Post # 1
So, I tried to be nice and ask my FMIL if she would like to invite a friend or two to my bridal shower and also to let her know who in her family I was inviting and if I missed anyone. Then she writes me an email saying in the “old days you invite everyone who is invited to the wedding, on that note” then she listed all the women she is supposedly inviting to the wedding. It turns out to be about 12 friends/family. Most of them I hardly know or don’t know at all!
Does this sound right?! I always thought the bridal shower is the brides close family and close friends. Not every single woman invited to the wedding! Or guests that the bride hardly knows.
Post # 3
I have heard that traditionally you invite all women to the shower that are invited to the wedding, but I think nowadays it is more commonly excepted to have a small shower with just close friends and family.
Post # 4
No, I don’t think it’s common to invite every woman that’s invited to the wedding. Showers are generally for close family and friends.
Post # 5
wow, i have never heard of that… maybe i’m too young haha
i was just explaining this to my MOH. it should be your bridal party, any relatives you wish to be there & close friends. Good luck!
Post # 6
I think at one time people did that, but it’s much more common to just invite close friends and family.
My FMIL asked that we invite her one friend to the shower who is invited to the wedding. She apparently assumed we were inviting all the women who were attending the wedding to the shower. She told her friend she was invited, not realizing my BMs were throwing a small shower. I added her to the list since I felt bad.
We invited 194 people to the wedding, and I had a shower guest list of 25… if that gives you an idea 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks everyone…at least I know I’m not crazy. We’re inviting close to 300 people, so inviting every woman to the shower is just ridiculous.