Post # 1
I had originally thought that I would just invite the females in my family and friends as well as the female’s in my fiance’s immediate family (sisters, mother, grandmothers). After speaking to my mom, she thinks it will be insulting to leave out any of the females on my fiance’s side. That will take my bridal shower from about 50 guests to about 100 guests. #1) I feel guilty inviting that many people and having my mother pay for all of them and 2) Is it customary to invite all these people?!
Post # 3
I’m having about 120 guests. I’m inviting my family and some of his as well. Then I invited my close friends (I don’t have many), but I do have a LOT of family. Granted, our wedding will be having 550 guests so I assumed the shower would have a large guest list as well.
If your mom is the one who brought up the issue of inviting his family too, then you shouldn’t worry or feel bad about her paying for them.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Usually showers are small, like under maybe 30, and you have multiple if there are lots of ladies invited to the wedding, a different shower per social group.
Post # 5
For my shower, I had 32 people attend (we invited 40 people). It was lovely! The shower was at a local catering venue.
I didn’t invite all ladies who are on the wedding guest list. I felt like my shower should be family such as moms, aunts, cousins, and only my closest female friends (I did invite a few of my FI’s closest female friends also). I would not have wanted too many more people than that number since it was already a little difficult in trying to spend time with each person.
Since there are so many people on your shower guest list, you might want to consider having a separate shower with friends & co-workers, separate shower with family, etc.
Post # 6
My invites are going out tomorrow (my Maid/Matron of Honor is sending them) and we invited less than 25. The guests include close family members, mom’s close friends, and my close friends. Everyone is female and of course invited to the wedding as well. We left a few people off (wives of FI’s friends that don’t know me well and long distance friends who wouldn’t be able to come).
Post # 7
I was under the impression that etiquette indicates that every woman who is invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. The bachelorette party is for your closest females, and the shower is for everyone…
Now, I don’t know if I necessarily love this, because I found out yesterday that this means I will be having 3 separate showers (my mom’s fam, my dad’s fam and FI’s fam) since our families are way too big.
Post # 8
I invited all the women from my wedding list who would be able to come. I wouldn’t want to leave anyone out since I’ve been talking about it on facebook.
Post # 9
I will also be having multiple showers…
1) Moms family 2) Dads family + friends 3) FI’s family 4) Church shower
Cannot believe how many.
Weddings truly make you feel loved & supported, though!
Post # 10
I told my mom I didn’t want one.We are only having 30 people at our wedding.lol
Post # 11
yikes… I don’t know how I’ll pull that off. What about out of state guests? I had planned on not inviting them because I know they cant make it – so it ends up feeling like a gift-grab, doesn’t it?
and should I just give the invite list to my mom/bridesmaids so that everyone gets included?
I had thought it would just be the bridal party, my mom and female relatives, and a few good friends…. all of FI’s family are a 4 hour flight away…
Post # 12
I chose to keep it small. Honestly, for most weddings we’ve been to, unless I’ve been family or in the bridal party I have not been invited, so I totally don’t think it’s necessary to invite every female member.
I kept it small. I invited all of my girlfriends, all of the females in my family, all of the SO’s of the groomsman, and I asked Future Mother-In-Law who I should invite from her side. Mostly friends….any family that is out of state is not invited. I kind of find showers with over 50 people to be ridiculous…it’s not a mini wedding, and yes, it’s too “gift-grabby” in my opinion.
Post # 13
@mandypop: I gave my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor (who is FI’s sister) my guest list and let them handle the rest. I’m not sure if they are inviting out of state guests, but I believe they are. I would want those people to know I would love for them to be there, even if they couldn’t make it. I guess I hadn’t even thought about gifts, it was just another celebration with the women in mY family… My family has been talking about all the parties since I got engaged though, so I wouldn’t leave anyone out.
Post # 14
We are splitting mine into 2 bc the numbers are so big. I will have mine given by my mom for all of my family ( dads side, moms side) and friends, then FI’s mom will throw me one for all of his family.
Post # 15
we invited probably 60 people. However that included everybody from out of state (extended family, old neighbors, etc) so we only had about 15 at the shower. We knew it would turn out this way, and lots of people sent gifts