Post # 1
So lately, I have been concerned about the whole walking down the aisle thing. I have always thought I would walk down the aisle alone but now am worried that I might lose it emotionally half way down. My father and I are not close although he says he is coming to the wedding. My mother passed away 3 years ago and there isn’t another family member that I feel is important enough for that role. I have one dear friend that I walked him down the aisle and have thought about having him return the favor, but then someone said wouldn’t it be weird having someone else walk you down the aisle when your dad is in the crowd? They think either go with dad or go alone? Thoughts?
Post # 3
I dont think it would be weird. In fact, I think it’d be weirder to have your dad walk you down the aisle if you arent close to him. I’m going alone. Mostly I feel it symbolizes me as an independent woman making a CHOICE to start a new life and family with my fiance.
Post # 4
My father will be in the crowd. We are not very close either. My youngest son will be walking me down the aisle. Both of us are very excited about this.
Post # 5
I think the only person who knows the answer is you. I personally don’t care what anyone thinks about who I’ve chosen to walk me down the aisle at my wedding. My situation is a little different than yours… my father is deceased, my mother remarried a woman 25 years ago, so for all intents and purposes, I have 2 moms. Who’s walking me down the aisle? My mentor. I had a science teacher in HS that has always been very supportive of me (he and his wife do not have any children of their own, either). He’s been my father-figure for 20 years, I can’t imagine walking with anyone else. Some think I should walk alone – honor my deceased father, some think walk with my birth mother or both mothers… I think, I should choose who I want to choose – so I chose my mentor.
Post # 6
I’m not having anyone walk me down the aisle. Both of my parents are deceased, and there’s no one else who has played that vital of a role in my life.
Post # 7
My father is walking me down the aisle but I have been to recent weddings where that hasn’t been the case and it hasn’t been weird.
Post # 8
My father will be invited and my step-father will be coming to our wedding (I’m not 100% positive my biological father will come as we aren’t close at ALL) but I’m having my grandfather walk me down the isle. I personally believe that the person that is walking me down the isle is the person who deserves it the most.
If you don’t want your father to walk you down the isle, then don’t! If you aren’t close then I’m sure he’ll understand. I’m also sure that your friend will be really touched if you asked him. I agree with VagabondGurl, it’s completely up to you who walks you, if you want anyone at all.
Post # 9
I am having my BF’s father walk me down. I dont have a father of my own, my grandfather has already passed and will be limited people (destination wedding). I’m pretty sure he will be delighted to know once it becomes official. Plus FFIL doesn’t have any girls…only boys in the family so he gets that whole “walking your daughter down the aisle” thing.
Post # 10
I will be walking myself down the aisle. I’ve actually never seen it done before (even though I have been to literally hundreds of weddings) because down in the South it’s traditional for the bride to have someone walk with her, but I’m bucking tradition. I don’t have a father, brother, uncle, or close male friend in my life who is special enough to me, so I’m going it alone. I’m a little worried about it but ultimately I don’t want to cheapen that moment by having someone I don’t care about that much walking with me!
Ultimately you’ve got to do what’s most important for you. If you walk alone, people will judge you. If you walk with a friend, people will judge you. If you walk with your dad, people will judge you. Just accept that some people are going to get their undies in a bunch no matter what you do, so you might as well do what makes you happiest 🙂
Post # 11
My father died of a brain tumor when I was 13 and my stepfather will be walking me down the aisle.
Post # 12
My fiance and I are walking together. Our families are taking turns walking in front of us, taking turns and weaving together like this:
my mom (officient)
my brother/his wife
ring bearer/flower girl
(we didnt do wedding parties)
Post # 13
My dad and I are also not very close. I originally wanted both my parents to walk me down as I’m much closer to my mom, but she thought it would be weird and wanted my dad to walk me. A few days before the wedding, she changed her mind and said that I could walk with my husband if I wanted but she didn’t want me to walk alone since, in Chinese culture, walking alone is apparently symbolic of being alone and having no family or friends. So my husband and I walked in together which I thought was perfect and lots o people commented that they thought it was really sweet.
I think walking someone down the aisle is an honor and if you don’t think your dad is deserving of it (mine definitely was not), then walk with whomever you think deserves it!
Post # 14
My dad passed away 6 years ago — my mom will be walking me down the aisle.
Post # 15
My two boys will be escorting me down the aisle.
Post # 16
I haven’t asked yet, but I hope my dad will walk me down the aisle! We’re close, but he’s the typical Asian dad who doesn’t like to show affection and is always serious. And if he does, I will be bawling down the aisle because it will mean so much to me!