(Closed) Who's planning from a distance?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

When we started planning our Chicago wedding we lived in the midwest. It was a PITA trying to set up meeting with vendors. We had to interview all of the 5 photographers in one weekend, bands in one weekend, etc. I hated driving to Chicago every month (6 hour drive each way). We were living in the midwest because we both got jobs in our college city. Then my Fiance found a new job an hour away from Chicago so now it is bliss!

Post # 5
28 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012


We’re up to six hours’ drive from the place we’re getting married. It’s just outside of Perth, and we’re in the country. Since 90 percent of the guests live there, and we’re from Perth originally anyway, it made sense to have it away from where we live.

The biggest challenge has been trying to get everyone in a room at once when we’re in town. That, and we have very little flexibility if things screw up – my dress will require at least one extra fitting after the bridal store got the measurements wrong, and it will cost me two days’ driving to get there and back for another session.

As far as suggestions? Find a venue with an experienced event planner, or get a wedding planner on the ground.

Post # 6
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We are planning from a distance as well.

His extended family is all spread out all over the country and will have to travel regardless (I do live close to his parents and brother though). The town I live in right now I hate and I’m moving as soon as we are married (or before, we haven’t figured that out yet). He lives in a different state right now because of his doctorate program. So we really don’t have any place that we call home, since he moved every few years as a kid.

So we are getting married back where I grew up (3 hours from me, 9 hours from FI), which will be nice because I have a huge extended family in the area and they won’t have to get hotels and travel much.

We are very recently engaged and haven’t started contacting vendors yet, but I’m hoping to utilize technology as much as we can and rely on family to help as needed. (My sister in laws and Mom have already said they will do whatever is needed as long as I ask!)

I do know I am dress shopping up here and I will do alterations here. As for who will come with me? His mom and SIL are only 30 minutes away!

Post # 7
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am currently in the Kansai region of Japan.

My wedding is in Ohio.

Fiance and I met whilst we were both living in Japan. He has moved home to Ohio, and I will follow him. I am from New Zealand, so he had to leave before me to get my fiance visa (which is in the works). I guess being so far away from Fiance is a challenge, and planning a wedding in a country that does weddings in a completely different way. Also, a lot of my friends and family can’t afford to come, which is sad, but nothing can really be done – it does mean my wedding is much smaller than I envisioned growing up. I have to do most of my planning in a 2 week visit over Christmas and 3 months before the wedding. I am doing as much as I can online and going from there. Also, my mother won’t be able to come dress shopping with me, which I’m kind of sad about.

Also, Fiance has just moved home (2 1/2 months ago). He is in transition, applying for grad schools. It makes everything bigger and scarier, as we only know we will be in the US (his discipline doesn’t actually exist in New Zealand, and visa wise it is best if we stay in one of our 2 countries). So we are planning for a wedding in Ohio, but have no idea where we will actually be based. Honeslty, immigrating to a new country is scary, although that’s not really wedding related.

Post # 8
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I planned my wedding in Virginia from Florida! I just made a few trips up and made those trips ALL about wedding. A lot of my planning, or preliminary planning was done over the internet or phone. I sent lots of emails and made lots of phone calls. Then I’d go up to VA and visit with my parents for about a week and pound out all of the venue visits, food tastings, dress trying on, and meetings with vendors. It made for pretty busy visits, but doing it that way made the planning go quickly, and it forced me to be decisive. Then once the decision was made, we rolled with it and never looked back! I think overall I made 3 visits up to Virginia prior to the wedding. 

Post # 9
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Where are you now: St Helens, Oregon

Where is your wedding: Lincoln City, Oregon (on the coast, over an hour and down south about 2…so around 3 hours for us)

Why? We both agreed we wanted a coast wedding. It brought out the “true Oregon” that we wanted for our guests to be around. And hi? Who doesn’t want to get married on the beach?!

What challenges have you been dealing with? VENDORS! Oh my gosh, so badly. The closest city that has a decent population is an hour and a half away, but even there there really isn’t much. All but one of our vendors is from the Portland area, so I get to pay travel fees for everyone. Happy happy joy joy -_-

*deep breath* It’ll alllll be worth it

Post # 10
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Where are you now: Atlanta, GA

Where is your wedding: Savannah, GA (about 4 hours away)

Why? We absolutely love the city, and it was the site of our first vacation together. Our reception venue is actually the place where we had our first fancy date!

What challenges have you been dealing with? I really feel for you all of you ladies who are planning across the country, and internationally – I can’t imagine! While we only live four hours away, my career is very demanding and I don’t have a ton of time to go back and forth – which is tough because I am the kind of person that needs to see, feel, touch & smell things to be comfortable moving forward, lol.

I’ll be down there next week competing in the Savannah Rock & Roll 1/2 Marathon, so I will have about a 1/2 day to try to find a ceremony site. I have contracted with a planner and know that will help a bunch once I upgrade to the full service package. It is important to me to have that local expertise to make sure things run smoothly and beautifully!

Post # 11
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


Where are you now: Baltimore, Maryland

Where is your wedding: Southwestern Minnesota

Why? FI and I are both originally from Southwestern MN so pretty much all of both of our very large families are there.  Never really imagined getting married anywhere else.

What challenges have you been dealing with? I guess I haven’t really noticed many challenges so far. Not many options for venues or locations so that wasn’t very hard to figure out.  We also travel home fairly frequently so I was able to get a lot of wedding stuff done on trips home that were already planned.  

Good luck with the planning!   It will all work out beautifully!

Post # 12
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Where are you now: Boston, MA

Where is your wedding: Chicago, IL

Why? We are both from Chicago.  We moved from there just over a year ago. All of our family and friends live in IL.

What challenges have you been dealing with?  The expense of traveling home to do things! Booking vendors, meeting with a priest, wedding shower, bachelor/bachelorette party, dress….its all a headache to me.  I don’t know if these are challenges or just headaches haha

Post # 13
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Where are you now: Texas

Where is your wedding: Maryland

Why? We’re both from Maryland, and the vast majority of our family won’t have to fly to get there, unlike TX, where all of them would have to

What challenges have you been dealing with? Logistics of what needs to planned when- I feel like with the long distance, we can’t really use the typical suggested planning timelines you can find around the internet. When we got engaged, we sat down with a list of everything that needed to be done, circled all the ones that absolutely had to be done in person, and managed to fit all of them in to only two visits back home. Because of that, everything has worked out quite well. Guess we’ll find out how successful we were in 9 days (holy flip, we’re in single digits!!!!)

Post # 14
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@future mrs Q:  Silly question – what parts did you do in person.?

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