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I have no problems admitting that Mr. Bee is way smarter than I am. Intelligence is the #1 characteristic I've always wanted in a partner, so it's no surprise that I married such a smarty. 
What about you? Who's the smarter one in the relationship? Or do you both think that you're the smarter one?
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Hmm.. we might both think that we are smarter. We definitely have differing pasts. I have a ton of education but he has that whole "raised in the school of hard knocks" thing going for him. He is def street wise compared to me... and honestly, I'm not innocent Iona. So, he is super super street smart I guess.
So I guess we are really even.. we balance each other out.
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He would say me, I would say him. We're both huge intellectuals. He certainly has a lot more specific domain knowledge than I do. He's gotten himself to be an expert in a particular area despite being so young and as a result, got a job at a research firm at a higher level than he was qualified for and is also studying at MIT.
I on the other hand, don't have as much of a direction yet (there was actual a mini-breakdown last night around this on my part), so I feel less "intelligent" since my brains aren't applied to anything in particular. He would say my potential is higher and that I'm destined for a PhD. Also, I made the mistake of telling him the results of IQ test scores from when I was a kid and he's never let go of it :P I still think he's smarter though, with all his publications and awesome job and stuff :)
Hmmm... tough question! I think we both think we are pretty smart.
I'm actually better at putting things together & figuring things out. He's a really good researcher. I think we even each other out!
I think we're both smarter in different areas. For example, I can't do a math problem to save my life, but he seems to be lacking a lot of common sense skills :)
I tend to think he's waaay smarter than me, but he disagrees. SO I have to go with ES123 - we're both smart but in different areas (and our smarts overlap in some, making us sometimes supersmart as a couple! lol).
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There was a study a while ago, and I'll look around for the article. It says that the most effective couples have IQs that are within 10 points of each other. There are a variety of reasons that this could be, but one might suspect that they would have similar vocabularies and can communicate on similar footing.
I know that when there is an intelligence difference, there can sometimes be a differential in confidence or power (though sometimes it works out just fine). That's not to say that we have to be intelligent in the same ways. My strengths are definitely in verbal/emotional realms, and fiance is very math/engineering oriented.
Still, it happens to be that our IQs (which may or may not truly measure inteliigence--but that's a whole other topic) are within 5 points of each other.
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I like this question! We both are quite nerdy, but in very different ways. The more I think about it, the more we kind of make up an entire curriculum! I'm English, History, Art, and Philosophy. He's Math, Science, and Languages. I'm all about the big picture, he's all about how the little details go together. Sometimes I think the outside world may interpret my FI's talents as being "smarter," but both of us know that we have our own strengths.
We actually took a class together in college and it was fun to see how different our brains really worked... he always got better test scores and I always got better grades on essays and projects but in the end we both got A's.
I think we are both pretty smart. He has more academic accomplishments than me (he's in law school).
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I think we are both smart, but in different ways. Smart can be interpreted in many ways and has a lot of factors. One thing he does do better than me is anything artistic =( I am definitely on the lower/negative side of anything artistic
FI is "Book smart" & I think I'm more "Street smart". In other words - he knows the geeky, nerdy, book smart answers in trivial pursuit & I know the "who sang this song?" "What animal did Britney dance with at the VMAs?" answers! :D haha
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My husband is way smarter than me. People tend to think I'm the smarter one...I think b/c of my job, b/c I'm older, and b/c I'm more serious...he's such a jokester that people are surprised when I tell them he is so much smarter than me...he's street smart and book smart (he got into all the colleges he applied to - Dartmouth, Johns Hopkins, Columbia, etc...and he got a full scholarship to go to Duke). He can figure out pretty much anything and he's a great teacher...it is so attractive!
interesting doctorgirl!
i've never taken an iq test, but mr. bee thinks that my iq is probably higher than his.
i'm smart enough to recognize that he's smarter though.
Haha what a fun question!
He likes to think he's right all the time. And he has sometimes been known to carry on a conversation pretending to be informed about things he actually knows nothing about. So I like to remind him that I had a much higher SAT score. :) I'm the book-smart-law-school-etc one, but he's the expert on figuring out how to get my diamond earring out of the drain, or figuring out how to get around in a foreign country, or all sorts of other practical things. :)
I think we're both pretty smart, and in most cases we're smart in the same general subjects (we work in the same field). We'd probably each claim we're slightly smarter than the other, but in reality I think we have about the same level of inteligence.
@doctorgirl - I think I saw that same study somewhere. Makes a lot of sense!
I'd say we're pretty evenly matched-- both of us would say the other is more intelligent. He's book smart, street smart, better read, financially savvy... My focus is more on math/science/finance. I do have one more degree, but I'd like to think I don't come off as a supernerd in social situations. On our first date, he commented, "I haven't ever dated a girl who's smarter than I am." now THAT was a smart move on his part.
im more smarter then he's.
LOL
J/K
While I have a higher education level, he's way better with real world problems! I'm good with math and science, he's better with problem solving, and mechanical stuff. We're a good balance I think.
