- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I am a former planner and my wedding was about six months ago. Even knowing everything that I know, and doing most of the work myself, I had a coordinator at the chapel and a team of three day-of coordinators who got detailed excel spreadsheets from me before the big day as well as a venue walk through a few weeks prior. This past weekend I went to a wedding that was done entirely by an amateur. If your wedding is very small, you may be able to do it yourself. If it isn’t, for goodness sake, please hire a pro!!! They know things you don’t. Trust me. This wedding read like a “what goes wrong without a pro tip sheet”. A few examples:
1. It was an entirely outdoor destination wedding in the desert. Even after dark, it was 106 degrees. Guests were miserable. (A planner would have steered it to a different location, made sure they had misters, or indoor space.)
2. It was held at a private home in a residential neighborhood and the bride ran into noise complaints she hadn’t anticipated. She also didn’t fully understand her contract and thought that the midnight load-out was the time the noise had to stop, not the time everyone needed to be off site. (The music had to stop by 10:30 and vendors had to be off site by midnight. Oops.)
3. They had one fully functioning bathroom for 150 people.
4. Their outdoor lighting was inadequate and a guest fell down the stairs and had to be taken away in an ambulance. (I still don’t know what the repurcussions will be of this, lawsuit?)
5. The menu was completely disjointed and poorly thought out. Raw bar in 106 degree desert heat anyone?
6. No one fully understood how to estimate the amount of ice and liquor needed for the number of guests, so they kept running out of things.
7. The violinists they hired for the ceremony were awful, anemic, and off-key. (A planner would know this. They use the same vendors over and over, because they’re good.)
8. The ceremony site was down a steep hill, so the grandparents couldn’t actually sit in the seats. They had to watch from a patio in back.
9. The officiant they hired forgot their names during the ceremony.
10. They probably spent around $40,000-$50,000 total. Way more than they would have if they had just shelled out the $5,000 or so on a planner who could have steered their choices.
It was a train wreck. Trust me. There are things a professional knows that you don’t. I’m not in the business anymore, but I spent 6 months interning for $6 an hour to learn what I know and years working as part of a team.