Post # 1
I always sorta imagined that my dad would be the one to walk me down the aisle for that “movie moment” (I can’t help but think of Steve Martin in “Father of the Bride”). But in the last few months I have been debating whether it should be just my dad, or my dad at all. First, I should be clear that this has nothing to do with something my dad has done/hasn’t done…. but this was my thought process…
My first debate was whether both of my parents should walk me down the aisle. After all, both of them have had a huge positive impact on my life and helped shape me into the woman I am now.
Then recently I started worrying about bawling my eyes out down the aisle (some of you may have already read my post “Bawling down the aisle” in the Emotional category), and the big reason for the tears will be all the anticipation of seeing my FI down the aisle. So then I thought – why don’t we meet in the front of the church first and walk down the aisle together? After all – we’re the ones getting married and entering into this new stage together. I brought it up my my FI, and I was surprised that he wasn’t so keen on the idea. I guess he’s always pictured that “movie moment” too, of seeing me come in for the first time. And he also brought up the fact that my dad (and mom) might be insulted.
AGH! What to do?!
Post # 3
I agree that your Dad might be upset. My sister had a tiny wedding last December and she didn’t plan to walk down an aisle at all but my Dad insisted. I would maybe talk to your Mom first to see if she thinks this would hurt your Dad. For some fathers it’s a really important moment!
Post # 4
it would probably really hurt your parents if you took that away from them. especially since you said that you dont have any issues with your dad or any reason that you wouldn’t want him to walk you down the isle. he’s probably been waiting your whole life for this moment. unless you’re really set on the idea of having your fi walk you down, i would give it to your dad, or dad and mom. i’m having both my parents, but that’s because it’s a jewish tradition thing to have them both.
Post # 5
I had both of my parents walk me down the aisle. Although it was my second marriage, I cheated my dad out of it the first time when I eloped. He was pretty sad about that. This time even though I’ve lived on my own for ten years and my parents didn’t help with the wedding or anything, I still felt like I owed him this.
Post # 6
I think that your dad will probably be upset that you don’t want him to walk you down the aisle. If you are worried about crying down the aisle maybe you should consider doing a first look with your FI so that you have time to touch up your makeup in case the waterworks come.
Post # 7
Talk to your dad first and explain why you may/ may not want to walk down the aisle with him; that way he doesn’t think its something he did.
Both my mom & my dad walked me down the aisle, at first I thought my dad would be hurt that it wasn’t just him, but when I talked to him about it ahead of time he loved the idea of my mom walking with us too. So communication ahead of time is def the way to go.
Post # 8
this is totally up to you- hard decison though! my grandfather was the father figure in my life so if he were still alive he would be walking me. instead i am having a photo charm attached to my bouquette and will be walking myself. my mom would love to walk me (she’s mentioned several times), but due to the emotional stuff you mentioned she’s not allowed. it’ll just be me. i have seen the mother and father do the walk and i thought that was really nice if you’re very close to both parents.
Post # 9
My grandpa was always the father figue in my life as well so I definitely want him to walk me down the aisle
Post # 10
I want my biological dad on one side and my stepdad on the other. My stepdad was with me through most of my life – and raised me when my dad wasn’t around so he’s very important to me … but just asking him to walk me would be a HUGE slap in the face to my biological father who I’ve gotten closer to over the years.
Post # 11
My mom and dad are. They are divorced and I’m WAY closer to mom than dad. So it just didn’t seem right to have him walk me down alone. So I asked mom to walk too. Dad doesn’t know yet…so it might just end up being mom once he finds out LOL.
Post # 12
My dad is. If your family is anything like mine, your dad would be really hurt if he didn’t get to do it. I would just go with him. 🙂
Post # 13
My dad will be for sure though lately I have been thinking about having my mom walk with us.
Post # 14
Our mothers are walking us down the aisle. My Papa doesn’t approve of my “lifestyle” as he calls it (intolerant is an understatement) and Caytlin’s father passed away when she was younger. I can’t imagine not having our mother’s walk us down.
Post # 15
I think that if both parents were equally a positive part of your life, they should both walk you down. I know your mom would love it, and then your dad will still get to fulfill that traditional role.
My mom walked me down the aisle, I loved it. My dad hasn’t been in the picture for years, so it was the obvious choice. I’m glad I did it that way (we also considered the “meeting halfway” down the aisle thing with the hubs, but I decided to be a bit more traditional to honor my mom.
Post # 16
Both of my parents are deceased, so I’m doing the walk down the aisle solo.