expensive flying from the East Coast (the airfare to St. Thomas, for starters didn’t cause me to have a heart attack 🙂 I would love a few tips from someone who’s been to St. John. I’ve started to research, but an insider’s perspective is always better. I could write a book about Hawaii but have never been anywhere in the Caribbean.
And yes, it’s very exciting!
Post # 12
We are! We don’t want a dog and pony show; we want a small, intimate thing. Right now, we’re thinking Colorado. 😀
Post # 13
We are! We’re having it at Breezes Bahamas (the wedding is free!), We will have 8 guests! I am beyond excited! They do everything all we have to do is show up! Much easier then all the problems i’ve had with vendors for our hometown reception!
Post # 14
We’re getting married with our immediate families only in a tiny town in the Austrian Alps. We’re so excited and though my Fiance would have prefered a larger wedding and reception, I’m very happy! I honestly would have eloped but we decided it was more important for our parents and siblings to be with us.
As an “older” bride at 35, I want to focus on our marriage and our life before us instead of spending huge amounts of money on one day (we live in SF, where the avg. wedding is between $35,000-50,000).
I hope everyone else is enjoying the process! We’ve got a little more than two months to go for our wedding and I can’t wait!!!!
Post # 15
I am so loving hearing everybodys’ plans!
Right n ow I’m sitting here surrounded by more boxes and am moving to T’s house this weekend!
After the big move, we can immediately focus again on our dw and the reception!
Post # 16
we are having a small destination wedding and im glad because its way less of a headache for me. also, i can immediately start my honeymoon.