Post # 1
I’m not currently facing this issue, but I have pondered it lately. If you were throwing a bachelorette party that was occurring in your current city of residence and the bride lived about an hour away, do you think it would be your responsibility to arrange her transport to the party? What if public transit was frequent and cheap? Thoughts?
Post # 2
My Bachelorette party took place downtown. The group met early to set up and whatever and I had to meet them all ther later. I took transit to get to downtown but was dropped off at home by one of the girls.
(I live in a neighboring city than the group. Since they met early I had to find my own way. They suggested the train and even provided the stop and time)
Post # 3
The bride is a grown adult, surely she can get herself to her party?
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
I don’t think it’s anyone’s responsibility to get her there. At least someone should tell her where to go and that’s it. From there it can be determined if people want to go together.
Post # 5
You can tell her to meet you there. She should be able to make her own arrangements, but it would be nice if you gave her suggestions for which public transport to take.
However, if you want to do the whole surprise thing, then I would just arrange for the BM (or willing guest) that’s closest to her to bring her to the location.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Unless the bride is incapable of driving, I’d say she is responsible for her own transportation.
Post # 7
For the last one I went to we took care of everything for the bride. I was totally cool with that. Rented a limo, professional photographer and got the bride hammered all on our dime. It was only about $50 each.
Post # 8
The bride should get herself there as a grown woman. If her bridesmaids want to arrange her transportation then that’s sweet of them but she should assume she has to find her own way.
Post # 9
She’s a grown (I assume) woman. It’s her own responsibility to get herself there.
Post # 10
Thanks, everyone. In my particular situation, she is a grown woman and is taking public transit (which she’s very comfortable with and knowledgeable about) without complaint or question. I just wondered if I was handling it strangely since my husband spontaneously asked if I was going to call the other girls to try to solicit a ride for the bride. I hadn’t even considered it, and I don’t think the bride has, either.
Post # 11
It really depends on what’s being planned. There isn’t any set rule for this.
From what I’ve seen, the bride and bridesmaids tend to get to their destination together, because a limo or party bus is a highlight of the celebration. I’ve also seen brides get to the party on their own or with a couple other ladies in her car or one of theirs.
Again, it all depends on what’s being planned. Nobody is automatically responsible for her transportation.
Post # 12
I think it’s fine for her to get herself there, but I think you should arrange transportation for her to get home. If she’s going to be drinking (possibly a lot), you shouldn’t expect her to hop on public transit back home by herself.