Post # 1
My dad passed away about 11 years ago (when I was 12) so I won’t have a father at my wedding to walk me down the aisle. I don’t want to walk down the aisle alone however, and am debating whether to have my uncle or my brother “give me away.” My grandfather has very bad hips and isn’t very mobile, so he is not an option.
For other brides out there who are father-less on their wedding day (for whatever reason), who is walking you down the aisle or are you walking by yourself?
Post # 3
I know several people that had their mom walk them down because their father had passed away. Had you thought about this option?
Post # 4
Same here. 🙁
I’m going to ask my oldest brother and my 2nd brother I will ask him to escort my mom down the aisle to her seat. If we’re doing the whole parents walking down the aisle thing.
Post # 5
My Dad passed away when I was a toddler but I have had a great step-dad since I was ten but I almost feel like I’m ‘cheating’ on my Dad and sort of want to walk down the aisle alone but fear I’ll really hurt my step-dad’s feelings. I may fall back on the “I’m too old” thing since I’ll be two months shy of 40 on our wedding day.
Post # 6
I’m sorry about your father. I had my Mom walk me down to my Dad at my wedding. I would suggest you have yoru Mom walk you down to your brother or your Mom all the way.
Post # 7
Thanks for the suggestions bees, my mom actually suggested my uncle and i think my brother might escort her.
Post # 8
I have a strained relationship with my dad, so my brother is walking me down the aisle. I think everyone knows how difficult a decision it is, so don’t worry about what others think. Just do what’s right for you! I know I am THRILLED to have my brother give me away!
Post # 9
My father is not part of my life. My mom very much wants to walk me down the aisle (I walked her down the aisle at her second marriage!), but I’m not a big fan of the tradition at all. I’d like to either enter by myself, or have my mom walk me to the end of the aisle where she’d meet my stepdad, she’d walk the rest of the way down with my stepdad, and once they are at the front, I’d walk down the actual aisle by myself.
Post # 10
my daddy…that’s the only reason i want a real wedding is for him to walk me down the aisle
Post # 11
I’m sorry about your dad. Having to make this decision must bring up a bit of emotion for you. Personally I have never had a ‘dad’ just a father who is around enough to make me obliged to treat him as a father but not enough to ever have been a real dad. I would love to have my mum walk me down the aisle to honour all that she sacrificed raising us as a single mum and everything that she showed me and taught me that made me the person I am today. Unfortunatly whilst my dad is a drunk and a useless father I still love him (oddly enough) and even though its an honour he truly doesn’t deserve it will really wound him and I don’t want to be responsible for that (nor deal with the family BS that will follow). So even though it’s not what I want I will walk by myself to save the peace.
Post # 12
My father passes away when I was 12 as well and my mother is very sick and is unable to walk me down the aisle. I have been struggling with this decision of who would be walking me down the aisle even before I was engaged. But I have finally come decided that my sister is going to walk me down the aisle. She is also my MOH. Which I wasn’t sure if I wanted her to walk me down too but when thinking about it, she is the closest person to me and I wouldn’t be the person I am today without her.
So I would think about who you feel the closest to and want to give the honor of giving you away at your wedding.
Post # 13
My FI’s father passed away ten years ago, and his sister just got married this November. She had both brothers walk her down the aisle. I know they’re very close as siblings, so that made more sense for her than her uncle, but it totally depends on who you feel closest to. It doesn’t have to be a guy, I see it more as a representative of your family, of where you come from – your mother, your uncle, your brother, whoever you want by your side.
Post # 14
My parents divorced when I was really young and I don’t have a relationship with my dad. I had my little brother walk me down the aisle, which was great.
Post # 15
My father passed on 03 and my step father passed in 04….my brother is giving me away, in his dress blues! He’s a Marine. But at one point we didn’t know if he’d be home from overseas in time and my mom was going to give me away….whoever you see fit honey.
Post # 16
I am not having anyone walk me. We are getting married in my Mother’s garden. My man and his boys will walk in through the aisle we make outside. My maids and I will be entering through the garden.