Post # 1
Lately my fiance and i have been arguing over the stupidest thing. Slip cover’s for the chairs. Im all for them cause i think they tie the room together and make it more classy. He on the other hand says its stupid and no one remember’s if the chairs have slip covers or not. UGHH!!! Am i over reacting? are they really that important??
Post # 3
The importance of chari covers is probably different to every bride.
My personal taste is that they can be annoying to sit on and an unnecessary expense. Once a reception venue is full of people, it’s much much less noticeable.
But if the feel of your reception is really important to you and the chairs your venue offers really clash, than chair covers might be the best option for you.
When it comes to wedding decisions like this (the "little, but not so little" details, I think it’s important to take a step back and look at the big picture. If you compromise on some things, there’s a good chance your fiance will be willing to compromise on the things that are most important to you. Just get to the heart of the matter (is it the expense of the chair covers, or just the idea?)
Post # 4
have you got a pic of the chairs? do they need covering?
what about a compromise and just a tulle sash around the chair back to tie in with your scheme
Post # 5
I think its more about the comprimise. I feel like thats all i’ve been doing. Some brides are like " oh i want him to be MORE involved." Mine on the other hand is a groomzilla. okay not really but hes getting on my nerves about how we HAVE to get married in the church. We HAVE to have open bar. We HAVE to have it indoors. and we ARE NOT getting slip covers. He says its more of the expense. Im new to this whole planning the wedding thing but is $20,000 a good budget for a wedding?? I have no idea how much anything cost. i think our reception hall is about 9,000 for 350 pple.
Post # 6
Neither of your are "right." You just both have opinions.
If you’re wondering what the opinion is of people in the hive maybe you could try a survey post. But ultimately if that’s not what you’re looking for then I think it just comes down to a compromise between the two of you.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
I don’t know how prices are in Ohio, but that is a great budget for a 350 person wedding here. I know it can be frustrating b/c I also have a very involved groom, but I just try to tell myself that in the end the day will really represent the 2 of us and he won’t feel like it was a party for me that he was invited to. To get my way on things it helps Mr Frenchie to have a lot of visual aids… have you shown him pictures of the chair cover at other weddings?
Post # 8
Oh don’t fight!
Its a silly fight I have to tell you! and with a year to go, I think you should breath – or else you two will be ripping each others head off if you’re already fighting about chair covers.
As a person who isisn’t getting chair covers (but getting rediclously expensive chairs) I can understand where you are coming from, but I also do see where he is coming from as well because I KNOW people won’t care what my chairs looked like in a year from now, a month after, or even a day after my wedding!
I think you should sit down, and rationalize it. Don’t fight! if it fits in your budget then why not, if not then maybe reconsider and put the money into something else that both you and your FI will love! (you might be happier in the end)
Post # 9
Chair covers are a lot of things, but defintiely NOT worth fighting over. We’re budgeting 20k in central IL for about 200 guests. It’s a very flexible budget for our area, but I have to say that chair covers did not fit in it.
I used the budget tool on the Knot to give me an idea of how that $ needed to be broken down. It will give you a guideline of what things "should" cost in general. It’s been incredibly helpful so far!
Post # 10
I understand wanting everything to look a certain way, but I have to be honest…you’re probably the only ones who would remember the chair covers. We wanted to get table covers that would match my dress better (the linens provided were white, my dress was ivory and I didn’t want it to look dirty in comparison with the table linens). Then I got the price estimate and we scratched it, didn’t think it was worth it. And I’m glad because everything ended up looking perfect just the way it was.
Post # 11
Personally, I think chair covers are a bit silly. Yeah, people will remember that the chairs were covered…but my mom went to a wedding where they used satin, and the chairs were fantastically slippery.
Post # 12
I can say that there is no need to fight or bicker over chair covers. My FI and I have had a difference of opinions on the chair covers too. He believes it is an unnecessary expense which I feel is true if the chairs were half decent. Our chairs look like they were made in the turn of the century (and not the 21st). They just looked pretty beat up and they are a dark brown which clashed with the black, white and red theme. Bad enough I have to contend with dark mustard yellow walls, I just wanted the decor to mesh.
So I see where you are coming from. There has to be compromises on both ends. Most importantly, make sure it fits in your budget. If they don’t, then you should really think about his request.
Post # 13
Personally, I never pay attention to chairs, but that’s just me. But if it is really important to you, explain your reasons why to your fiance. Maybe he won’t budge on chair covers but maybe you can get him to budge on something else. Compromise is the name of the wedding planning game.
@frenchbulldog-Where I’m at in the sticks of Ohio, $9000 is very pricey! That’s twice my whole wedding budget! But I don’t know about the bigger cities of Columbus, Cleveland, or Cincinnatti. Could be very reasonable.
Post # 14
I’m in Stl and my budget came in at $18500 (which i’ll post on once i get pics). Our venue (including ceremony, reception, food, DJ, chairs, etc) came up to about 11,000 of that.
Just some food for thought.
I didn’t have chair covers–nobody noticed, cared, or expected them. Honestly, with all those people milling around, you won’t notice them. Whereas, in an empty room, you go "oh they look so nice!" and they sure do. Our location, despite the fact that I didn’ tpay for chair bows, left the tulle bows on. I noticed when I walked in (i wanted to make sure we didn’t get charged extra), but honestly, no big deal. Whatever that cost of chair covers, $400 maybe right? you could use that money to upgrade the bar and perhaps offer a liquor your FI really loves, like a nice scotch for him and his groomsmen or something.
I think your FI just wants his opinion considered and wants to feel apart of it. Men always think things like chair covers are unnecessary anyways, they don’t get it =]
Post # 15
Eh — I don’t realize notice whether chairs or covered or not. Seems like an unnecessary expense to me.
I like the idea of compromising with a sash. Does this appeal to you?
Post # 16
I think that if they are really important to you and you are giving in to everything else he requests, you should have them.
Everyone keeps telling me that I don’t need chair covers, but I am getting them damnit! No, it’s not super cheap (about $620 for 200 chairs), but we can afford it and I think that it will look really nice. Our venue chairs are hard blue plastic and our wedding colors are black, white and fuschia w/a touch of damask. Please tell me that no one will notice that!?!
Anyway, it is a personal choice, but I think you deserve to have a say in at least a few aspects of your wedding! 🙂