- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Why did you choose to have a DW?
Why did you choose to have a DW?
We both always wanted to get married on a beach in the tropics, and neither of us wanted a huge wedding. We’re expecting about 22-25 people for ours next june
well my family is in london and fi’s is in mexico (where we live), so one set was already going to have to travel
we decided on cancun as monterrey (where i live) isnt particularly safe or fun for tourists. also, local weddings tend to be massive where you invite everyone you know…and i really didnt want this
I’m not having a tropical, overseas destination wedding; I’m having a domestic destination wedding in New Orleans. For us it came down to the fact that the vast majority of our guest list would have to travel no matter where we had it. Only 13 out of 117 people on our guest list live in our state, and none of our close family do. New Orleans is a relatively short flight (or feasible drive) for a lot of our guests and we just thought we and everyone else would have more fun there. Plus, it’s beautiful, there are wonderful venues, music options, etc. And we can have a parade, cause that’s what they do there.
If most of our folks lived near us, we would not have chosen a destination wedding.
It was the only option. There was no location which more than 10-20% of our guests would consider “local” (within 2 hour drive). So we chose the location that was the most convenient for as many of our guests as possible. Which means its a DW for us (to our home towns) and for 80-90% of the guest list.
We wanted a DW because being on the coast was pretty important to both of us, and there was no way that we were going to be close to everyone in terms of distance…so we made it a halfway point for everyone.
My FI and I want a tiny DW because we’d rather spend our $$ on a luxury vacation than on 1 big party at home.
If I got married locally, I would’ve gotten saddled into inviting my extended family, who I never see but always come to weddings. I’m relatively sure that, if I somehow didn’t invite them, they would find a way to show up anyway. Plus we both love the beach. Double win.
We priced a local wedding and it was adding up to around 30-40K and that just seemed crazy to us. We had been on a cruise the January before we got engaged and loved it, so it just made sence to us. We are paying for all of our bridal party to go on the cruise and having about 60 non-sailing guest attend the wedding. We will have around 25 people actualy go on the cruise. In the end it will probably cost us around 15K total and that includes everything!!!! It came down to 30K for a four hour party or 15K for a five day vacation with the most important people in our lives.
@bam_461: Can you explain what you mean by “non-sailing guests”? Are there people who will see you get married on shore perhaps before you embark, but not hop on the cruise afterwards or something? Are you paying for all 25 on the cruise, or just a subset of that, with the others fending for themselves?
Mostly because our respective families are on opposite sides of the country and we have a lot of family and friends who live overseas. But another major fator for us was price. We could spend bucketload of money on an over priced wedding in our home city for all and sundry and spend an average of 5mins with each guest or we could host our nearest and dearest at a DW for a week and get to spend quality time with our guests.
@kay01: With a cruise wedding if you get married during embarkation you can have people come on the ship for the ceremony and reception but leave after and not sail with you. Those are considered non-sailing guests.
For many reasons:
– we didn’t want to think about the details to organize… a simple resort wedding was ideal for us, once we got there, it took 1 hour to decide on flowers, menu, music, transportation, etc. It was great
– it was cheaper… We love to travel so the cost of the trip was not an issue.. The wedding was free, included in the cost of the trip.. All we had to pay for was the JOP, our rings, our clothes and fees for legal documents translation back home.
– we wanted a very small wedding… just us and our parents. We invited everyone, knowing our parents would come and anyone else who decided to attend would be a bonus. We ended up having 14 guests and it was perfect.
– we wanted to spend quality time with people who are important to us, not just 5 minutes in the evening and running around to make sure we thanked everyone… We got to enjoy a special vacation with everyone who came and made time for each of them.
– so in 4 words: easy, cheap, fun, intimate
I had a destination elopement.
Well we LOVE to travel and we decided NOT to go anywhere that we could easily get to with any old weekend. So that ruled out anything withint a 5-6 hour drive.
We really wanted a spectacular mountain backdrop for our ceremony. While we love in the mountains here, we wanted something really grand. In fact it was our #1 priority.
Then we thought of places we’d always wanted to visit and could plan relatively last minute and drive to. That’s how we came up with our Canadian Rockies elopement/weddingmoon.
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