Post # 1
Full disclosure, I should’ve had an unplugged wedding and I didn’t. I’m a fairly private person, so much so that I never announced my engagement on FB and never posted a wedding album or anything like that. I haven’t even changed my last name on FB because I don’t care for people to know what it is. Yet, this one friend of mine keeps asking me when she’s going to be allowed to post my wedding photos and did so very publicly yesterday. I told her that she can post any pictures that don’t include me. She’s free to post pics of her and her date having a blast and doing the wobble or whatever. But honestly. If I…as the BRIDE…haven’t posted any of my own wedding pics, why do other people feel the need to? Like, what do your FB friends (who don’t even know me) care to see my cake, decor, and aisle runner? It seems like some people feel like if they don’t post it on social media, then it didn’t really happen. Anybody feel me?
Post # 2
Absolutely. My daughter’s both had unplugged weddings. Their photography contracts even included a clause about other people taking photos, when the professionals were working. I swear by looking at some of the photos people post on F/B, they’re trying to catch and publish embarassing situations.
Post # 3
Overjoyed: I am that one person that loves to see wedding photos on facebook! They are my favorite pics to look at! I think it is nice to see different weddings in a real setting. I never even considered that some brides might find it rude/annoying to share photos of their wedding on facebook.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t post someone’s photos if they seemed opposed to it, but I love seeing other people’s wedding on facebook and instagram. Esp if there is an instagram hashtag for the event so you can click it and see all of the photos from you and all the other guests.
For my friends that have gotten married they always wanted them posted or hashtagged so they could see their wedding from the guest’s point of view because they were so busy on the wedding day that couldn’t take in all the details
Post # 5
This is a legitimate question, why have FB if you’re so private you don’t want people knowing your last name? Seems that would alleviate the issue of people posting things.
Post # 6
I feel both ways. Despite all reason, I often feel that I need to post a check-in or a picture to validate that something happened in my life…kind of like a living scapbook.
I also HATE when people post amateur FB pictures of weddings. I say if the bride or groom wants pics they’ll ask you (guest) to post them or they will post some amateurs themselves otherwise I’d assume they would like to remember their happy day through the happy lens of a professional photographer.
Post # 7
Yeah, who are you friends with that don’t know your name changed?? If privacy is such an issue just don’t have one?
Post # 8
Overjoyed: I know how you feel. Neither my husband or I have ever been on FB, but apparently there are dozens of our wedding photos posted there. I barely have any of my own.
Post # 9
I think people like to share how much fun they’ve had, so that they can prove it really happened? I don’t know, I find it strange as well. I guess try and see it as a compliment that they think your wedding is going to get them lots of facebook likes? Must mean that they think it was a good wedding.
I think you should just be honest. But it probably would have solved the problem to have an ‘unplugged’ wedding!
Post # 10
I think most people assume that if they are invited, the bride and groom knows that people are going to take pictures. They like sharing such a fun and touching event! Personally for me, I encouraged people to take photos because the day went by so fast and I wanted to see what things looked like from my guests point of view. It made me happy to see that my guests enjoyed themselves and was there for us on our big day.
Quick question though, why have a facebook if you don’t want people to know about your big life changes like getting married or something?
Post # 11
Because in most cases the bride and groom are thrilled to see their special memories shared with others.
Post # 12
People like to post to share with the bride and groom, to show people the amazing time they had, show people how beautiful they thought your wedding was, etc.
I personally am one of those people who love looking at wedding pictures people post. I love seeing how happy everyone was, the cute ring bearer and flower girl, the gorgeous bride, I like seeing the couple’s personality shine through in all the details of their wedding and just being happy for them.
I personally am specifically asking people to take pictures and post them so I can see the things I missed
Post # 13
There are always people who couldn’t make it or people who like you but aren’t close enough friends to get an invite. They like to see how it all went down. Every bride I know has been really excited to see pics up the next day bc there’s always going to be a wait for the pro pics to show up.
Post # 14
A wedding is a party. I think I have every right in the world to take pics and put them wherever I want as I would no matter what. These are my memories. I probably like you and have some sort of relationship with you to be at your wedding and I would like to have these memories. I probably also have mutual friends that are also at this party and I want pics of us having fun, sorry.
I can understand unplugged ceremony, but a unplugged wedding, hell no. You can’t tell people they aren’t allowed to take pics at a party. That’s crazy zilla territory.
I’m glad you have your photog there, but I won’t have mine and I most likely will never see the pro pics unless you’re my bff and I make you.
You also have no say what anyone posts on FB, you can ask them not to and I can’t believe your friends wouldn’t oblinge to your request, but it’s not something that’s expected in this day and age. I mean don’t want to be on the internet, crawl under a rock and stay there.
Post # 15
Overjoyed: I feel you. In the past, I’ve just privately e-mailed any photos I’ve taken at a friend’s wedding to the said friend and they can do what they wish with them. It’s their event to share and publicize if they wish. It’s just common courtesy to me and I know that other people don’t feel the same way. I may use a photo of myself from the event as a profile pic without specifically stating where it was taken but that’s about it. I know that I had a great time and I don’t need to prove it on social media.