Post # 1
My brothers girlfriend who is a very jealous and evil person has now decided to plan a wedding for her and my brother out of spite!! My brother is supposed to be in my wedding, but knowing his girlfriend she probably wont let him be.
My future mother in law, is way over helpful. She volunteered herself to make my dress,the cake,food, decorations. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.
Why do I dwell on stuff?! How can I just let things be and forgot about others?! UGH!!!!!!
Post # 3
I really don’t understand why you would be upset about your brother’s girlfriend planning her’s and your brother’s wedding, unless it is on the same day as yours. And I am sure your brother is an adult and can make a decision on whether or not he wants to be in your wedding or not.
Also, I don’t understand why you wouldn’t be thankful for your FMIL’s offer of help. You can let her know nicely the things you are willing to let her help with and the things you would rather do on your own.
In my opinion, these things are not worth dwelling on and getting upset over. I suggest taking a break from things and doing something else; maybe go for a spa day or a weekend getaway with your fiance. Just go do something for yourself and/or yourselves.
Things like these are not worth worrying about.
Post # 4
I know they arent and I have no idea why it bothers me! My fmil is the type where if you say you dont like something she will come back with “Dont worry you will like it, it will all be okay” Its like no I just told you I dont like it!!!
And I just got off the phone with my brother and he assured me that he will be in my wedding. But he said they were planning a wedding for next year. Still gets me, that they are going to get married a few months before me.
Post # 5
@peachbaby4008: I wouldn’t worry about your brother & hers wedding too much, unless it was on the same day LOL, you guys will have your own special day & everything will be great. & I could only WISH that someone would offer to do all that stuff for me…. LOL
Post # 6
Breath…… It’s going to be okay. 🙂 My mother in law was doing something similar. I had my husband talk to her about it and then he talked to me about it from her point of veiw and it has been okay since she’s still helping but back off a bit and let me be more in charge. Remember to invite her to things! the girlfriend I mean. If she is how you made her sound she wil most likely take offense if you don’t invite her to the pre wedding things. My husbands brothers ex FI refused to invite me to anything pre wedding and i didn’t really care becasue we didn’t get along but it upset him since he was the best man. She actually went so far as to plan the engagement party on my Birthday and said I wasn’t invited (they got engaged a few months before that). It caused a problem between my husband and his brother cause she was really petty and wouldn’t let him over to our apartment when we lived only a block away. I only mention that becasue that’s what it reminded me of when i read what you said about her. But inviting her may ease some tension between you two and make things easier on your brother.
Post # 7
thanks for the help, im just really bummed. this should be a really happy time, and im letting everything other people do ruin it for me. My brothers girlfriend bought a dress Monday (never tried on dresses) just bought one online, and shes pretty much acting like its a competition. NOT FUN. I dont want to have to worry about what she is doing with hers, but im constantly worried if I am picking the same colors, cake, dress decorations…UGH! She chose the same church me and my fiance chose, and sent me a text message that said “I am sticking to the original plan, and getting married in the chapel I picked out, I hope this wont be a problem.” – she sent it as if I was going to change my plans and not get married there. Well I had already sent my deposit anyway, and I am not going to change my mind about it. Im just embarrassed she is planning her wedding there 6 months before mine. I dont like being a copier and thats exactly what it looks like im doing. *sigh*
Post # 8
@peachbaby4008: The best thing you can do is focus on yourself. No more texts between you and your brother’s girlfriend regarding wedding details — just keep it light if she asks. Chin up. Be happy knowing your wedding will be unique and unlike any other, especially your brother’s. Also, stand firm on the FMIL’s “you’ll see, you’ll love it” thing she pulls. Just reinforce at every turn a polite: “you’re so sweet but really, no thank you.” or have your FI talk with her if she persists. Good luck and hang in there!