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We found our bands today and FI selected a 9mm tungsten band. It's exactly what he wanted (pic below) and is so "him".
What do your men think of their tungsten rings? The saleswoman at the store sort of advised against tungsten, claiming that if something happened to it, an ER would have to cut his finger off to get the ring off (I thought I'd heard that most ERs now have tools taht will cut these metals like tungsten and titanium?), that they shatter easily, and cannot be buffed to get rid of scratches. Luckily, the place we bought the ring works with a company that will buff or replace a broken ring easily as long as the customer pays shipping. Sounds easy enough.
We were drawn to tungsten because it was cheap...FI will be a doctor and in a hospital constantly, meaning he'll probably have to take it off for certain procedures, etc. I know for a fact during his surgery rotations he'll have to take it off completly. He's said that some surgeons he's worked with have to take off their rings and tie them into their scrub pants to keep track of them.
All of this sounds like a recipe to lose the ring, which I fully expect him to do at least once. I'd be a whole lot less mad about him losing the tungsten ring--even if it takes a little bit longer/more effort to replace--than I would him losing an $800+ platinum/palladium/white gold ring.
How do y'all (or your husbands) like your/their tungstens??
My husband has a tungsten ring, he loves it! He said no to platinum and gold rings, he just wanted tungsten.
The lady at the jewelry store is wrong about "have to cut his finger off". That's total BS. Tungsten is actually SAFER because it will shatter if smashed in a vice or under heavy equipment, whereas metals like platinum, gold, silver, etc., will squish and stay squished, so they will continue squishing the finger until they are actually cut off.
DH and I both have tungsten wedding bands that we wear when we're doing things/going unknown places and don't want anything to happen to our diamonds.
FI is most likely getting tungsten. He is required to remove jewelry whenever he is working and he'll take it off whenever he skates when he's off duty. He likes the durability of it but mostly, he wants one of the LOTR rings and the one he's picked only comes in tungsten.
@abbyful: is right, the lady is at the jewelry is mistaken in the "have to cut his finger off". Many hospitals have to do that for titanium, but tungstun will shatter. The cool thing about it is that it stays shiny and doesn't really scratch. Nice job on the bands!
my FI wants tungsten carbide. He is not a guy that would like wearing rings at all usually. But he says, he likes tungsten carbide because it's black, and very masculine.
Mine has a tungsten carbide ring, he liked the gun metalish darker color over platinum or gold. He's had it for about 6 months now and it's held up great, no scratches or dents or anything, and he wears it all the time - yard work, car work, house maintenance..... His still looks brand new while my band needs to be buffed again.
@Chay: my FI is the same way...not too fond of wearing anything on his hands/fingers...he barely wears his watch because of how often he has to wash his hands while seeing patients. He was so funny...he was such a novice at trying on rings that he was trying to pull rings off that he'd tried on but was stretching his finger out and making his kunuckle huge so he coudln't get rings off. The lady was like "okay, you obviously have never worn a ring, relax your finger and slide the ring up and over the knuckle". lol!
@pinkshoes: Love that ring!! I do think they are so much more masculine. I feel certain my FI will shatter or lose his at some point at least once in our marriage, so the fact that these are not precious metals make me feel good!!
we will be getting a tungsten for my SO when we get married. he likes the gunmetal and black ones! i like them!
My FI has worn a tungsten promise ring for 3 years and loved it so much we're using it for his wedding band. Hospitals can get it off. It doesn't shatter "easily," rather it shatters instead of bending. It won't bend. Also, in 3 years of machine shop work (he's an engineer) his hasn't gotten a scratch, so buffing is unnecessary. I don't know why salesmen tell people these things...
@Chay: My FI is the same way. He says Tungsten is cool. This is the ring we got for him.
My husband has tungsten carbide. He is an auto mechanic and it was important to both of us that he get a ring that he would be able to wear every day. He rarely takes his ring off. It has no imperfections or scratches and looks brand new. He has gotten paint on it, tree sap, oil, you name it. He does yardwork with it on with no issue. He has even dropped it a few times with no issue. The place we got his ring at has a size guarantee, we just pay shipping and they will send a new one.
@Chay: same with my husband.....he says the tungsten makes it less girly because "alllll jewelry is girly". Man have odd ideas sometimes
@pinkshoes: His looks exactly like that!
Your man will love it! Dh gets compliments all the time and I get credit for picking it even though I had nothing to do with it. I was originally going for white gold and thinner but it didn't happen.
FI has a tungsten band and loves it - I was very relieved when he found it, he tried on way more rings than I did before deciding on one! Sounds like she was just using some lame scare tactics to get you to buy a more expensive ring - I'm sure there's been awful scenarios where those rings did shatter, cause problems when someone's hand was injured, etc - but they are extremely rare, not everyday occurances.
my FI does,the guy we bought our ring from gave it to him for free because my family has been dealing with him for a while ...he loves it! but it hurts me when e give each other high fives lol
This ring is tungsten carbide with a carbon fiber inlay. DH is getting one of these (only $20) as a backup ring to keep in the car for days when he forgets to put his wedding ring on before he leaves the house. I was originally going to get him a tungsten carbide ring with a Celtic knot pattern as his weddng ring, but he didn't want it after the salesman said it would shatter if dropped. His real wedding ring is made of stainless steel.
