Post # 1
You don’t need to say how much it costs. I’m just purely curious as to the old tradition of the bride’s parents paying – how much of that is still happening?
My wedding is a hodge podge. If I were to explain fully, it would take all night. Relationships are funny and working situations are funny. My mom and step dad (whom I actually consider my dad) are contributing about $1000. My dad, whom I really don’t have a relationship with but I’m trying to repair it, has contributed $1800 so far – completely out of the blue, I was never anticipating this. So that made me tear up a bit when he offered! My step-grandpa is also spending about $1100 (let me say that again – STEP-grandpa! Sooooo generous for him to offer anything!!!). I have put in about $3500 and my poor fiancee is catching the brunt of and he’s contributed about $8000. I feel terrible because he doesn’t care one bit about the “wedding”, he just cares about being married, and he’s only give me the big white wedding because he wants to make me happy. Unfortunately for him the tradition of the bride’s family paying for it just isn’t happening so he’s footing most of the bill because he makes most of the money. 🙁
And there’s still more to go. (I’m estimating about $20,000 at the end.)
I feel so blessed to have so many people that want to be a part of making this day everything I’ve ever dreamed. My family/fiancee is AMAZING!!!!!
Post # 3
My parents 50% / FI & I 50%
Post # 5
My parents are paying a big chunk, and FI’s parents, FI, and I are also all contributing.
Post # 6
I am paying 100% of the wedding. Work 50+ hours a week and I am a student. I don’t know how I do it…. I just do?
Post # 7
My parents are spending 20k, his parents 14k, us 40k. This includes rings, honeymoon, gifts, taxes, tips.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
My parents, his parents, and FI and I (: We haven’t worked out who will pay what though.
Post # 11
FI and I all the way. His parents have offered to loan us some money that we can pay back after the wedding. Since cash is usually given as gifts at Asian weddings, paying back the loan shouldn’t be a problem. I’m just hesitant to owe anyone that much money even if its for a couple of months!
Post # 12
We had a little bit of drama with this, but I guess no wedding comes without drama!
After reading about what so many Bee’s do, I’m not sure if I was right or not with this…
My parents are paying for our side of the guests (family, their friends, my friends). They requested that FI’s parents pay for their guests. At first FI’s family stated an amount that they would pay for the wedding, but that amount would not cover their guests (FI’s parents were involved in picking the venue, etc. with us). I’m not sure if they assumed my parents would pay for the rest of their guests or what. Anyways, what I have arranged with FI is that we will work out the proportion or percentage of each sides guests and they will pay that much.
My parents have been putting down all the deposits so far, so we are unsure if we will get the full amount from FI’s parents. Luckily my parents are willing to pay whatever for me to have my dream wedding (WITHIN reason!!) and to avoid any extra drama. Hope it turns out okay!
Post # 13
My parents are paying for it. But thats cus A. they’re well-off vs me and my FI and his family and B. because I’m still young (22, 24 when I get married)
Post # 14
We split it equally three ways between FI and I, his dad/stepmom, and my mom/dad.
Post # 15
We have VERY little money to our names. My parents are paying pretty much everything, but we’re hoping to contribute about 2k by the time the wedding gets here. His parents are [hopefully, but highly unlikely] going to pay for the rehearsal dinner.