Post # 1
I don’t have any friends w/ children, and all my cousins are too old to be my flower girl…so, I asked one of my mom’s co-workers if her daughter could do it. I met the lady on a few different occasions, and she gave me lots of maternity clothes when I was expecting…
I sent her a cute card, asking if her daughter could be involved- and never heard back from her. My mom talked to her about it, and she said she would be honored…yadda yadda….
Fast forward. I emailed her a few days ago about ordering the dress for FG, and she responded telling me that they are having problems at home, and they aren’t sure where this will take them. And she doesnt want to hold up my wedding plans…
I’m so frustrated right now! We have no flowergirl! It’s going to be a very small wedding, w/ only a MOH and BM…but I think it will just be incomplete 🙁
Post # 3
I’m so sorry! I’ll be honest. We never even considered having a flower girl. There wasn’t anyone in our lives that we wanted to honor that way, so we didn’t see the point. I think the only reason to have a flower girl is if there’s a little girl (or two!) that you love and want to give a special place to on your wedding day. If there isn’t, I don’t think there’s really any need for a flower girl at all.
Post # 4
I didn’t have a fg, either. If there was a cute little one in our lives, at the time, probably we would have. But there wasn’t, and I didn’t really mind a bit. I’m a little too anal to be laid back about a fg or rb having a tantrum down the aisle, or something.
I’m not sure what the problem is with Fg’s family. But if it’s money (and you want a fg that badly) would it solve the problem for you to pay for her dress and other little expenses? Maybe your mom could ask?
** Wait a second. Do you have a daughter? Why not have her as a fg? She looks little (and cute!), but she’s your daughter. Lots of babies are in weddings. Someone carries them down the aisle, or pulls a wagon or something. She’d be the cutest.
Post # 5
We’re likely not having anyone, because there just isn’t anyone special to have. My niece will be about 16 months, which is likely too young. We’ll probably dress her up anyways, but I digress. I think there are lots of flower girl-less people out there, it’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 6
We don’t have one and while I’m sad to not have a small girl to dress up there is no one we are close to who will be there. FI was going to ask his God-daughter but her dad (his friend) just got hired for a new job starting the month of our wedding and won’t be able to travel to the wedding so she’S not coming and while we could have asked friends of the family, FI pointed out that it does not make sense to have them for the sake of it since we’ve only ever really met the little girls twice.
I also think you should have your daughter do it, maybe an older cousin could carry her down the aisle and hten you would get to include them both.
Post # 7
@mrsmdphd – I’m on the same page as you. FI and I had serious discussions if this girl should do it, since she has no relation or sentiment to us, but we descided to go ahead w/ it… It’s nice to know theres another bride w/ no flowergirl though 🙂
@tanya123 – I was going to buy the dress anyway…thats why I originally emailed the mother. My daughter will be involved, just not sure how yet. She’ll only be 10 months old 🙂
Post # 8
We’re not having a flower girl. We have special kids in our life, but they are all too young to be flower girl (our church requires children in the wedding to be five years old). Since none of the kids we are close to fit that category, we chose not to have a flower girl.
IMO, a flower girl is not going to make or break your wedding. Don’t worry about it.
Post # 9
We don’t have any little girls in our lives right now either. Honestly; if there isn’t anyone close to you then it’s no big deal. On the other hand; we have about 4 little boys that we can choose from… So we will have a little army of ring bearers. I think it’s fine.
Post # 10
@slicey19 – that is a great idea to have an older coulsin walk the baby down the aisle!
Post # 11
Sorry to hear about your situation. My brother just got married and they chose not to have a flower girl and everything still looked wonderful. I’m sure your wedding with be beautiful.
Post # 12
We have a little boy and a little girl in our lives but are not having a fg or rb because I really did not want one. 🙂 You’re definitely not the only one.
Post # 13
Yeah, I hate to say it, but it doesn’t sound like you’re too close to this girl and her family. I think of a flower girl as someone who you are very close to, a godchild or a niece, or even your own daughter, but not just some child who you sort of know and happens to be the right age. We’re not having a flower girl, and the majority of weddings I have been to haven’t had one either. If the mom is trying to back out of this, she may have felt uncomfortable because she knows you guys are that close, but didn’t know how to say “no”. I say let her back out and just don’t have a FG.
Post # 14
we arent having one for two reasons (and my FSIL actually has a 4 year old) –
1) the venue we are having for the ceremony is a historic chapel and you arent allowed to throw flowers on the floor for safety reasons (its a slate floor and is slippery – we cant have an aisle runner either)
2) i hate to be vain, but shes adorable, and while cute throws insane fits when she isnt the center of attention (shes just a kid so its not like i blame her or anything though) so im afraid that if shes IN the wedding she will draw the most attention – in both a good and bad way. and quite frankly, its supposed to be about the bride and groom.
but its ok to not have one.
my sister didnt have a flower girl because there werent any young girls she knew at the time to do the job.
Post # 15
I had 2 flowergirls initially for our destination wedding, but because of school and financial issues they will no longer get to come (or their parents). But we’re okay with it! We figured that might happen with our wedding being so far away! It’ll still be fun regardless!
Post # 16
I’m not having a flower girl… We don’t know anyone who could be. If we were close to a little girl then we probably would ask her, but we aren’t. My sister didn’t have one either and her wedding was still great. 🙂