FI wanted one but a friend of ours (a ER Dr) told us that this metal cannot be cut and if he were ever need it to be cut off for an emergency, it wouldnt be able to
lol my FI works at the hospital and we didnt even think of that..opps. But he did drop his ring plenty of times but it never shattered
"the salesman said it would shatter if dropped"
It takes more force than just being dropped to shatter tunsten carbide. If you dropped it off a skyscraper it would probably shatter, but dropping it on the floor it would be fine. It takes a significant amount of force to shatter.
My FI's ring is a tungsten ring. I (accidentally) purchased it a size too small and with all his "wisdom" he still shoved it on his finger. It wouldnt come off by any means. We used ice, olive oil, vaseline, everything. It started to make his finger swell so we went to the ER, it took about 4 hours for them to cut the ring off of his finger. The regular jewelry cutter did not work and they had to use an electric one. When they finally got it off it shattered into several pieces and DID NOT just squish his finger. Having said that I will definitely be buying him another tungsten wedding ring (in the right size). Even with that experience I still highly reccomend them. They look fantastic and they WILL SHATTER BEFORE THEY SQUISH!!!!
Both my husband and I chose Tungsten Carbide for our wedding bands, and I LOVE them. Interesting to note, tungsten itself is actually rarer than platinum and gold (despite the crazy price differences)!
We have been married 4 1/2 years and neither ring has a single scratch, they look brand new and have never been polished! In fact, they can only be scratched by something as hard as a diamond or sapphire abrasion! Tungsten is often compared to titanium, but titanium is far weaker, way *way* lighter, and scratches easily.
As others have said, the statements about them shattering and not being able to remove them are absurd & total BS. This webiste, where we ended up buying from, has more info: http://www.e-weddingbands.com/store/tungsten-ring-faq.html#Cut
I love the heavy weight and dark look of my wedding band, and that I can do anything without worrying about damaging it or having to take it off -- it's indestructable! Also I've never seen another woman wearing one like it, and how cool is it to have jewelry made from such a *useful* metal, one that has hard-core industrial applications?! Ok so maybe most women wouldn't care for that last bit, but all the more reason for it to be a great man's ring!
In short, I think this metal is awesome, way better than weak gold/platinum if you like durrability and strength in your jewelry. We got matching beveled bands, his in 8mm and mine in 6mm, and have never regretted the decision. :-D
PS for our 1 year wedding anniversary, I bought my husband a gorgeous watch made of Tungsten Carbide (from Android), which he also loves and which has never shown wear, despite very rough use -- a great gift idea for your man! Also that black tungsten looks fab, that wasn't available when we got married...
My husband's ring is tungsten and he loves it very much! I loved how inexpensive it was and how it maintains it's luster despite the wear.
@akp0702: We just order the exact band for FI. I don't have any pictures of it on him yet, but I will post once I do. It was a mutual favorite. Now, all I have to do is find mine! Yours is beautiful, by the way!
DH has a tungsten ring and he loves it. The price was definitely a deciding factor, but he also like that it was as bright as white gold and that it felt heavier and more substantial.
We were told that it would likely shatter in case of an accident and that the hospital just uses a vice to crack it off. If he is doing something where the likelyhood of getting hurt is higher (running the chain saw, working around the farm), he just doesn't wear it. But he wouldn't wear a gold ring either.
@akp0702: my husband has one too, just like yours! And also my wedding band is similar to yours too, they look nice together, don't they?!
my husband likes his. he sometimes switches it from one hand to the other - i think he is still not used to wearing a ring period as he never has before worn any kind of jewelery.
DH has tungston with a carbon fiber inlay (he wanted color too) and it's held up great. We had to send it out to get it engraved but otherwise haven't had any complaints. He has large fingers so we were happy to find one in his size.
DH loves his ring too. Best part? It only costs $18. I would guess that the jeweler either isn't a fan of them personally or that she was trying to sell you a more expensive gold band.
@jo.lee: I definitely agree. We buy from a diamond wholesaler here in Raleigh, the owner of which actually has a diamond mine in Israel, allowing them to sell diamonds for much lower prices than jewerly stores who have to go through "middle men" and cause a raise in rpices. we assume they trashed tungsten in the hopes to sell us a gold, palladium, or platinum band, because they could make mor emoney off of those since they're not from their own diamond mine!!
My fiance's engagement ring and his wedding band are titanium...
He is highly allergic to nickel and neither silver nor gold would work for him- he gets a nasty rash.... :(
The titanium is a perfect metal choice for folks with metal based allergies... here is his engagement ring.
And here is his wedding band:
Both were incredibly affordable. The engagement ring was less than $60 and the wedding band was about $400 - because it has little diamonds in it.... he wanted a three stong design to match mine :)
My FI has a tungsten ring. He is changing now though because it is completely unpractical and thick, looks like a few pics I've seen on here. Broad as well. We are getting him a new, a thinner ring in white gold.
@Keisha In Love: My FI is also highly allergic to nickel. Even pant buttons will irritate his stomach :(
I bought FI a tungsten for christmas and he loves it says it is the exact weight he wants on his finger if not more
@akp0702: His ring is 8mm and his ring size is 12, but since it's a comfort fit band he had to go down a size to 11. He has pretty big hands the 8mm band was the perfect preportion for him. Here's the website for it.
@akp0702: i honestly have no idea. he just tried them on the store and picked one he liked, we didn't really get the details.
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