Post # 1
This board http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/moms-what-baby-stuff-have-you-found-you-love#axzz2dNmChIzV is seriously amazing today. I have SO many questions that I will freak out about later, but I do have one that is kind of tugging at my mind.
I asked a few weeks ago about where my baby should sleep: in our room down in the basement or in its own bedroom upstairs. Majority of the answers were for the first 3-6 months, the baby should sleep in our room. So what’s the point of a nursery if the baby won’t be in there right away? Or do women just decorate them so they are ready when baby can go be in there by themselves? (I assume that is when you would move the changing table and crib into that room)
In the board above, lots of women have nurseries. I know I will be putting baby’s crib downstairs in our room, but during the day baby will be spending majority of his/her time upstairs. What do I put upstairs?? Another crib or is there something else baby can sleep in? I saw a Rock and Play, baby carrier things (which I have never even heard of).
And yes, I am really this dumb when it comes to babies. I am sure when I get down to it I will come on here and flip out for not knowing 1/4 of what I should know, lol.
Post # 3
I think if your room is on a completely different level of the house from the nursery, then it’s a good idea to keep baby in your room. Some find it easy to have babe in room for things like middle of the night nursing sessions. The way our house is set up I can actually SEE the crib in her room from my own bed, if both doors are open. We put her in her own bed, in her own room, basically from the very beginning. Her clothes are in her room, and her changing table as well.
Post # 4
I’ve also heard babies should sleep in the same room as you for the first 3+ months, so we have decided to not decorate/make a nusery until after that point. We are currently renting a 2-bedroom condo with plans to move at the end of next summer. We really want to keep our guest bedroom/office so we’re just relying on a bassinette and then pack N play until we make the move. When baby gets to the pack n play stage (probably in April – around 4 months) it can stay in our room or go in the guest room unless we have guests for the last few months. It just makes more sense for us to do it this way. I don’t want to buy all the furniture that will only be used for a couple months and then have to move it all. We’ll make a bedroom for baby in the next house. 🙂
I think it’s just a decision on what works best for the couple. If I were in your shoes, I’d probably put the crib and other furniture in the baby room upstairs and then get a rock n play and portable changing table (or pack n play that includes both) for your room. Then you aren’t taking up a ton of space in your room with baby furniture but have the items you need for the first few months.
Post # 5
If the room is already decorated and furnished, it’s one less thing to deal with after the baby has arrived and life gets much more complicated. Also, some moms sleep in the nurdery for overnight feedings instead of having the baby in the master bedroom where it wakes both parents up. If DH has to be at work in the morning and you’re on mat leave, for example, it makes more sense for the mom to be the one waking up instead of both parents.
Post # 6
We’re setting up a nursery before baby arrives. But we also plan on having her sleep in there right away. If our master was on a different floor than our baby’s room I would have the baby sleep in our room instead though.
Post # 7
People set up nurseries before the baby is born because you have 9 months of anticipating the birth of your LO without a whole lot to do (except grow a person), but once they arrive, you are busy and exhausted 24/7. So why not put energy into decorating while you still HAVE energy to decorate??
Post # 8
Purchase a Pack-N-Play with an attached changing station. That’s all you need! I think mine was about $180 from Target – but there are cheaper versions out there.
Post # 9
We have a small(ish) three bedroom townhouse with all three rooms relatively close together. With that in mind we will be decorating the nursery before hand because well I am obsessed with the idea and we have space so why not? The baby will likely sleep in our room for the first couple of months in a small bassinet that has been passed down in the family.
I also agree with the PP that mentioned getting the room ready. I know several parents that simply do not have the time/energy after the baby arrives and are left scrambling. It is a lot easier to just get the basics done at least before you have a little one to worry about.
Post # 10
I have a nursery because it’s a good place to keep her stuff, she’ll need a room eventually, and it’s pretty and makes me happy to look at. During the day, baby naps in the pack ‘n play travel lite, and I roll it around from room to room with me. I also have a little portable bassinette that I use when I am staying in the living room all day. Basically you can use anything that has a flat safe sleeping surface, and there is a huge range of things that fit the bill that vary in price!
Post # 11
For me, my baby will only be sleeping in our room for the first 8 weeks or so. Baby will also not be sleeping in a full crib in my room so no need to buy a second one or move it later.
@megz06: Baby will nap in the crib in her room, as well as be changed in her room and it is where I will store all clothes and other baby stuff. I want her to be comfortable and prefer her room. If I need to will sleep in the baby’s room for a short time for night feedings until I can get a good sleep/fedding schedule
So really she is just camping temporarily in our room.
Also, it is much easier to get stuff done like shopping, assembling, decorating etc before the newborn arrives so even if someone has their kid spend 6 months in their room, it will be less stressful to have that childs room ready to go when the baby moves to his/her own room.
Post # 12
We have a two-story 4 bedroom house and this is what works for us (baby is only 10 weeks old). We have a mini cosleeper (kind of like a bassinet) that attaches to our bed, which our girl sleeps in now. She’ll probably sleep in our room in the mini-cosleeper until she’s about 6 months. We’ve set up her nursery next door with a real crib, the changing table, the gliding chair, and all of her clothes. She doesn’t sleep in the crib yet and won’t be moved there until she’s 6 months, but we change her and nurse her in the nursery so that she gets used to it and will be comfortable with it when the time comes.
Downstairs, we have a pack-n-play with napper/changing table attached. For the first few weeks, she’d take her afternoon naps and sometimes get changed downstairs in the living room. She’s since outgrown the napper/changing table, so we use the pack n play as her downstairs/afternoon crib.
Post # 13
@megz06: People set up the nursery before the baby arrives because you really will not have the time nor the energy to do it once baby is here. Generally, baby will sleep in your room in a co-sleeper or bassinet for the first few months. This is an especially good idea since your bedroom is on a completely different floor. You are not going to want to walk up and down the stairs several times a night just to feed/change the baby.
So… you would have a bassinet and maybe a small changing table in your room (my sister bought a changing pad & stuck that on top of her dresser) and pajamas to change baby into if there’s a leak. In the baby’s room you’d have the crib, changing table, toys, clothes, etc.