We are both very book smart and have fancy college degrees :), but I'm smarter at navigating everyday life. I have a good memory for details so I remember lots of small things, like where did he leave his car keys from last night (I just remember what he was wearing) and is there any milk left in the fridge when we're already at the store, and for figuring out new solutions to problems. Whereas he has a great mind for concepts, like philosophy or theology or politics, which I can never seem to keep straight. So when we're having discussions lots of times he gets to share his wealth of information with me in order for me to properly participate.
Fun.....My husband is the smarter and quicker of us, but I do my best to keep up. Luckily his genes have passed on, and my children are smarter than me too (engineers). But I get the last laugh, as life experience most of the time wins over smarts, and I can "one up" them on almost any subject, so they still seek my advice. We also laugh alot at our house!
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I have ten time more common sense, but he works a lot harder academically so he probably beats me there.
I think I am smarter... but he beats the pants off of me in the area of common sense and finances. We compliment each other. He is very intelligent though!
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Depends on what "smart" means.. I got better grades ... but I lack common sense sometimes =P
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I think people assume I'm smarter because I'm more well-read, have a lot of random (useless) knowledge and am really good at remembering things so it seems like I know more than I do. I guess what I'm saying is people mistake knowledge for intelligence... I think he is definitely smarter and more able to think through problems than I am.
He tells everyone I am smarter. We have the same level of education, but I graduated before he did (and I graduated early).
He tells eveyone I am google because he can ask me a question and get the response back ASAP. I just know lots of weird things :)
i agree with chelseamorning: I remember the little details and things!
I would definitely say that fi is smarter than me. He's a big bookie and knows a lot about a lot of things. I better with the money and the day to day stuff, but I'm definitely glad he's around for the big decisions. When we have kids. I definitely hope they take after him!
I think we balance each other out. He is dyslexic but very street smart and wise. I think he's as intelligent as lots of people I know who graduated from prestigious universities. I got good grades in college, am pretty well-read and love to learn about all kinds of stuff but I'm very forgetful and not great at communicating. He's great at that, and is very logical and mechanically-minded. He'd probably say I'm the smarter one but I think he is.
Mr. Peng is way smarter than me. I could never be with someone equally smart or less smart than I am. I place a high value on intellect and I honestly think I'm the dumbest person in my circle of friends. I like to be around smart people.
My fiance is def. smarter then me, but I am the better speller, that is all I really have on him though!
I'm with a lot of other folks, we balance each other. I'm kind of a weird smart, use a lot of big words, read a ton, got a 34 on my ACT, was an astrophysics major, that kind of stuff. Book smarts I guess. He's really really really "street smart" but he's great at the book smarts too. He graduated college, I dropped out. HATE school so much. I've got a lot of artistic talent, but he has zero. I'd say in the end he's smarter (he's got street smarts AND book smarts, that's a great combo), but he disagrees so, I dunno?
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I really think he is , I'm the creative one. It's nice to be with someone who gets the "smart jokes" without having to have someone explain it to him. We are a very punny couple if I do say so myself.
He thinks I'm smarter because I have a shiny academic record, but I really don't think the fact that I did better in school makes me smarter than he is. He just didn't like school, so he didn't try very hard at it. He really regrets that now, but I think he's such an intelligent person. There are many subjects about which he knows much more than I do.
I can spell better, and I am WAY better at the detail thing (like chelseamorning)... I think the most commonly asked question in our house is "Sweetheart, where is the ...?" And I almost always have the location right, or within 3 feet. I also test better than he does, so I got higher ACT/SAT scores and ended up with a higher college GPA than him.
However, his GPA was only lower because he took Chemistry despite having only completed Algebra I... he got Cs both semesters and I was very proud! He's got WAY more common sense than I do (for example, I can't open packages of food properly... ever!), and he is also a philosopher (going to grad school this fall, fingers crossed...), so half the time he's talking about something Kant, Nietzche, or Aquinas said, and I'm just sitting there thinking, "Well, I can SPELL epistemology, but that's about it."
So I'd say all in all we're equal. And yeah, I can't really imagine marrying some one less smart than me... I dislike feeling superior in a relationship (well, when I'm being nice... :)) so I couldn't be with someone who was as least as smart as I am. I think we've got our bases covered pretty nicely with our various skills.
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I'm with you, Chelsea. I'm all about the details, but stuff like philosophy goes way over my head. He, on the other hand, loves it.
He insists that I'm smarter, but he was closer to the top of his high school class than I was and scored higher on his ACTs, so I think he is.
He always says he picked me for my brains.
Hmmmm.....I would say that we are both equally intellegent, just each on different levels. We compliment each other. 
Each of us is convinced the other one is smarter. And we both have "proof" -- I did better on the LSAT, while he has the higher IQ.
he is the artist and musician, while i am the chemist. we've both got brains, mine has just been book educated more. i don't think that makes me smarter, i can't cook rice without a rice cooker or make slice and bake cookies without burning them.
My FI is smarter. He is in grad school (PhD) at Yale. I am a middle school teacher. There isn't any comparison. I am the artsy one.
He is definitely smarter than me!! He tells me I'm smart every day, but honestly he went to law school and scored well enough that he could have gone to Harvard. I teach 3rd graders how to multiply :)
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