Post # 1
I found out recently that one of my oldest and dearest friends won’t be able to attend my wedding- he is in the Army in Afghanistan and won’t be home until June- a month after the wedding. I’ve known him since I was 11- that’s 14 years! He was actually my brother’s friend growing up, but from teasing me when we were children to accompanying my brother later when he came to visit me at college, he’s really become like a brother to me (aside from one REALLY awkward time when he was drunk and tried to kiss me! WEIRD). We all consider him family, and I actually cried knowing he won’t be able to see me get married. I’m actually tearing up writing this! I can’t imagine shedding tears over anyone else on the guest list, so I ask you, hive, tell me the one who can’t be there that really got to you.
Post # 3
only one person? well i’ll cheat and say our grandparents… both FI’s and my grandparents have all passed so none of them will be there. i’ve thought of doing a tribute to them during the ceremony, but i get so extremely emotional when i even think of my grandparents that i’m not sure how it’ll go. we’ll see!
i’ll pray that your friend comes back okay. i still have a few friends out there and in iraq myself. it pains me that they too will not make it. *hugs*
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2008 - Vineyard on the Delta
my favorite uncle from out of the country, who was planning on coming the whole time but a weather emergency which involves his work made it impossible to take the time off. when i called to thank him for the gift he sent, i had to try and hide my sobbyness!
Post # 5
My grandparents on my dad’s side 🙁
They’re still alive, but live pretty far away and are both not doing very well health-wise.
Post # 6
my Grandmother…who growing up was my best friend will be unable to attend my wedding because she is in a convolesance home suffering from alzheimers. I would give anything for my Grandma to be there but I know that many of the things that I will be doing she will greatly approve!! I wish that her illness could have come about after my wedding but I have learned the hard way the Lord works in mysterious ways!
Post # 7
My great grandmother also will not be coming as she has become quite resistant to the efforts of others to persuade her to leave the house. It’s nice to know I’m not alone 🙂
Post # 8
My Dad.. passed away 10 years ago. Wish he could be there to give me away.. or to meet FI even.
Post # 9
My paternal grandparents…well it’s mostly my grandfather who can’t, and my grandmother won’t come without him b/c she understandably doesn’t want to be away from him. My grandfather had a brain hemorrhage a couple of years ago that went misdiagnosed for a couple months and has cost him many of his motor skills. But much more painful, he is convinced he still suffers from some of the other effects of the injury (memory loss, mental slowness) which I swear he does not at all. But every time he forgets a word or is slow to remember something he says it’s proof that he’s not the man he used to be. It’s so painful to know that he’s so depressed…especially when he really hasn’t lost what he feels he has. B/c of all this he feels that he is not mentally able to travel (from India) for my wedding…and I really can’t imagine this day without them there. Living half a world away they have always made us grandkids a priority and went to great lengths to visit us and maintain a close relationship and provide that kind of sagastic parenting only grandparents can. I still keep hoping he’ll decide to come, but I don’t know…
Post # 10
My brother. He is a naval officer and we planned our date around his deployment schedule and then, in typical military fashion, it got changed. He just deployed on Tuesday and he is scheduled to be gone for 6 months. My wedding is in 3 months 🙁 There is a chance that if they are on land at the right time, he may be able to fly home for it, but the odds are stacked against it. I am remaining hopeful that he will be there, I just can’t give up yet, but he’s my only brother, my only sibling, I can’t imagine him not being there. I’m heartbroken.
Post # 11
My Grandma…she passed away in July. She was the rock that help my family together, the best person I’ve ever known. Now I’m starting to tear up….she was the only person in my life who never ever judged me by my choices, and loved me unconditionally. I can’t believe she won’t be there in person, but at least she’ll be able to hang out on a cloud with my grandpa and show him who everyone is (he died 50 years ago, so he never got to meet any of us). I will have an empty chair with a red rose or carnation reserved for her, and also pictures of her and my grandpa on their wedding posted since I’m getting married in the same place they did. I’ve done as much as I can to incorporate her memory into my wedding.
Post # 12
I have two.
First, I wish my Godfather could be there. He passed away 5 years ago, and I miss him. I was his favorite (other than his own children, obviously).
The second would be my grandmother on my mothers side (or all my grandparents, actually). I’ve never met any of them- I’ve never had ‘grandparents,’ and it never bothered me. Not until I started planning my wedding and every talks about how their grandparents are doing this or that. Now, it makes me kind sad 🙁 Although, I do get new grandparents from my FI’s side, and they are wonderful!! 🙂
Post # 13
My grandmother, who passed away 4 years ago this July. The pain of losing her will never leave me and she is the only person that I would want there more than anyone else.
Post # 14
We’ll cheat, I’d say grandparents. I never knew my mother’s dad. (He passed away when mom was 8). Both of FI’s grandfathers have passed away now. I wish my grandparents (father’s parents) could be here to see me get married.
My grandmother (dad’s mom) used to tell me when I was little, that she had one wish for me. And that was to grow up, be rich, and marry a prince. I know it sounds corny, but I tell everyone that I’ve ful-filled that wish. I’m very rich in love, and I’m marrying my prince this fall.
For our grandparents, we were going to put picture frames of the ones that passed, up at the reception. Making a table, just for them, and lighting candles around the pictures.
Another person I wish could be here is my first cousin, on my dad’s side. He’s 18 years old, and joined the navy (I believe) After he graduates this spring, he’s getting shipped out onto some ship. He won’t be here. I was wanting to include "the grandkids" (on my dad’s side) in the wedding. But out of 6 of us, he’s the only one that won’t be here. I’m the only girl in the family that he will have anything to do with, and he won’t be here to see his "big sister" walk down the aisle.
Post # 15
The week we got engaged we found out my Dad was sick. I live in Australia and all my friends are here. My family lives in the USA and Dad won’t be able to travel for quite some time, Mom and my sister won’t leave his side. So I had to choose between all of my family and all of my friends, co-workers, support networks and people who have shared my life for the last 16 years.
We’re getting married in the USA so my Dad can walk me down the aisle. My FH had to convince his immediate family to come to the USA. Then the Australian dollar crashed so I only have one friend who can pony up the money to come over and she is leaving her DH and baby boy at home to do it.None of DH’s friends can make it.
…but he’s walking me down the aisle so it’s all wothwhile.
Post # 16
i have two as well — first is definitely my dad, who passed away about 10 years ago. i guess it’s been a while, but i have a feeling i’m going to be a bit of a wreck on my wedding day…i get really emotional when i think about him missing milestones in my life, and this is pretty big one =.
second is my grandmother on my mom’s side. both of my maternal grandparents fell really sick late last year and the whole family had a pretty big scare — i even flew back to china to see them, just in case. thankfully they’ve since stabilized and have been able to go back to living at their own place (with an in home nurse) but because of age, health and visa issues, she won’t be able to attend. she pretty much raised me as a child since both my parents worked all of the time. i will miss her and my grandfather incredibly on my wedding day, but at the same time i am so thankful that the rest of my extended family members on both sides will be able to attend.