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If I'm writing something form both of us, I put my name first - because I'm writing the note. I did put his name first on our photo Christmas card.
We're not married yet but when we are, his name will go first for everything. Thats just how married couples around here do it. Since we're only engaged right now, depending on who the card/gift is being sent to, determines whos name goes first. For example:
@UpstateCait: I write in a similar way except that mine goes first on a card to a mutual friend (and we have never done pre-printed cards).
When FI and I were first starting to be addressed as a couple, I was living with with his family, so generally we'd hear things like, "What are (his name) and (my name)'s plans?" etc. Naturally his family will say his name first. So it just kind of stuck that way. Fine by me. =]
When I wrote my correspondence before the wedding, I always thought that the bride's name should go first, so that is how I wrote it, regardless of who it was addressed to.
I thought it was supposed to be reversed after marriage, but the etiquette lady at the place I ordered my invitations says that the man's name should go second, because he is keeping his original name intact. ie., Mary and David Smith.
When writing our names, I write his first, but when signing (like on thank you notes), I sign mine first.
Weird, huh?
We also got into an "argument" the other day about whose name people naturally say first - I think his, and he thinks mine!
I always sign my name first out of force of habit. My husband always signs his first. When we were going through the cards from our wedding, I wondered whose name people put first more often. Like, did people who know me better put my name first, and vice versa? I don't remember the results of our experiment, but neither one of us really cares whose name comes first.
I usually write my name first, but that's usually because any correspondence that is done through the mail is usually done through my friends and family. This year, we only sent two Christmas cards to friends/family of his. On the card for the mutual friend, I signed my name first. On the card for a close family friend of his (that was also thanking them for an engagement gift they sent through his parents), I put his name first.
I have no clue how we will handle thank you notes when we get married! I will cross that bridge when I get there!
I WAS putting is name first and then my MIL told me it is more "proper" to put the woman's name first. This confused me as when one uses titles, it's Mr. & Mrs. right?
We're both very traditional and old fashioned so his name always goes first. We do the sam thing when addressing cards to couples too. I guess it's the old, "the man's the head of the household so they should be first" type thing.
It depends on who I am writing it for and whether or not I want to see Kristen Shef toegther. If I do then it is his name first! lol
I generally do his name first, but come to think of it on all our wedding correspondence, mine was first.
I've always gone alphabetically- his name starts with "A" so he's always been first (plus, I kept my maiden name so there's never [name] and [name]. It's [first last]/[First Last]
Generally when signing xmas cards or the like (anything from the family etc) I write his name first, then our sons, then mine -- regardless of who the card is going to (his family, or ours, doesn't really matter).
Now, this is more of a silly neurosis than a traditional thing (for me), I just feel ..out of place signing my name first if I am signing for everyone, I feel like it would be me going "yay me! look at me signing up a card! you know I was the one who really signed this, right? cant you tell because I put MY name first!" hahah but I am admittedly quite a spaz, so yeah, absolutely nothing wrong with signing your name first if you are the signer, but I am just weird.
When people talk about us as a couple they usually say "Kate and Dan," so that's mostly how I refer to us! I didn't even think about it. Ooooops. Haha.
Well i don't have all the wedding correspondence to worry about yet, but i guess it depends on if i feel like using my legal name or my nickname. so it either goes:
It flows nicely either way and is still alphabetically organized too.
I always do mine first because it's two syllables and his is only one. Plus, mine is first alphabetically, and I just think it sounds better that way.
When I'm the one writing the note/letter/email, I put my name first. But on our return address labels and formal pre-printed invites or cards, his name is first -- but only because I prefer the initials to be in that order. My first initial + his first initial reminds me of someone not so nice. But DH's first initial + mine is much nicer 
On a card, I would sign my name first if I wrote it and he would sign his first if he wrote it.
Otherwise, I generally put my name first on things like return addresses. My name is a little shorter than his, and it looks better visually above his rather than below his. We have different last names that are both long, so it is rare that we can fit both of our first and last names on one line on an envelope!
I guess my family says mine first and his says his first. It doesn't matter much, especially since our names are both two syllables and start with the same letter, but mine would technically come before his alphabetically. The other factor is that his name ends with -an (lets pretend it's Brian), so it's BriAN ANd Obg. Which I think is a little clumsy, and the other reason I say mine first, though I'm pretty sure no one else notices.
I will be the obligatory other!
If we're using first names, it's generally whoever's known the people we're addressing it to the longer. So with my family we're R & M and with his family we're M & R.
If we're using last names, his goes first. This is because the end of my name blends straight into the beginning of his name and it sounds really, really weird.
I can't even think of a time I've bothered to write out both of our full names.
If I'm thinking about it I put his first. Sometimes if I'm just signing things automatically I write mine first without meaning to. I just like writing his first :)
It varies for us depending on who knows the addressee better. For example, my family or one of my friends (or who was friends with me first), my name then his name.
I usually write mine then his, but sometimes I switch it up. Doesn't really matter to me! It sounds good in either order, IMO!
@oyster: That is what my grandmother told me as well. Which is fine with me because I think my name sounds better first.
I generally follow MissASB's way, although for my christmas cards this year, there were a few that I started out with DH's name first and sometimes my name first and it had nothing to do with who's friend it was. It was just what I thought of when writing the christmas card.
I just had this discussion with my MIL a couple of weeks ago. I always put my name first, since I'm usually the one doing the writing and signing, but my MIL told me that DH should be first. So I compromised and put his name first on the return address labels and then inside the xmas cards I put my name first:)
I put mine first since you are not supposed to split up the man's first and last name.
I usually put his first just because it seems to flow better. I put mine first if it's something addressed to my family or friends or if I've written something on behalf of both of us (:
I've always heard that the woman's name goes first, no matter what the situation... it's just a polite thing. May just be my mother's opinion though - haha!
I always put mine first. I don't really think about it, I know everybody knows I'm always the one writing the notes anyway.
If Im writing the card I get the credit so therefore my name goes first!
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I'm finishing up the last of our thank you notes and have noticed (and begun to feel self-conscious about, lol) that I put my name first, then DH's, on the inside of the card as well as the return address. His is before mine in the alphabet, but I guess since I'm writing them out, mine should go first. Ha! I asked him, and he doesn't care whose goes first.
So, what do you normally do?