Post # 1
I don’t even know if “babies” is the right board to post this but here goes…
I wrote a post a few months ago about not being sure if I wanted kids. For some reason, maybe because we’re married now and I’m 100% settled, I am dying to have a baby. I haven’t talked to anyone about this, not even DH. He’s the type, “If it happens, it happens. I’ll be happy when the time comes”.
I know our time isn’t right now. DH is going to school and will be caught up in that. I’m having a hard time finding a job. My biggest obstacle is losing weight; because I am so over-weight my cycle is totally wack. I will be getting insurance again later this month and will be going over all of my concerns w/ my PCP. My #1 goal for this year is to lose weight, I know pregnancy will never be an option w/out doing so. Plus, it doesn’t help that I feel my clock ticking SO LOUDLY! I thought for sure I’d have at least one child by now and I really would like to have one before turning 30. I am only 26, but DH is 34 and I think that’s another huge concern for me.
I found out tonight a very close family friend is pregnant. I am SO over-the-moon happy for them, truly. But I absolutely broke down. I wish it was us! I feel so stupid that I took the news so hard.
I’m not sure what I’m looking for by writing this post. I just so badly needed to get it out. Can anyone relate?
Post # 3
I hear you loud and clear! I have baby fever so bad. Sometimes I just sit alone and cry because its till 4 years till we plan to TTC. I’m also overweight, so I’m trying to focus on getting super healthy so when we do TTC I will be fit and healthy, ready to have a healthy pregnancy.
Post # 4
My clock isn’t ticking *quite* so loudly… however, I’m currently at that age when EVERYONE around me is getting pregnant. My best friend is pregnant, DH’s cousin is pregnant, a lot of people I’m friends with on facebook are pregnant… it just never ends. My cure is to go out to a restaurant where there are crying babies/children. Turns that clock right off!
We are not TTC, and probably won’t be for at least another year. We haven’t even been married 2 months yet… and I would like to buy a house first… our condo is too small to raise a baby in.
Post # 5
My FSIL just announced she’s prengant again and I’m happy for them, really I am. However, I have some reproductive fears as well as baby fever! Part of it is I know their situation isn’t the best for bringing another child (not that it’s the child’s fault at all), he’s getting ready to deploy for 18 months and they’re living rent free in our in-laws house. ARGH. I hate when I’m jealous especially when my rational self is like “you’re not ready yet!” So I definitely empathize!
Post # 6
I can definitely relate. We have a few things that need to happen before we’re officially ready to TTC (mostly me finding a better job), so even though we’re not trying, it’s on my mind a lot. And the age thing stresses me out too. I’m 30, and we won’t start trying til I’m 31. I know that’s still relatively young, but I want several children, so it feels pretty old to start. Sigh.
Post # 7
I can relate! Everyone around me is having babies and it’s giving me baby fever! I keep having dreams where I’m pregnant and when I got my period a few days ago I was dissapointed. Not that we’re TTC, not at all. But still…I was a little sad.
Post # 8
I know what you mean. I really want a baby too but we aren’t ready. I wouldn’t be worried about age, you have a lot of time and guys don’t have age related problems with having babies like we do.
Post # 9
Don’t worry too much–you guys still have some time! You definitely want to cross your T’s and dot your I’s before you have a baby, so just keep telling yourself how much it’ll be worth it when you KNOW you are ready, both mentally (already there, right?) and everything else =] You got the itch–and you know how the longer you wait to scratch it, the better it feels? haha, look at it that way 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks for not making me feel as crazy, ladies 🙂
I had a weak moment last night, but I am feeling better today. I just keep telling myself, “It will happen when it’s our time, and now isn’t it”.
@beekiss2: I also have a lot of reproductive fears. DH & I have been sexually active for over 7 years, about 5 years w/out protection or some form of BC. I have never gotten pregnant and I just know I’m broken 🙁 This is definitely an issue that will need to be brought up w/ my PCP. Even though DH & I aren’t actively trying I want to make sure we’re both able to…does that make sense?
Well, I guess if I ever want to have kids I really need to stick to my weight loss goals this year! That will keep me plenty busy 🙂
Post # 11
@CaraMia10: Just wanted to pipe in and say that my sister also had a lot of reproductive issues, had unprotected sex with her then boyfriend for years and it was all well and good…until my nephew popped up 🙂 So if you guys aren’t using protection it could be sooner that you think! But I totally relate on the baby fever front–I have had SO many dreams lately where I’m pregnant and then I wake up and I’m not and it’s a bit sad 🙁
Post # 12
@hilsy85: Thank you, it does help to hear things like that 🙂 I’m a big believer in everything happens for a reason- good, bad or indifferent; that if it’s meant to be it will be.
Post # 13
MY brother’s friend was only telling me a couple weeks back that his wife had been told at twenty she’d prob never have a child by her docs. I didn’t ask for specifics. She’s 35 now, I think, and they have an 18 month old. Out of the blue.
And if your weight is an issue, it can be a very big issue, so to speak. I have worries in that respect myself, and we’re really starting TTC in May, so I know the doc is gonna be on my case to shrink my ass this Spring…
Chin up, chick, you’ll be fine!
Post # 14
oh my, Im going to jump right on that train with you.
My FI and I are not getting married for a few months but I am so ready to TTC.
My FSIL and my sister literally just had babies a few weeks ago. I feel like everyone in our families has a new baby but us :/
We just spent the weekend with my sister and her baby is 3 weeks old. She was so adorable. My FI and I held her a lot, it just felt… I dunno natural?
My FI looked at me at one point while holding her and whispered “how awesome is this going to be, to hold a little one thats half of me and half of you.” He then proceeded to stick his finger out so she could grab onto it.
Man I want a family so bad.
Post # 15
YES!!!! ugh but we are TTC and i also need to lose weight because i think that is the problem so far.. this is 5 months.. well im in the TWW 🙁 but my FSIL has a 4 month old baby and 2 other kids that i love to death! and the baby loves me… im one of the few people he will let hold him. and i just get so depressed and break down after seeing my nieces and nephews, to the point where DH is like we need to see them less until we are expecting. I dont think its fair to them because they love my husband and me but i jsut get so sad. She isn’t set financially she doesn’t even have a job she hasnt since she had her first one who is going to be 5 years old… and they are both on WIC and welfare. UGH just makes me so mad because me and DH have been working for years now and have the income and house to provide for a baby.. and its so hard!
Post # 16
I am sitting here about to have a mini meltdown because I just did some calculations and if we conceived in the next few days (I’m in my golden week), we would have a little one a few weeks before Halloween. This past Halloween I loved looking at all the newborn costumes. I just love the idea of them.
But sigh—FI and I aren’t getting married for a few more months and I think if I brought this up to him he would think I’m baby obsessed or something.
(Honestly, he might be right)