Why am I so scared…? venting

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@EmieBee4:  In the beginning of SO and I’s relationship he use to give me so much gifts just cause. io never aasked him for anything found it hard to accept thigns from him. Years later I just accept it and say thank you, but I think it’s easier now because before I was 16 and a higschool senior and he was 19 first job no bills lol, and now we are both working with bills and I “put in my fair share” now. When SO gave the budget for my ring which wasn’t huge to be totally honest I still thought it was to much lol.. still kinda do., but he said if he could it would be more cause I’m worth that and so much more. He loves that I accept him as he is not expecting anything in return and is the main reason it’s so easy to give. Your guy might just be like that if he cud that ring would cost more. this may not totally help you but I do understand how you feel I just take the thought of the price of the ring off my mind and the fact that you have an amazing guy that really wants to spend the rest of his life with you. I had a panick when So told me he wanted to look at ring things became way more real and I realise we were no where near financially ready…so we wait til we hve our saving build before we are offically engage. Sorry it’s long but good luck enjoy this time and your guy and focus on the great life you two wil build with each other.

 

Post # 4
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

These feelings are normal! As soon as I found out my SO was going to propose soon (but still waiting) I had the same feelings.  Everything is just a little more “real” when you know its actually going to happen!

I started worrying about what my parents were going to think, started worrying about how we are going to pay for a wedding, started worrying about the ring gossip (I have some pretty materialistic wifes-of-friends in my circle) as I know my SO won’t be able to afford anything big (I don’t care but am very insecure and will worry about what others will say), etc! 

Its so silly to have all of these worries, but it is human nature! 

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