Post # 1
I am so bummed out that noone will throw me a shower. Not that I think I’m entitled to, but it would be nice to have one. My two sisters are currently getting divorced so their minds are not focused into my wedding planning. One of those sisters is my maid of honor and we live in opposite part of the country so even if she wanted to organize one it would be hard not living in the same state where I am.
My mom who is here has not even mentioned anything about the shower. It is not our tradition, since we were not born or raised in the united states. I think (hope) my FMIL will throw me one, but I feel embarrased because that should be something planned by my family since FMIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner.
I’m just curious who’s hosting your bridal shower?
Post # 3
My sister (MOH) was a big part of planning my shower and she also lives far away. It’s not as easy to do, but it is possible. I would talk to her about it, maybe she could get someone local, like your mom, to help her out.
Post # 4
My mom and my sister are throwing mine for me. And we live in different states too. I didnt want one because of the work involved, but I hope it turns out ok. Maybe put some feelers out there and tip-toe around it. Or who knows they could be doing a surprise shower?
Post # 5
All of my bridesmaids got together to help plan a shower for me. Do you have anyone else in your wedding party besides your sisters? Just because your FMIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner I don’t think it’s asking too much to throw a small shower for you, and I think they say typically your own mother shouldn’t be the one hosting anyhow?
Every bride deserves one so don’t be embarrased 😉
Post # 6
FMIL is having my shower. not what i had in mind, but she didn’t really ask- she just told me that’s what was happening. which is fine, it’s very sweet of her. she seems to be having fun with it so i’m glad it makes her happy. (you mentioned your FILs hosting your rehersal dinner, ours are not, so i guess this is her time to plan a party)
Post # 7
My MOH (lives 5 hours away in another state) is planning my shower, with the help of my other BMs who are more local. I know they’ve been e-mailing back and forth to work out details. I offered my house for convenience and so they don’t have to stress about finding a place to have it.
Post # 8
My grandmother is hosting a big one and my friend Kelly is hosting a smaller one (although I won’t be asking for gifts twice from the repeat guests of course!)
I’m so sorry that you havent heard about shower plans yet… could you just ask your mom or a close girlfriend? Or could you ask your FI to maybe mention something to his mother?
Post # 9
Sorry to hear that. My MOH will do mine. Maybe you could still do an online registry somewhere and it receive gifts and celebrate it with a small local group?
Post # 10
My mom and my sister are planning the main shower for me, and FMIL is planning a shower for everyone at church.
Post # 11
As far as I know my MOH and bridesmaids are hosting it with the help of my mom, aunt and FMIL. It KILLS me not knowing what’s going on. I tend to micromanage things and having thrown a handful of showers myself, I know what I want and what I don’t want. If only it wasn’t tacky to throw our own showers, lol.
Post # 12
My mom did mine, but held it in her hometown (a halfway point for me and her and where almost all the guests were from).
I have a cousin that’s a bridesmaid that helped out and did the games and the gift recording. My other bridesmaid is terrible. .. she never even bothered to RSVP to it.
It was nice, but a little bit of a letdown, too. Some of the girls I work with were going to do one or at least a night of dinner and drinks where we live… but that hasn’t happened and I don’t think it’s going to at this point.
Post # 13
@UpstateCait: We should have thrown each others… you know. 😉 Then they’d be perfect for us, ha!
Post # 14
i have no brides maids, my sisters are married and are… well… over it (weddings). my best friend is too jealous to even be able to talk about it. i’m pretty much on my own and got nobody to throw a shower either. which sucks…
Post # 15
Bridal Showers are a big secret thing in South Afirca. I am sure my MOH and bridesmaids will throw me one. The bride usually thinks she is going to some other event and gets suprised by the whole thing- I wonder if they will actually be able to suprise me- the only person who has sucessully done this was my FI when he proposed 😛
Post # 16
maybe it’s a surprise!!!!