(Closed) Who’s Having “Scheduled Elopement” or Small Dest. Wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, as you already know, I am one of the “scheduled elopement” peeps! We are just going the two of us to MX and having a symbolic ceremony with photog and all. Doing the legal thing here the Sunday before we leave (too complex and $$$ in MX) with our two witnesses and a friend who became ordained to marry us. We are all going to bruch afterwards. Got our AZ marriage license the other day.

Fiance and I are spending 10 days in the Riviera Maya. I’ve got everything almost done. We need to work on our vows/ceremony and we are still waiting for our fingerprint bands to come from the Etsy seller.

We are planning to send out announcements and maybe have a very small, casual party when we return.


Very excited for you!!! You can now focus on the important stuff – ceremony, vows, and HONEYMOON!

Post # 4
1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010
Post # 5
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are in the process of canceling our big wedding.  We may do a destination wedding… I’m not sure yet!

Best wishes!

Post # 6
722 posts
Busy bee

We are having a scheduled elopement! I feel a bit ridiculous calling it an elopement, since it was scheduled 10 months in advance! My vacation schedule is not very flexible. We are spending 2 week in Thailand  and getting married on the 4th day of our trip. It was great-I planned our entire wedding day in 3 emails. It will just be the 2 of us.


Two months after we return my parents are throwing us a huge reception that is just like a regular wedding reception, without the ceremony.

Post # 8
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m so happy for you! You just put lots of stress behind you by doing that!

We did this in Punta Cana.

Our announcements were actually invites – cause if people could come, we thought: great; but we would have gotten married alone anyway.

14 guests actually decided to come.

We had paperwork to fill out here in Canada and deal with the DR embassy; so our ceremony over there was the “real deal” – legal and all.

My SIL wanted to plan a party after our return, but by the time the planning started, we were married two months and saw our friends – we kinda didn’t see the point of celebrating us anymore, because we had our moment at the wedding; and don’t like being centre of attention; so we thanked her, but decided not to have the party after all.

My parents will be hosting a BBQ for my side of the family that couldn’t come, mostly for my grandmother, where they’ll release our wedding video (my dad is a pro); so we have that to look forward to.

Bottom line: it was AWESOME, no stress, and I’m sooo glad for you.
You will probably get criticized a bit for your choice, but that is IMO, better than all the drama and stress and heartaches that come with more traditional plans.

Enjoy your wedding!

Post # 10
32 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

We are just in the beginning stages of discussing this possiblity of a scheduled elopement.  We were talking about wedding stuff yesterday and one of us said, “wouldn’t it be nice if we could just go off, the two of us, and have a meaningful private ceremony without all the pomp and people watching us?”  and then we realized….WE COULD!

We’re giddy over this idea!  We’re both the youngest children in big families so we don’t think anyone will really care.  we’ll have a big party when we get home.


We’re thinking Hawaii….I am really excited about doing a traditional hawaiin wedding ceremony as i am spiritual but not religious, and when i thought about having the wedding at home I was really struggling with figuring out how to have a ceremony that felt meaningful and authentic.

Post # 11
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Bellenga, congrats on your choice and your upcoming wedding! i have been planning a destination elopement to Maui for about two months now and just this very morning started to think about St. John because it will be a lot less expensive flying from the East Coast (the airfare to St. Thomas, for starters didn’t cause me to have a heart attack 🙂  I would love a few tips from someone who’s been to St. John.  I’ve started to research, but an insider’s perspective is always better.  I could write a book about Hawaii but have never been anywhere in the Caribbean.

And yes, it’s very exciting! 


Post # 12
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We are! We don’t want a dog and pony show; we want a small, intimate thing. Right now, we’re thinking Colorado. 😀

Post # 13
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are! We’re having it at Breezes Bahamas (the wedding is free!), We will have 8 guests! I am beyond excited! They do everything all we have to do is show up! Much easier then all the problems i’ve had with vendors for our hometown reception!

Post # 14
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re getting married with our immediate families only in a tiny town in the Austrian Alps.  We’re so excited and though my Fiance would have prefered a larger wedding and reception, I’m very happy!  I honestly would have eloped but we decided it was more important for our parents and siblings to be with us.

As an “older” bride at 35, I want to focus on our marriage and our life before us instead of spending huge amounts of money on one day (we live in SF, where the avg. wedding is between $35,000-50,000).

I hope everyone else is enjoying the process!  We’ve got a little more than two months to go for our wedding and I can’t wait!!!!

Post # 16
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we are having a small destination wedding and im glad because its way less of a headache for me. also, i can immediately start my honeymoon.Smile

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