- 6 years ago
I’ve already posted asking for opinions on rings, but I can’t help feeling like I’m making this more difficult than it needs to be! I’ve been obsessing over rings for a little less than a month, ever since bf told me that he wants to propose to me. Prior to the beginning of April I’d never even considered what sort of ring I might want. I didn’t know if I wanted a diamond, a gemstone, a princess cut, marquis cut, emerald cut, one stone, three stone, twenty stone. You get my point. All I knew was that I wanted white gold and I wanted something that didn’t stick way up and get caught on everything.
After going and looking at rings for the first time, I was positive I’d found the right one. In fact if it wasn’t the first ring I tried on, it was definitely one of the first three. I tried on probably two dozen that day and still loved this one the most. It was this but with a ceylon sapphire (I like the shape of the diamond one on the top better, and it is the exact setting I tried on, but I included a similar one with a sapphire for reference):
I left the store feeling great that it was so easy. Then showed it to my bf and discovered that we had different budgets in mind, and what I thought was a reasonable price was above what he could afford. I understand that, we’re both still students so money is tight. So I started looking at more rings. And more rings. And still more rings. I showed him probably half a dozen rings I liked that were cheaper, but they all had blue diamonds or sapphires. Then he decided he wanted to get me a ruby. Looked at rubies, didn’t like them. Then, at the very same store I found the first ring, I thought I found a garnet ring I’d be happy with. It looked like this:
I got great reviews of it by the wonderful bees here, but there is one problem with that picture. It makes the ring look more impressive than it is. I feel bad saying it, because I really had convinced myself that it would be ok. But I went with him and we looked at it in person, and I’d forgotten how small the diamonds accents truly were. (It is shown with a separate band in the picture I’ve included, and the fuzziness of the picture makes the diamond on either side of the garnet look bigger than they are.)
So while we were at the store together I showed him the first ring I’d fallen in love with. He agreed with me that it was perfect, but the price was still the inhibiting factor. So we looked at blue diamond rings, but none of them really called to me. Then he pointed out a green diamond ring that I liked a lot. It was similar to this, but the three stones in the middle were about the same size, and the green diamond was a lighter green that I liked better:
It was vaguely similar to the way the first ring I loved would have looked with a band on each side of it, even the sales lady at the store pointed out the similarity by grabbing a couple bands and holding them next to the first ring. The green diamond ring was still out of our price range, but it was much closer and we wouldn’t have the added expense of buying a band because I think it looks complete the way it is.
That was on Saturday, and so now I am feeling very torn. I wish I’d taken a picture of the two rings so I could remember how they looked on my finger, like I did with the garnet ring. I really really like the green diamond ring, but I also really really liked the garnet ring until I went and saw it in person again. I know for a fact that I love the first ring I found, because I keep coming back to that design over and over again when I look at other rings. I’ve been to literally every other jewelry store in the city where I live (small city but there’s still about 9 jewelry stores, plus about 4 department stores), as well as about 4 stores in a neighboring town, and I haven’t found a ring with a setting like the first one.
I am at the point where I am embarassing myself with my obsession over rings. I apologize to my boyfriend every time I want to show him another ring I found that *might* work, because I’ve been doing this all month. He told me to find what I like and he’ll find a way to get it for me, but I feel like I am taking away all of the surprise and not giving him any say at all. I did tell him it is important that he also loves the ring, and so I guess I really am involving him in the process. But I still feel like I am being too pushy and obnoxious about the whole issue.
I’ve managed to find some rings on eBay that are similar to the first ring at a much more affordable price, but I don’t know if I want to trust eBay, and frankly I’m hesitant to show my bf any more rings because I’ve already shown him so many. I think the basic setting is something that I won’t change my mind on, but the center stone is a whole different story. I don’t want a white diamond, I think this setting looks best with a colored stone in it. But do I want a sapphire? A ruby? A green diamond? Blue topaz? Green tourmaline? A blue diamond? If I just go ahead and decide to get that green diamond ring, will I end up regretting it? I’m really at a loss right now.
Here’s some other rings I found that caught my eye, and all of them are under $1000. Not all of them have that setting that I love, so I can’t help wondering if I’d get sick of them, even though I consider them beautiful right now. It’s happened before. But here they are (the stones are green tourmaline, sapphire, sapphire, and blue diamond):